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>Do girls/guys like <insert specific look>?
Some do, some don't. Our answers are not going to help you.
>I'm shy and afraid of people/rejection. What do I do?
Think positive, and get over it by practising and exposing yourself to it.
>I like someone. What do I do?
Ask them out.
>How can I tell if someone likes me?
Ask them out.
>Where do I meet girls/guys?
Anywhere outside. Or online.
>Is my body part big/small enough?
>Am I short/tall enough?
>Someone did something insignificant. What does it mean?
Nothing significant. Stop overthinking it.
Alternative answer: we don't fucking know.
>XYZ happened. Did I fuck it up with this guy/girl?
Maybe, maybe not. We're not in their head, we don't know. No amount of your walls of text will fix that.
>This person did something that hurt my feelings. Why do guys/girls do this?
Because shit people are shit people. It's not a gendered thing
>Would you date a virgin?
As long as they aren't insecure about it. Complexes are a total turn-off.
>Someone has made it abundantly clear they're no longer interested in me. Do I still have a chance?
>Where do I go on a first (or subsequent) date?
Pick one or more of the following: coffee, lunch, dinner, drinks, ice cream, movies, zoo, aquarium, museum, art gallery, <activity in your city>
>That one guy who keeps asking about cuddling in platonic friendships
No one wants to cuddle you. Stop asking
>Brandon and frog posters
Why not ask her what she's listening to? Talk about what music she likes?
Did you two previously have some sort of relationship in which her proof reading your work was an appropriate thing to ask, or did you just randomly ask someone you'd never met before? Because that's kinda crazy.
My fwb says she doesn't get much out of penetration sex. I have an average size dick like 6.5", and I don't think I'm terrible in bed. But* 9 times out of 10 when we have sex she smokes a bowl first, idk why, I've asked her about it and she says it makes sex better? Is it possible that the reason she can't get off from penetration because she's stoned all the time? I mean for me, I can't get off when I'm stoned or drunk easily at all. I know it's different for everybody but could being stoned make it more difficult for a girl to orgasm?
Girls: How would you take it if a guy you were friends with for a decent period of time (about a year) got / made you a birthday gift?
This girl is one of the most genuine people I've ever met and I really want to foster a good friendship with her. She's in a relationship though and I don't want it to be seen as anything other than a gift from a friend who cares about her
She freaked out because that's a horrible way to try and meet someone. They're in a LIBRARY. With HEADPHONES in. AKA do not disturb them. Doesn't matter if it's a guy or girl, they are there for a reason. Try on a bus if your campus has them or get to class early and strike up a convo with a girl before class starts.
None of my friends really buy each other gifts aside from gag gifts like a toilet seat or something stupid just to fuck with them. It's kind of new territory for me to actually give someone a gift out of genuine appreciation. >>16865201
I hope she will too
I cheated on my ex about a year ago (scum move I already know), and she recently texted me saying that she wants to be friends and that she misses me.. I told her that I don't want to talk again since she has a boyfriend but she said "lets go with the flow". We've now been in contact for two weeks, and she gets really flirtatious sometimes and other times mentions how shes such a great friend. What is she playing at?
He thinks you're cheating
He's tired of being in a LDR
He's going through shit IRL and doesn't want to concern you with it
He's stressed out about work
He's extremely busy with something IRL that's totally irrelevant to you, but he doesn't have time for being in contact with you constantly
He's not really doing anything differently and you're just actually acting anxious and crazy
There's like a million reasons. You're probably getting worked up over nothing.
I was just looking for some hints. We are going to talk on the phone later, but it's still a while till then... He just texted me that he's going out and call me later. But i know that i will prob be asleep at that time already.
OK, new question
Should I tell my school I have autism?
My old teacher thinks I have autism, my family and anyone online thinks I have it
I am at college so, it's good for extra exam time and stuff.
If you get diagnosed with it and feel you need extra exam time then I guess but don't expect that to approve your chances with women. You could just be very awkward and not autistic.
I was in an LDR for a while and the kind of anxieties you're feeling are normal. How long have you two been together? Lapses in communication are very common and aren't indicative of much. It's draining to keep up a constant communication stream, and sometimes you just need a day or two or 10 away from your partner.
We're together now IRL.
Trim relatively short, not bare. In my experiences girls usually find it weird if you're totally bare. Unless you're gay and going for some twink type of thing, don't shave everything
I used to go to hospital as a kid because I didn't like pooping
I know I might have it but I could also be one of those people who want the accolade for attention but how do I tell the difference?
Whoa WHAT? no communication for 10 days? I would die on the spot.
We can only text. And only between 5 and 10 pm. And he also needs to go to the gym, eat dinner, study and socialize in that time. We usually text 3-5 messages each day.
But that really gave me hope. We are dating since 4 months. And everything is so perfect, i'm scared that this can't go on like that for much longer. It's almost eerily perfect. Kind of like the silence before the storm. I feel like i'm just waiting for shit to hit the fan. I know i'm behaving stupid but it's like neing on a train with no brakes.
Do you think he just needs some air to breath? And exactly then i get all clingy and need to feel connected?
I went out to see a movie with this girl a while back. We had fun, but not much came of it and she quickly left. Took it as a hint that she's not interested and stopped putting in as much effort. She hit me up maybe once a week before and a bit more after, and that's about it.
Then she went on a holiday trip shortly after and decided to keep in touch daily, eager to ask and tell about what we were doing.
