Boner troubles thread. Anyone else who has or had erectile problems, feel free to contribute and discuss.
I'm 23, physically fit, and I've never previously had major issues getting and maintaining an erection (except for the first couple of times having sex due to nervousness).
Prior to my current situation, I hadn't been in a relationship for close to two years, during which I watched porn and fapped pretty regularly.
For the past 2 months I've been in a great new relationship, but I can't seem to maintain an erection naturally when we have sex. I've been secretly using viagra to keep things going. The times when I haven't popped viagra, I usually get hard for the first couple of minutes and then lose it before or during penetration. It's then a struggle to get it back up again.
I don't think it's physical erectile dyfunction, since I can get it up and keep it up naturally when I'm fapping. So I'm thinking that this is possibly a result of all the porn in the past couple of years.
Obviously this whole thing gets pretty frustrating and makes me worry about my future ability to naturally have erections - I don't really want to rely on viagra for the rest of my life.
Anyone have any tips for overcoming this, or have had similar problems?
No way to natural fix it an your doctor will only give you pills, best thing would be to go to a men's clinic that treats these problems but your gonna pay out the ass to get your dick back. So it's that or viagra for the rest of your life
It's all mental because you're nervous during sex. You're so focused on staying hard that you're not doing anything to arouse yourself mentally, and losing focus on the physical things she does, so your dick wilts.
How about instead of trying to go "HNNNG, BONER. STAY UP." For like ten minutes and then giving up, how about you have fun having sex? Foreplay, teasing her, getting her worked up, trying new positions, all sorts of things.
>It's all in your head, bro.
Here's a different situation: I'm a virgin, also 23, been fapping to porn for about 10 years. A woman actually being interested in me recently has got me nervous, so I tried to jerk off without porn, failed to get it up enough, succeeded a day or two later. Any tips for overcoming this hurdle?
OP here. Yeah I follow you and I'd agree with you that it's mostly in my head, but I have been trying those things too. When I can't get hard I'll focus on her pleasure and get her worked up with my fingers. I did that this morning and was feeling aroused as fuck just watching her moan and go crazy while fingering her, but still little reaction from my dick. Had to get up and pop a pill, and then fucked her half an hour later when it kicked in.
I guess I'm still not fully relaxed even when doing those things like focusing on her and trying not to think about my dick, and it's still at the back of my mind.
I'd probably recommend not watching any porn for a while prior to having sex with her, it'll definitely make it a bit easier to get hard off real life things.
Been struggling with something similar to this, specifically when using condoms.
>First gf was on birth control
>Learned to bang bareback for about three years
>Birth control was pretty popular in college
>Flash-forward to now: still have issues with keeping it up after getting the condom on
Any tips? I've cut down on fapping and don't deathgrip anymore, but it's such a pain in the ass