>dated girlfriend 8 years
>2 months ago girlfriend starts going to bars/clubs
>every time i say "oh hey why dont i come too" she suggests a movie or sushi, so i've never gone with her to the bar
>as of last week, she has gone to the bar every single night, 9pm-2am
>when we go out for movies or sushi, she wears jeans/t shirt
>when she goes to the bar, she wears beautiful outfit and full makeup
>when i ask for more time together, say "lets schedule a date Wednesday night together?" she says "you're acting controlling"
>ditched every single night, sleeping alone every night, if i complain its 'controlling'
what this mean?
ok... this cycle of my girlfriend pulling away from me emotionally, and then blaming me for being controlling when i ask why, and then pulling away even more in reaction, is making me fucking insane. i keep thinking "if i stop being controlling maybe she'll give me love again"
even if i breakup my heads fucked
She's looking for a new guy, but she's keeping you as a backup.
Break up, but don't be a bitch about it. Just say you've grown apart. Behave respectfully and she will probably cringe. Don't break your facade.
Controling would be checking her texts and phoncalls, asking unreasonable questions like how wear you with, names, Times exact locations with proof etcetera...telling her to be back at a certain time or forbidding her to go places without you. If you do not do this tho vs and more, make her understand it if she dows not I suggest you start doing this things. Or you could just sleep with her best friend and dup her. : )
You dated for 8 years and you are not married or moving forward at all? That may work for some, but I feel most people would have broken up or married well before this point.
For how long you have been dating a simple breakup and leave is probably not the first thing you should do. If you have been together that long I would think you can air this grievance to her. I assume you guys live together? Do you not have any of your own friends?