After she returned we bumped into each other a few more times. She's always eager to see me and always lingers as much as she can. She even convinced me to ditch a class just to spend more time together. She hits me up continuously, and she's okay with any flirting I do.
So I asked her out again for an upcoming festival. And she shot me down because she has to go to work early next morning.
A bit later that day I offered to check out this diner I'd been hearing good things about. And she shot me down because she had to take care of a family member.
And nothing changed. She's still eager to talk, flirt, touch and generally be around me. I don't get it. Should I just leave the ball in her court now and see if she makes anything of it? What else do I do?
Yeah. It happened to us a couple times where he would need a day or two to just do his own thing and I'd get all freaked out about it. As time went on we kind of came to an understanding that there'd be pauses in communication. I've had times where IRL is pushing me to the edge, and having to sit down at the end of the day and TALK instead of just unwinding playing a video game or watching some movies or something sounded abysmal.
However, the context and parameters of everyone's relationship is different, and it's not always easy to apply one person's experience to your own. I can't say 'it will all be ok', because I don't know that for sure, but I think freaking out is premature and could just make things worse.
>have guy friend i get along with really well
>i'm sorta attracted to him
>pretty sure he wants to date me
>i've told him i'm not interested in dating anyone rn
>i tried kissing him once and it felt wrong and gross and i never did it again
>but when we watch netflix i lean my head on his shoulder and it feels nice
Why? I really wish i could date him but kissing him felt uncomfortable. I'm not lesbian but I guess I'm bisexual. Not sure what to do.
Girls: if you've been exchanging messages with a guy, both clearly interested, and already making arrangements to meet, what could suddenly make you stop replying out of the blue?
If you started dating someone, or are no longer interested, it would be nice if you could at least tell us that. Sudden silence just leaves us wondering if we did something wrong. Especially when we were getting along great and were planning to meet.
I think he's average 6/10. I think i'm a bit sexually attracted because i feel a little of a thrill when we're lying super close on the couch. Just not when i kissed him.
I think I'm also subconsciously bitter/vain that hes not better looking? Because i am considered pretty attractive and have been with guys who were way better looking
I mean, thats true. I just dont get along super well with a lot of people but I get along wih him and actually enjoy his company, so it makes me sad. You find a lot of good looking guys like to party and go out while i dont like parties, and a lot of them are a bit boring, so... But I still want the good looking bf...i think i'll just wait and keep doing what I do, then. I dont want to be desperate
She's farming you for attention, and perhaps casual sex. I have an ex doing the same thing (sending me photos of her new haircut, asking what I'm doing at 10pm at night, etc). Most women put male players to shame without even trying... they always have a backup dick, and a backup for the backup dick.
I want to break up with my girlfriend but I don't know if I have a good reason. Can anyone chime in, particularly women?
I'm 25, I wanted to start a relationship and have it graduate into marriage. I didn't want to peruse the dating scene, I wanted to settle before I'm 30.
I chatted with this girl on OkCupid, we met up, and there was a connection. We've been together seven months. Over time I'm realizing this isn't someone I want to spend the rest of my life with and don't want to lead her on.
Is it wrong of me to want to break up solely because she isn't someone I want to marry? While I'm with her, I could potentially be building a relationship with someone who better fits my vision of a future wife. Is it selfish?
My girlfriend is very handsy, lustful, etc, this isn't a quality I appreciate. Sure, in the honeymoon phase things were great, but it seems like I'm leaving the honeymoon phase and want things to serious up a bit, but she doesn't. It isn't womanly if I'm to be frank. Plus she's kind of lazy (doesn't want a job, doesn't want to do anything). It seems like whenever we're together, we're either sleeping or fucking or eating or watching TV. My life is boring because I don't have a companion to do interesting things with.
I want to amicably break up but there isn't a real reason other than "I want to date someone else". There's nothing she has done, no incident that's prompting a breakup. No infidelity or anything. I just don't see myself with her much longer and think it's better to break up now than later.
>fetishes that get me going
Fishnets, stockings, kneehigh socks
>fetishes that get me rock hard
Facesitting, woman takes control
>fetishes that get me diamond hard
Being pissed on, esp. during facesitting
Which of these are acceptable fetishes? I've ranked them by "weirdness" if that makes sense. By acceptable I mean by suggesting it I won't be seen as a freak.
is it safe to say im ugly as shit if im 23 and finishing college and never even been on a date in my life and women dont even speak to me?
Im not fat, since i know a lot of people have that problem, i use to be super skinny. Ive been working out 4-6x a week for over 2 years. So i am trying on that front.
im male and from usa.
Just asking because its really depressing and its just really upsetting because its not something i can control.
if anyone has any tips for not being depressed, id love some.
How can you tell the difference between disinterest and spaghetti?
I really don't know whether to drop this girl because she shoots me down when I ask her out, or keep pursuing because her excuses make sense and she clings to me very heavily with interest (even when I don't do anything)
If you want to break up, just do it. If you need some canned explanation, just tell her "I think we're looking for different things in life". She'll be over you in a week.
I'd suggest getting her alone and go in for a kiss. I'd say there's a strong chance that she's just using you as an orbiter. Going in for a kiss will reveal the truth one way or the other.
I think "I don't see a future in our relationship and I'm not interested in continuing to date you" is a perfectly valid reason to break up. Staying with her at this point isn't fair to either of you.
I know what you mean. I had a girl who was kind, loving, smart, and good looking but she didn't deepthroat very well so I dumped her. I can find other girls who can suppress their gag reflex, so why would I waste my time with a girl who won't let me pummel the back of her throat raw?
