I've fallen in love with a good female friend of mine 2 months ago.
I know I should just tell her, and I probably will, but I'm less worried about rejection than our friendship afterwards.
Can some of you who did this tell me how their friendship went afterwards?
its never truly salvaged if ur 'in love'. if you had a little crush you could maybe slide back, but even then its weird.
ur expecting someone to act like nothing ever happened after you admit strong feelings for her. if there isnt any feelings returned, thats awful awkward.
I'm in the same situation. I told her and she did act like nothing happened. We're best friends now but it's fucking painful (she slept with another guy after telling me she didn't want to do that)
its already over mate. you're 2loveydovey4her.
closure is more powerful than people give it credit for. we've all been in a situation where we promise were going to be this noble best friend who doesnt admit their feelings for hte lady, cuz having them as a friend is better than not having them at all.
but we just end up caving at some point because just being around them makes us feel like were going to burst.
so yeah, no matter what you do, its all downhill from here
You don't want to hear this but you're setting yourself up for a lot of pain if you continue your friendship like that. You should either tell her and see what happens. Or stop being friends with her if you can't get over the crush
Well that sounds a bit hope inducing. Funny thing is ever since I've known her I've never seen or heard of her getting with anybody, even though she's quite hot and I'm sure a lot of guys fall for her.
I think it would hurt quite a bit of she started seeing someone
You're probably right, but at the moment the feelings don't kill me
Definitely a harder crush.
Maybe I formulated it a bit wrong, but English is not my native language.
In mean something more than a casual crush, but not "real" love (which I define as something that grows in a relationship over years)
out of curiosity, what's your native language?
Also, I'd say go for it. This friendship is anyway already tainted with stronger feelings. Another thing is that if you do nothing, you'll wonder what could have been and that's always more shitty than having a clear situation.
In my experience, friendships being ruined after he admits feelings is usually because of his reaction, not mine/the female. People can deal with it, but the person themselves makes it awkward by thinking the other person finds it awkward.