I'm in a relationship and I'm really attracted to someone that isn't the person I'm dating. I'd never cheat but I feel like it's wrong to fantasize about people other than your partner. Am I a shitty person for doing this? How would you go about correcting this behavior?
>correcting this behavior
You're never gonna make it man. It's perfectly normal to fantasize about others. If you think for one second your SO doesn't do it as well, you're out of your mind.
Honestly, if this is actually an issue causing you grief, you may just be out of your mind.
Well, according to some surveys guys and girls have different definitions. It seems most guys have no problem with flirting/emotional connections but once the P goes in the V it's cheating, whereas for the most part care less about the sex and more about the emotional connection. But if you want to play it safe, basically anything that takes this fantasy out of your brain and into real life in any way is probably something your gf is going to consider to be cheating or on the way there.
So that means NO:
>-texting or especially sexting this other girl
>-PMing and facebook stalking this other girl
>-calling this other girl
>-making plans to hang out with this other girl all the time and neglect interacting with your gf
>-making out with this other girl
>-obviously fucking the other girl is right out
As long as this stays 100% in your mind you aren't cheating, you're just human.
The more you try to NOT think about this person, the more you will end up thinking about them and the guilt will pile on as well.
I don't think it's wrong as long as you're not actually doing anything about it and as long as you're not thinking about them constantly or something.