How do tall girls feel about dating shorter or similarly tall men?
I'm just under 6ft tall (181cm) and I love girls around 5'11-6'1 but I feel inferior to them/I'm being looked down on (literally or otherwise)
I only ever see girls of these heights with supertall Chads
I have been talking to a female coworker a lot since we've met, just over a month. We recently finally exchanged numbers. She always texts me back nearly instantly and we can text back and forth for hours but she is never the one to initiate the conversation.
Should I be concerned I'm pestering her?
A lot of the time, I want to tackle my bf, make out with him; rip his clothes off; give him a blow job; fuck him. You know, that sort of thing. I very much want to have sex, badly, like every day. I want to be allowed to be enthusiastic about it too. I WANT him so much. He... doesn't seem to feel the same. He's always too tired, or he has a headache, or he wants to watch sports, or play video games. It doesn't feel like he wants me, and I want him to feel even remotely like I do. The times we do have sex are emotionless, like he's not into it and he's just trying to make me happy and get it over with.
This is really weighing on me. I know he loves me, but there's an element to the relationship I'm needing and missing.
Is there any way to light a fire in him, or is this just how it is?
My girlfriend has a vagina with a "speedbump" texture. My previous girlfriend has one with a "wonder wave" texture. I think the speedbump feels betters.
Any older men in this thread? If so...
I was told that when you gentlemen flirt, older men (40+) are really quiet and careful with their actions. I know that he has to be careful, seeing as how he's in an authoritative position and could lose his job if he attempts to bring on a relationship.
> Calls me Honey, Sweetie and accidently called me Love once. (under his breath, I still heard it - his boss was nearby)
> Touches me. Last week when he was turning around to back out of a drive-way, he put his hand on my knee and kept it there while today when we were chatting at a table, he reached under the desk to grab my knee.
> I accidently called him "Baby" when he called my name. I rushed up to apologize because I didn't want him to get in trouble for the pet name. He said that "It's OK honey, call me whatever you'd like." and smiled.
> Said I could text him whenever I wanted to, but hates the typing BS on his little phone - never replied or called though.
anyone help me with this?
ugh my family is mostly short guys and girls, but the tall girls i know understand they are taller than men and wont judge too harshly if you are slightly shorter. Sure some who are 6' demand 6'5 man, but most know that statistically is not good odds. Some women are even insecure about it.
40ish hours. I can't think of anything else that would be stressing him out; what was stressing him out for a while is over now. Idk why he's so tired... he has a shit sleep schedule due to the video games and sports and stuff, so I guess that makes him tired all day.
Let's say you're seeing this girl, but you're not feeling it and call it off. She asks why, but you're certain if you told her the reasons she turns you off would offend her.
Do you think it's worth being honest in these situations or if you should avoid the topic.
>talking to girl
>ask her what classes she has left today
>foreign language and a pastry class
>after a shortish pause I said, "Oh we should get coffee and pastries sometime"
>she didn't really respond immediately but said yeah and was smiling when I turned to look at her
>had to go different directions after that
>she asked if she'll see me Thursday (our next class day together)
Based on what's above, did I fuck anything up?
I kinda was like that with my GF for a period: After the honeymoon phase was over, before I realized that the relationship was maturing. Basically, I thought I was growing tired of her, and it felt harder for me to remain interesting to her.
She broke the downward spiral by dressing up for me and really taking charge. Seeing her take charge and crave my cock like that renewed the spark.
And yes, we're still happily together 4 years later.
The stuff I had in mind is less a matter of improvement and more of fundamentally different life views.
I don't just have one woman in mind either. A decent example is casual drug use. I'm indifferent if they just smoke weed on the weekends, but a lot of other college kids seem to build their lives around just getting high and I have no interest in that.
I was hoping it'd get better, not worse over time, because starting out, even in the honeymoon phase, our sex life wasn't particularly good. It's not like we went from fucking like rabbits to nothing... it's like we went from bi-weekly sex to never. I do dress up for him a lot and try to take charge. It seems like me trying to push harder just makes him want it less. When I go through a bunch of effort it's like he grudgingly has a modicum of sex.
The more I type about this the worse it sounds... he's really great in like every other way and I do love him.
Women. When will you stop the mind-games and be honest and upfront with your desires and others like normal adults?
>I know the answer, never. Cause estrogen and entitlement.
Fuck this thread and fuck you. Only men should give advice to other men. Women should go squablle about jake gyllenhall somewhere and lie to their SO's about sucking black cock in a club bathroom
Sounds to me that his libido isn't that high. How's his self image? What does he do for a living? Does he seem exhausted, or do you think that's just an excuse? Does he still have time to himself now and then?
Many factors play a role here, some of which can't be helped.
Might be relevant, but my GFs libido increased exponentially when she started working out, maybe that'd work for your guy too.
I don't know how his self-image is. He definitely never complains about himself. He works in IT. He does seem pretty tired; he naps a few hours every day after work.
He doesn't have a lot of time to himself though, and that may be part of it... he's a private/introverted person, and we live together in a tiny place... maybe that has something to do with it! We're looking at bigger places where we can both have our own private areas. Maybe that will help.
And... as for working out, I'm going to start going to the gym soon myself. Maybe I can get him to come with. Working out raises testosterone too, right?
I'm not sure if it's because that's how he is, or because how I play back. He used to be very stand-off-ish until I started flirting with him. I'm not saying that his actions are appropriate, seeing as how he is in authority.. But.. I can't put all blame on him.
