So I love my gf a hell of a lot. But in the last year shes gained 70lbs. She's a crazy binge eater. Last night she came home with $25 worth of Little Cesar's. Yes. 5 pizzas. 8800 calories. She sat down and watched Cops for 2 hours, and they were gone. She gets super defensive when I try to stop her and she does it a lot. She hates her job and her family and can't make use of her degree. What would /adv/ do before her stomach bursts?
Pic related: a "before" picture from the last time she tried to lose weight.
>What would /adv/ do before her stomach bursts?
You tell her how you feel, since she can't be defencive about that.
>Babe, I love you hell of a lot, but if you continue to develop into a landwale I might lose sexual interest and sooner or later I might satisfy it somewhere else.
You should also start to work on her real problems. Do you need to stay in contact with her family? Why does she hate them? Maybe she should get another job?
Is this real?
Have a genuine sitdown and tell her she's killing her health and it's about as harmful as a drug addiction. Don't do it when she is just about to devour 5 pizza's, find a neutral moment. Of course keep a healthy diet together if the message settles.... if not, go look for a better girlfriend.
here OP, I've drawn a picture of you and your girlfriend in a marine setting
You can keep worrying about hurting her feelings and her being mad at you, just realize that the cost of that is something like 4 times the necessary funds for food, huge medical bills in a couple decades, she'll die young enough to be considered young but with you old enough to not have another spouse, and of course the death of your personal reputation.
If you care about her, sit her down and tell her she has to do something about her health immediately or you'll leave her. This can't be an empty threat. She is damaging your life as well as her own and if she doesn't even care about you enough to try then why should you? You can help her with whatever it takes but you know you just want to have the girl that you fell in love with back. If you still care about her help her, but don't care for her if she doesn't for you or herself.
I wonder how weight became such a touchy subject in the first place but that's another discussion. 70 lbs in a year, is that a guess or even she knows? If she knows she gained that much I'm not sure what you can do. I agree with the other anon, don't do it while she just got a meal. You can't force her to change but maybe try and do shit like exercise together, or cook better food.
This is true. I really haven't approached it at a neutral moment. I think because I don't want to break the peace we do get.
She's actually not in terrible health. Her blood pressure and cholesterol are somehow fine, her doctor just hounded her about her weight gain. Actually the thing I worry about most is her stomach itself. I read that you can eat so much your stomach's peristalsis stops and you cant digest food. Sometimes she eats more in one sitting than a lot of competitive eaters can. There was one day a few months ago I figured out she ate at least 19lbs of food in one sitting. Not counting the beer she was drinking too. And then shes just a zombie. She says it doesn't hurt and always says she could eat more. Idk. Spelling all this out makes it seem pretty fucking bad.
This is literally like some sort of freakshow. It's disgusting and questionable, yet I can't stop reading. In fact I think in real life I would cheer her on when she eats, trying to get even more in this deformed belly.
op, people who eat the way she does have an addiction which is usually caused by an outside source. The same way that mothers drink to forget that baby that they lost or the way that men smoke because their job is awful and stresses them out.
Does you girlfriend have a broken past? Any abuse as a child? Or maybe she has a very negetive body image so she binges and loses control after seeing what she's become?
I guess what I'm trying to say is that the first- AND MOST IMPORTANT step here is to address her mental wellbeing. You can't lose weight if you're not in the right mindset.
Tell her that you're worried about her mental and physical health and that, if she's willing, you'd love to accompany her to a therapy session to see if it helps with anything.
Once shw gets in the habit of going to therapy, she'll be ready for step #2- focusing on health.
Instead of trying to control how much she eats, try to have her make healthier choices. Instead of 5 pizzas- why not a bunch of fruit, a salad, and a sandwich?
It's still a lot of food, but it's less calories. Obviously if she's having a craving she can satisfy it- but that mean like if she's craving chocolate, she gets ONE little square to get the taste and move on. During step 2 it is crucial to get all the junk food out of the house, so you're gonna be eating healthier too OP.
Then, we have step 3- controlling portion sizes. If you've done steps 1 and 2 well, then step 3 will come naturally and easily.
Unless you want her to develop an eating disorder, don't pressure her to lose weight solely for looks. That could make her condition worse because if she thinks "anon thinks I'm ugly" she'll just eat MORE to soothe the pain that brings.