I'm 19, been seeing my girlfriend for a month and a half now, was a virgin before her( guess I still kind of am) tried having sex a couple of times like a week in with a condom but I just flopped after , but thought it was just the condom. Now tried it without one and couldn't stay hard, I lose it very fast when I go on top, I put the tip in like twice in and out when I was on top but then just flopped. What's wrong with me? I lose my hard on within like a few seconds if there's no stimulation so I lose it before she even puts it in when she's on top too , so do I need to go to the doctor?
Yeah don't fap but are you stressed? Nervous? I get stage fright when I'm with a new girl so maybe you're just freaked out.
My first girlfriend was super nice and would put on the condom for me. Was sexy and stress free.
Try not being on top. It's proven that increased blood flow in that position is bad for keeping an erection.
Let her be top, and keep the room temperature a little bit cold. Child will help keep the blood vessels constricted, and keep your erection up.
This worked for me, only took like week or two to recover from my PIED however took more than few months to regain enough sensitivity to maintain the erection long enough to reach orgasm from sex. I mean I could literally go for an hour with 50-70% erection but just couldn't get enough stimulus to reach orgasm sometimes not even from a long hand job.
It may sound fun but it really isn't, you'll get a lot less pleasure from sex and it can be really hard for the girls you're having sex with since they'll start thinking that they're to blame because they can't compete with the stimulus you get from flapping to hardcore pornography.
Even if she's on top it takes her a while to like position my dick , it's quite fat so I think she's a bit scared that it's gonna hurt but by that time it's already gone down a bit from being really hard so it's like bendy and she can't sit down on it properly
I haven't watched porn in like 3 months, and fapped twice throughout that period without porn.
Maybe I am a bit nervous, but surely that's normal and shouldn't affect me so much for this long
Also, my pee hole seems kinda partially blocked , when I urinate it comes out in a skinny stream and it feels weird and sometimes comes out in two streams and stuff and I get weird bladder sensations when I'm lifting at the gym , it's been like that for a couple years now, could that be anything to do with my problem?
been there, done that when I was around 17 and 18. Don't beat your meat or watch porn for a week. Then you'll be cured, honestly. And don't beat yourself up for it, cause then you won't get hard cause you'll be nervous.
Good luck, OP! And remember, it's just sex, you can have it as many times as you want and it's not a big deal at all, enjoy young humping my man.
I've considered this, but it just seems stupid for a 19 year old and its really expensive too
I haven't watched porn or beat my meat for like 3 months so it can't be that
Same thing happens to me I can get rock hard usually but during sex and stuff like that it's fucking hard. I lose my boners quick can't get fully hard in always trying not to cum if I am hard. I have a new gf I'm really attracted to and when we tucked I was so nervous I could barely keep a boner.
What do I do
quit watching porn and dont jerk off for a month. You will want to fuck a frozen yogurt dallop after three weeks because it resembles a boob. Also keep your cholestoral down and make sure your cardio and blood pressure are healthy.
I haven't watched porn for the last 3 months, jerked off twice in these 3 months too, doesn't help because she will just jerk me off or give me a blowjob so I dont feel any hornier
first step is to decrease frequency of masturbation. you could stop altogether if you'd like. high frequency of masturbation is going to decrease your sex drive and desensitize your penis. those two factors are pretty important when it comes to maintaining an erection.
condoms suck but that isn't the reason for ED. if you've stopped masturbation and you're feeling horny/excited about sex but you're still losing your erection then perhaps your nerves are the issue. if you're new to sex and you're putting a lot of pressure on yourself to perform then that nervous/anxious feeling of wanting to impress your partner is going to weigh heavy on you and kill your mood. you need to be able to relax during sex and just have fun, not feel like you're on a porn set with others judging you. your partner is there with you because she/he wants to be there, there's no need to feel so pressured about it all. if you're new to sex especially then you're going to be a bit shit at it. practice, practice, practice.
Sorry for the really long post but it's helpful I promise
Ok dude I know where you're coming from. I was really tired today and it felt like my dick was numb and I was resting my eyes and relaxing and all of a sudden I started getting half hard thinking of my girlfriend
Make sure your head is clear and you're well rested. I've always kinda had this problem though I don't know what to do I had one gf I was so attracted to I couldn't look at porn anymore I just jacked off to her tits and nude pics, yet wen we had sex I couldn't keep an erection. She always had to jerk my dick off to get me hard again when we switched positions.
It's always been like this but when I masturbated to her I edged so hard my boner literally wouldn't go away and I had pre cum coming out and shit by when we fucked my boner kept going away
For its cause by fatigue( I have chronic fatigue), stress, performance anxiety, nerves, and probably some form of psychological damage from my awful parents.
Have you been completely unable to have sex or did you finish and just worried about staying hard? Me and my current gf had sex one time and I kept going hard soft hard soft and I had trouble penetrating but once I got in there I was mostly hard I'd say like 80 percent and I got scared of losing my wood so I just fucked her really hard and made myself cum while I could
Part of the reason was we kinda rushed into sex after only hanging out 10 minutes and I snuck over and was worried about her parents coming home and she never jerked me off before sex. I got some of her pussy juice on my dick and jacked off with that until I got hard and I just lifted up her leg and tried lunging it in there as fast as I could and I fucked her with a half boner until it got hard and then it kept going from 50% to 80 then back to 50
Thanks for your help mate. To answer your question yeah I was completely unable the few times we tried which is getting more and more frustrating not being able to fuck her properly when she wants me to. Like I literally lose a boner within seconds without any kind of stimulation so it just gets too soft before she can put it in
Yeah thank you ill give it some more time and if its the same I think I will finally see a doctor. I'm just hoping she doesn't run away before that time haha