Been close with this girl for a couple of months now as rather close friends, but i've liked for a while. I've tried to become more distant and then try to finesse her but i don't really know what to do. She's always interested in who i'm talking to relationship-wise as well and lately i've just been dodging all of her questions. What should I do?
Kissing is how our bodies determine biologically whether someone is a good match for us. Try it a couple times and if it never feels right, then it's probably not going to work. Don't lead him on, though.
In terms of outgoing/charismatic, I'd pick...
Robert Downey Jr.
Neil Patrick Harris
People who can laugh at themselves and be weird openly, I guess.
Is going out for coffee/something to drink appropriate when you already see and talk to each other all day (almost) every day?
It feels a little redundant, honestly. Especially since most of that time we already spend talking is one-on-one, face-to-face.
So when they say "just be yourself and don't care what people think" it's true as cliche as it sounds. So when you are interested /intrigued by a guy at first impression, he's usually pretty odd?
You just have to work a but harder. Sorry but it's true for everyone. Acne is a turn off it hints towards youth and teenagerdom. But if you can be out going and just not care about it/ self conscious about it you're golden.
How do I make my gf have an orgasm?
I know everyone is different, but she has never had an orgasm in her life, and she says that the closest she has gotten is when she gets eaten out, but she told me that she gets to a "maximum point" and then never seems to fully climax, well that's what she told me about her past sexual relationships.
When we have sex, she says her face, hands, and every part of her body gets numb, and that has never happened to her before me(she thinks its because I have a big dick), does this have anything to do with it?.
You don't, it's not just the sociopaths who get the girls. The sociopaths just give off the illusion of a confident person. You want to become a confident self sufficient person. The more goals you achieve the more confident you become, the more money you have the easier it is to take a girl to a fancy dinner.
Become a confident comfortable person who can provide for a woman. You have to put your worth in the table right off the bat, what can you give her? Security, safety, laughs etc.
Another thing you really need to understand, yes, it is cliche: you can't put relationships on such a high pedistal, I get you're lonely we all get lonely you want to get laid, we all do. But you just have to dumb down your expectations and your desire for it, and your love of her. She's probably a great human being whatever girl you meet, but she's exactly that , a human being.
It just seems to me like it'd be easier to just not care about other people and treat them poorly. Which i also I feel like is something that somehow comes off as attractive
Well what kind of life is that? Treating people poorly, judging by the way you talk you're PROBABLY not like that. So why be that fling with a girl that's inevitable to wash away. Nice guys don't finish last, pushovers finish last. Nice guy is often synonymous with pushover/desperate clingy and creepy
While getting laid is nice I am thinking more long term, like I really don't need to suddenly realize I am old and should have put myself down behind the woodshed when I hit 25.
And if I can't be confident because I have no reason to be and I have never learned how, it seems like becoming duplicitous, sadistic, and conniving is the answer...
I also have learned that nice guys don't even place, so anything has to be better than being one of them. And I highly doubt I look like a pushover/desperate/etc, it's more like I am invisible. If I had no corporeal presence people would walk through me
Honestly ask yourself a few questions
-are you a nice guy? Or oddly attached and desperate
-how developed are you as a person?
-what do you have to bring to a relationship? Can you bring the fundamental things that women want? Security, and affection?
I don't want to be rude but I'm going to assume you don't have a solid flow of income and you don't have much achievements you're very proud of. May e try working on that. And hey if you do have those things, then realize those are your weapons be happy smile man.
Okay so it sounds like your invisibility is the problem. You have to stand out, but there's numerous ways to do that aside from being a jerk. Girls LOVE ambitious men. And I think you'll come to find the more.ambitious you are for something meaningful in life the more women will be attracted to you, the more you'll stand out and the less you'll put all of that stuff on a pedistal. It's a win/win/win/win/win situation
Desperate? Probably, yes. Is it evident? No. I am a nice guy, and I hate it. I think it's one of the biggest flaws in my character and I resent my parents for not teaching me that the world will either ignore you or destroy you if you are a kind person.
Define developed? I'm 24 and work in healthcare consulting. I wouldn't consider myself childish if that is what you mean. And I do make good money.
This last one is a loaded question because no matter what I say it will come off as creepy. But yes. I guess I want to be like my father and grandfather and be loving and affectionate and responsible and a "Family man" as lame as that sounds, all that shit
Ambitious = money?
And how on earth do I stand out? I'm like the most average guy ever.
I am this Anon.
With the knowledge that the kind Anons provided, when would be a good time to make a move? By this I mean, telling him that I find him attractive, and see how he feels.... Is it too soon? I've known him for a few months but like I said, he was very stand off-ish at first and it's only been recently when he's warmed up to me.
Late but I feel I'm also like this with my ldr girlfriend. I'm too busy to talk to her and sometimes we talk so much she drains all my energy and I have nothing to say, she exhausts all my subjects of conversation until all I can talk about is her.
A question for women.
I'm a sailor, I left home about 6 months ago and will be finally heading home in another month. Before I left I had a girl I had been dating for two years. I planned on marrying her. She said she could handle the distance but she lied, started sleeping around and told me she just couldn't handle being lonely. "You know the feeling so why would you wish it on me" was an exact quote. So now that I'm coming home I'm afraid I won't be able to find anyone again. With my career the way it is, I can't imagine there's anyone who would actually want to get involved with me. Honestly, would any of you be willing to live with someone who is away for a good part of the year?
So it's still well in the future (like I'm talking half a year if not longer), but my girlfriend is contemplating moving in with me or moving away with her "best friend" to college (that's about 2 .5 hours from our current city). She said "I just don't know yet."
