I have never had an orgasm. Not even masturbating and I have masturbated a lot. I've had many sexual partners but I've only come close a few times. Now I am in a committed relationship and I'm having some of the best sex and oral sex of my life but I still can't get past the edge. My BF  has tried with extended foreplay (probably an hour) followed by PIV and I felt really close a few times but I just never got there. We did some research and found that some women need clitoral and vaginal stimulation to reach orgasm so tonight after some foreplay we tried sex in a spooning position. I rubbed my clit while he fucked me and I was the closest I've ever been. Definitely the best sex I've EVER had. I really thought it was going to happen but it never did.
How do I get past this edge?
I have the same problem but mine is related to control and deep trust problems. I'm very committed and very in love with my fiance but everytime I get close to any kind of orgasm I get this weird feeling of panic instead of pleasure. He tries so hard to please me but I am literally scared of having an orgasm and i always have been.
>I rubbed my clit while he fucked me and I was the closest I've ever been. Definitely the best sex I've EVER had. I really thought it was going to happen but it never did.
keep doing that untill it works?
I would suggest a vibrator or something, but if you become dependant on a toy it could ruin real sex. Just keep trying and relax.
My orgasms were really stubborn, too. My magic combination turned out to be clit-focused oral with g-spot fingering.
You're getting there, just keep trying. Use things that you know work, and experiment to try to find things that work better. The first orgasm is always the hardest, and it gets easier.