I say "best friend" because she's told me plenty of times, even as recent as 2 days ago, that she thinks this girl isn't a true friend. She claims that the girl comes running to her when her bf dumps her or somebody is mean to her blah blah. But when my gf needs her help or wants to talk this girl is nowhere to be found and often ignores her when making plans or whatever.
I feel almost insulted that she is questioning moving in with me over moving in with this so called "friend". Not to mention this girl is a constant bitch to me, I've post about that in a previous thread, the girl constantly throws little insults at me.
I guess I don't really have a 'question', but I just need some advice I guess or at the very least a female anon to explain why my gf would do this.
Having experience with both:
All that partnership stuff like: Exclusivity, emotional attachment, romantic activities, emotional support/reliability, higher prioritization in each others lives, etc.
A FWB is just someone that you're friendly/friends with and you fuck. There's no expectations, no accountability to one another, and nothing beyond that. Additionally, the sex can be more selfish because ultimately, in a fwb you're just looking to use each other to please yourself.
I also forgot to mention, if she moved in with me she'd still be attending college just with me at the local community college. If she moved away she'd just be attending another community college not some major university.
bf/gf has a level of commitment and exclusivity. fwb is just that, being friends with an occasional fuck on the side.
50 shades is one of the biggest books with women right now, and the man literally rapes her among other things. There is a significant number of women who do in fact romanticize abuse.
It's entirely disturbing.
Girl here, I'd be insulted too. Cohabitation is a big thing. I don't think you should move in with someone at all unless you are serious about them. Serious to the point where you want marriage/to spend your life with them, and at that point they should be your best friend and not have any doubts.
24 year old consultant? Man you have such a huge edge over your peers. Most people are working shitty jibs at McDonald's or are low level labourers for some shitty construction company. Use that to your advantage your job offers a sense.of power use it.
How long have you guys been together?
If less than 1-2 year: duh she's having doubts.
If more than 1-2 year: Moving in with one another is a big step, and often one you're locked in to for 6/12months at a time (depending on your lease). Living with someone completely changes your dynamic with them, and this is doubly true with a partner where you effectively give up nearly all your personal space. Many relationships don't survive this stage.
I guess just calmly express your honest feelings and be open about everything. Truthfully, she sounds like bad news with her poor choice in friends and indecisiveness about important life decisions. I don't know if it's a good idea for her to move in with you, even if she agrees.
Guys and girls:
Is it thoughtful or off-putting to reference previous conversations?
>I found this book and you mentioned you wanted to read more
>When we met you said X, and a friend just mentioned Y. What do you think about Z?
If it's your SO I assume it's automatically thoughtful, but what about just from an acquaintance?
Guy asking girls:
How important are teeth? We all judge based on looks to at least some degree, but how high on the list do teeth place?
I ask because my teeth are a little bit fucked up. They're not British bad, but it's noticeable. My parents were very poor when I was a kid, so they couldn't afford braces. They're also ever so slightly yellow, because I really love coffee and Indian food, but at least that is an easy fix; I can definitely afford a whitening session or two. I do brush & floss, and I'm not missing any teeth.
Is it okay to eat my girlfriend out while she's sleeping?
Can a manwhore ever be bf material ?
Is it bad if I tell my date (on our first date no less) what to wear?
We've agreed on a casual place but I've only ever seen her in dresses, skirts, etc. She said she likes to wear these everywhere, it's bordering on formal wear. I want to tell her to wear something casual because I'll be wearing something casual, as will the other diners at where we're going.
You can tell her to wear something casual, but nothing more. Don't tell her she can't wear what she normally wears. From what you've described her style as, it doesn't sound like she'll be too out of place anyway.
How would a guy in his early 20s know if he is physically good looking ? I'm shy and keep to myself and for most of my life assumed I was ugly as hell. I'm re thinking it now and not sure how to tell and I got no female friends to ask or I have no female friends at all
If my date says she's all natural down there, does that mean a hairy asshole and buttocks, too? Do women even get ass hair like men do? I'm fine with a wild and untamed pussy but not really her butt.
I accidentally asked a female co-worker to the mall without preparing in advance. Problem is I dont know what to do at a mall for a first date.
No movie theater at the mall, there is one 20 minutes away though
I see your point entirely, but she'll probably react like this >>16866844 >>16866859
She probably thinks she's being cute and unique and if that's what she does, all power to her. But that's probably just how she is and you shouldn't try to change it (especially if you just started dating).
No it's not, you said she dresses borderline formal. Nothing wrong with that style in a cafe.
Like I said, if you're going to be embarrassed by her, you shouldn't be dating her at all. You obviously care about how you look to the public more than you care about dating her, so forget about her.
I can't take flirting seriously. I had a girl over a few days ago and when I went to the washroom and came out, she was sitting spread eagle on my couch with her underwear off and said "dessert's ready". I couldn't help but burst into laughter and suffice to say I got nothing that night.
How do you keep a straight face in situations like this?
I'm currently in Addison, and likely to move to Plano in May. New to Texas, don't really know anyone here yet aside from coworkers and my parents/sibling.
25, College graduate, full time job, have a car.
Kik/Snapchat is Sephrom if you want to hang
Maybe the grills here can shed some light on this.
>two years ago
>was depressed because I couldn't find a job
>didn't want to tell gf
>just stopped talking to her, absolutely cut off all contact
>eventually do find a job four months but can't gather the nerve to speak to her
>still feel guilty over it
>decide she's probably over it anyway and we should both get on with our lives
>two years later still feel guilty and finally call her
>give extremely long apology I should have said years ago
>we actually talk and catch up on what we've been doing
>she sounds very happy to hear from me
>suggest we skype (we are in different cities by now)
>next day, says she is extremely busy with school
>understandable, so am I
>we decide to wait for the weekend
>weekend just passed, she hasn't answered my messages on FB
Should I call her again? I had originally expected her to be fucking furious over me randomly reappearing, but she had seemed quite glad to hear from me and we seemed to have made peace over what happened. I just wanted to talk about how we've been doing in more detail, but was asking to skype a bad idea? Should I have left it at the apology?
Honestly if I was her I'd be happy to hear from you too. To know you're not dead or whatever.
But I wouldn't want you to come back into my life. I wouldn't want to be friends, I wouldn't want any further conversation beyond your apology and some small talk about what's been happening.
I can't say if that's what she's feeling right now, or if she is just busy. If you want to call her again, give it a go, what is there to lose?
>But I wouldn't want you to come back into my life. I wouldn't want to be friends, I wouldn't want any further conversation beyond your apology and some small talk about what's been happening.
That's what I was afraid of. Maybe she thinks I'm trying to get back with her? Truth is I just wanted to see her face again and have a normal conversation like we used to before saying goodbye permanently.
What are some ways to show a guy I'm into him? I'm an autist from /r9k/ and I've been silently beta orbiting this guy that works at a restaurant where I live. Anytime I go in he stares at me a lot and called me a few really nice names. I even had a friend comment how he looks at me.
What should I do? I really want him to ask for my number or something and I'm to autistic to try and would break into tears if I did and he said no.
Dude, if you consider her normal style of dress awkward how do you think you guys will fare in a relationship?
You've already implied this is the clothing she wears regularly, so clearly she wouldn't find it unusual.
As men we're pretty simple. Just ask him. There's no trick to it and no need to fuck around like women do to us. He's probably into you and if he doesn't want to date you, he'll still bang you regardless. So again, just go for it.
Don't wait for him to ask or ask him for his, GIVE him yours.
That way he has it, and can make a move. Write it on a note and when you interact pass it to him. If he calls, good to go. If not, you can cry in private.
I'm 23, but really attracted a 15 year old girl. It's mutual. But it's risky. Technically she's age of consent where she lives, but idk
Has anyone ever had a risky or forbidden kinda thing like this?
My gf broke up with me a few days ago she aid she loved me but we argued too much and thought it was better to persevere the relationship in the form of a memory than keep it going til we hate each other
are there muslim girls here
do you actually wait until marriage
Please don't. Women in their mid 20s don't know what they want in a man or what they want in life, much less a fucking 15 year old. "B-but she's mature for her age!" No. You're not going for her because she's mature for her age.
Am I really? Is it attraction that defines pedophile or the actual act of sex with a minor?
Also if it's legally age of consent how does it make it wrong still? Aren't you projecting your own morals?
I was in denial but I just accepted that the plans we each have for the future are way too different, plus I don't feel atracted to him anymore. I want him as a friend, but he will surely tell me to fuck off, it's okay, I wouldn’t blame him.
This post made me feel a bit better somehow, sounds like a good idea, thanks anon.
Hurt, upset. Probably immediately cut contact since there's nothing to salvage.
Horrible idea m8.
Even throwing out the ethics of it all, teenagers are fucking annoying.
Hell, give him your number and tell him to chat you up. It's his job, he probably won't take the initiative because he could risk getting fired trying to flirt with customers.
Pedophilia isnt just anything under 18 friendo. At most it's Ephebophilia.
>Women in their mid 20s don't know what they want in a man or what they want in life
you are projecting and I know enough married women in their mid and even early twenties to conclude they all had an idea at least of what they wanted for the rest of their lives, all down you whale
I never said she was mature or even implied she was, if anything I like her because she's cute and fun to talk to
As you that upset a kid has more dicks wanting her than you?
Is there a reason you're no longer attracted to him? And I think it'd be a better idea to say that you think your plans for the future are too different instead of "oh hey person who loves me, I don't love you anymore"
Girl I've been talking to brought up today that she was invited to a guy's exgirlfriend's performance, and asked me why they would do that and if she should go. All I told her was that the whole situation is weird.
Does this mean I'm only a friend?
Another thing I'm afraid of is what if I'm just making it up because I'm too desperate for someone to show any interest in me.
I'm really insecure and seeing him always makes me smile. How would I give him my number?
The thing is, I already told him my concern about the future, and I don't know why I don't feel attracted to him, he is good looking, but I see him and I don't want to hug him or kiss him. Both of us already talked about this, and I told him that tomorrow I will take a decision.
Do you guys interact directly? If I were going to do it, I'd write it on a note like
-Cute girl's name"
And hand it to him while exchanging pleasantries/ money for goods
I think that might be it too because he looked a little frustrated that I wasn't going to dine in and the manager was right there. Anytime I come in like I said he stares at me and usually comes right to me even if I'm not in his section.
Are you sure you werent just too thick headed to notice it before.
I mean I used to feel the same way you do but friends would often call me out later for never noticing that stuff.
Shit like this is what drives me nuts about r9k. Any opportunities you don't pursue are just guaranteed to never go anywhere. Worst case scenario he's a bit flattered but isn't interested.
There's not going to be some surprise mob to make fun of you for flirting with someone.
Girls, do you have a lot of platonic male friends who dump their problems on you and are always venting and crying and bitching. Is this common, because I always see sadboys online saying they'd rather talk to a girl because they're more in tune with their emotions.
If it is common how do you feel about it. Do you actually give a shit or are you just being nice. Do guys confess their kv status etc
Not that anon, but that's hyper pigmentation. Try to avoid sun and use sunblock daily (sun exposure makes them darker) and use a cream/serum to make them go away. I'm using a vitamin C one right now and it's working pretty well.
Dudes and ladies, I've got a problem.
For the first time ever, a girl is into me and we've started dating.
However, as we hang out, I'm realizing we don't have that much chemistry and I find myself wondering if I'd be settling by continuing things with her.
So basically, do I cut things off quickly, like a bandaid (since she is nice and it'd such to hurt her and cause a mess)?
Or do I give it a shot because, hey, why not, this may be my only chance at happiness, etc.
only if you two have made it expressly clear that she wants that to happen
can a whore ever be gf material?
if she's not doing upkeep on her vag, why would she clean up her butt?
pretty hurt. (source: that shit happened to me)
Is it possible to salvage anything from a person who says they're not interested in a relationship with you, or even a date? I understand if a chance of a relationship is basically zero, but can I at least still be social with this person with her knowing I like, or at least liked her? I see her around campus from time to time, and I don't have any classes with her; I don't approach her because I think she would get the wrong idea, and assume I was playing an angle to try and get with her.
It started last semester when I had a class with her, we sat close to each other, and besides the two guys in her work group (I became friends with one of them) I was the guy she talked to the most. When the semester was almost over I decided to ask her out. I had attempted it a few times, but always chickened out so it was now or never. After class I walked with her towards the parking lot since everybody from class left school after it, as I tried starting a conservation with her she said in a hesitant sounding voice "I'm not really interested." I was pretty sad since I didn't even ask her out, but I guess she noticed my other attempts. The worse part was that after a little back, and forth I was trying to play it off with jokes she made up a lot of cliche reasons why she wasn't looking for a boyfriend. Saying things like she wasn't looking for a relationship at the moment, and that she has this "complicated on, and off again thing" with a guy who I could tell didn't even exist. It wasn't even my looks either she said it was my "personality" since I would joke around with other guys in class, but I think that was another reason she was looking to say no. From what I could tell also she never seemed to have had a boyfriend or been a relationship either.
I understand the fact, and so can all of you by reading this that she isn't interested, but does that mean we can't even be friends? In her shoes would it be strange if I saw you approached, and tried starting a conversation?
I'm flirting with a girl who lives in my dorm hall, and it's apparent we could be something more.
I have hangups though; I have a lot of emotional damage, from child abuse and clinical depression, as well as physical, since I have skin disorders that look disgusting under my clothes.
I'm afraid that being more open with her means being a lot less appealing; should I not pursue her and let her find happiness with someone else, or go for it and hope she can look past what I've got?
Give it a shot, man.
If she likes you for you, chances are she'll be able to look past whatever you're dealing with.
You can't stay locked in the bell tower your whole life, saying "oh she'd be happier with someone else", especially when she's reciprocating.
Give it a shot and seize happiness, brother.
Not really. I was seeing this chick some time ago, and it turned out she was a fundie chick. Didnt believe dinosaurs were real and that the earth was 6000~ years old, but she sure was ok with sleeping around.
Not even the religious nutjobs save themselves for marriage anymore.
You're probably right. I've stopped taking care of myself but I'm working on getting better..is the whole "work in progress" thing not a deal breaker? She knows my social personality, the rest I keep mostly hidden so wasn't sure if I should fix myself before going for it.
>But I wouldn't want you to come back into my life. I wouldn't want to be friends, I wouldn't want any further conversation beyond your apology and some small talk about what's been happening.
There's a cultural gap here, but whatever:
>want to begin a relationship with a girl
>have to ask her directly
>worried my lack of experience will be a turnoff
Should I tell her I've never been in a relationship before I ask her? I assume she won't care, but hell I don't know.
I certainly don't care how many people she's dated.
It is a turnoff, but everyone has to start somewhere. Don't make shit up either, but just don't tell her. They can see right through the bullshit if you're lying about sex or pretend exes.
I have psoriasis and now it's on my dick/crotch. Looks disgusting, and I'm 21 and a virgin. I have zero sexual confidence, even though I'm pretty confident in other areas.
How do I present myself in relationships? I have no idea how to be sexually appealing given what I'm working with.
Girls is this too cheesy? What's your honest opinion and how would you react: so there's this cute girl who works at the coffee shop and I wanted to give her my number but I thought being forward would be a bit odd so I thought of something I'm afraid might be too cheesey. I go up to the counter, ask her what she would recommend that I get for a cute girl that I don't really know but would like to get to know, and what would be a safe pick? She gives me her recommendation and I ask her if she can write my number in the cup, and when she hands me the coffee with my number on it and my coffee I ordered for myself I hand her the cup.
Not that guy but I'm in the same boat so can more girls pls halp.
I'm 22 and about 20% of my hair is grey, a huge patch of my facial hair too. I think it looks weird as fuck should I dye it or let it go?
Just fucking ask her out if you're interested. That's cringeworthy, like the others have said
You explain that you have psoriasis. You're an adult, and I presume you'd be sleeping with adults.
Why would you tell her? Don't say anything unless she asks
You decide if it's worth dating a coworker, and then you either ask her out or not.
That's cute, I'd feel obligated to return the favor.
I think your current gf has ovarian cysts.
Yeah, I'm not calling some weirdo because I don't want him to have my number.
I just drove an intoxicated girl home who I have a thing for. She might be in to me, I don't know.
I got her home safely and left with a hug, and she seemed disjointed, I know I could have taken it as an invite for a one nigher / quickie or maby more but she was drunk and I was not, and that feels somehow wrong.
Was that my chance? Did I blow it? am i forever friend zoned?
Girls near fortworth,
Can you please tell my boyfriend that he is retarded for trying to date an ugly girl because he's got low self esteem? He's even said he's not physically attracted to her.
(I'm cute af)
Maybe he massinvited everbody?
Or did he actually ask you privately?
Either way, just ask him about it.
You're not even his girlfriend yet and already call him boyfriend?
Red flags, mate.
There's 44 people invited total so it wasnt mass invite, i'll ask him about it, I just got an fb notification saying 'X has invited you to 'Party''. i wasn't sure if it wouldn't be awkward since I don't know him that well.
I guess i'm pretty friendly with some people who are going (like, you know you'll be friends with them friendly) so I'll probably have a good time
Mot a chick but a good friend of mine has that, he is a nice guy, far more so than I am or anyone else in our friend group. His wife is lovely and if she were not married to him, I would peruse her. Be genuine, it is not contagious and explain that, we are all less than perfect specimens.
>I asked her when she's free to see each other
>"I don't know yet. Let's keep in touch"
Okay so she knows I'm interested, she knew that before she gave me her number, so I suppose there's no reason to be worried at all, but it's my brain, it does that sometimes.
So anyways, any chance that she just used an excuse and wont actually find a moment to see me? Was anyone in a limbo situation like me? How did it end?
Would it be retarded to ask a fellow worker if she'd like to go out with me, when i don't work there anymore?
I'll work there till summer and don't know if she'd even date a fellow worker.
"hey M.! F. (her female roommate, friend and friend of mine, too) has a date this evening. What are you doing today?" "uhm. Nothing as always" "So... You wanna get a coffee or something? Or should i ask you again when i don't work here anymore?"
Same situation. When is it not worth it? What is an argument to not date a fellow worker? You mean because you'd work together; or because of the other fellow workers; or what? Not sure
Asking to girls;
What do you think when someone marks out the fact that your good intentions and efforts are actually making the society grow worse and destabilize a nation with such as feminazi movement, vegan fascism, sjw's, single parenthood and cultural marxism?
Girls: Why do giving a little confidence to you makes you shine like a diamond? I hit on a girl who broke up with her BF and she was all depressed even after four months, and literally 12 hours later she was all downloading Tinder and shit and talking to guys like nothing really happened.
Should I always be the initiator for our conversations? I mean he keeps talking and continuing the conversations, sometimes suggesting to talk later and when we do talk it does last for a couple hours but I don't know if I should always be the one to talk first
Make a conscious effort to make your feelings more apparent to her and act on those thoughts. That is, if you actually care her and her feelings deep down to your very core. Otherwise, it says nothing except that she isn't really worth it to you.
Listen to every word she says and try to emphasize with her. Try to use her words and your intuition in order to figure out what is the root of her jealousy and take an approach to what you believe will indirectly make it clear to her that she has nothing to worry about. Do this by asking her indirect questions that reveal her mental state. When she says something or gets worked up over things that don't make sense to you, ask her why. Don't force this however, as she will be less inclined to grow and will shut down on you, if it hasn't happened to you already, that is.
If you find that nothing you do is able to get through to her, then it is very likely that she will never change and it's time to end it, or else she will ruin your outlook on other people as well, as much as you don't want to at the time.
You're overthinking it. Nobody that does not like talking to you will hold a conversation with you for several hours. However, if you have romantic feelings for him then you may have to be the one to initiate. If you feel like you two have some chemistry, then go for it by all means.
If you get the feeling that he enjoys talking to you but is never the one to initiate, then he may feel like he is bothering you and is not comfortable/confident enough around you. Do you make statements like "you seem really funny/nice/cute" or just tell him that you like talking to him? If not, try to start but don't force it.
Anybody who really feels like you really understand them will go out of their way to seek you out. I know this from experience.
Your goal is to complement him and make him feel comfortable, whenever I really enjoy talking to a girl and feel comfortable around her, I will go out of my way to initiate and talk to her more.
What are my chances of getting into a fight over a girl?
I'm pretty good at stealth for an overweight dude, but when it comes to a IRL fight I might need to eat from a straw for the rest of my life, or get 3 years in prison for using any and all means necessary to defend myself, and/or possibly get framed as a bisexual rapist exhibitionistic perverted public masturbator.
tl;dr Cure for paranoia when?
So I asked her out on a date, and we had a great time with some conversation over coffee and breakfast this past weekend.
What should I do from here? Keep asking her out on dates? Do I tell her I've never dated anyone before? That I've never made a move on a girl before and have no idea what I'm doing? So many anxieties bombarding me. I thought the hard part would be over after I asked her out.
I think too much I guess, and mostly in a negative way.
I always think and believe only negativity or other bad and negative things will happen to me and 0.000000000000000000000000000000000000000000000000000000000000000000000000000000000000000000000000000000000000000000000000000000000000000000000000000000000000000000000000000000000000001% is good.
I'm also a beta male kissless virgin who hates Chads.
Fuck you Chad.
Would you say that one of your primary goals would be getting women?
Before I go on, I want to know how old you are so that I can tell if I will be able to give you practical information on how to help you.