How can I control extreme hatred towards one particular person?

Have you thought of talking to her to explain why you're upset with her?

>>16851481
How about you do your boyfriend a favor and breakup with him because you're a bitter controlling jealous cunt who holds a grudge? After you're done with that, consider ritualistic suicide.

Thank you!

>>16851509
I just can`t bring myself to do it, I know I`ll just get angry again. I was hoping there was a way to make some peace within myself..

>>16851544
There is, by realizing the reason you hold the grudge and making the choice of either letting it go because it doesn't serve you (resentment is like drinking poison and expecting your enemy to die), or going at it and confronting the person. But not in an aggressive way, otherwise you stir resentment as well. Most people can be reasoned with in this way. Agree?

>>16851563
Yeah, you have a point. Now that I think about it, perhaps I am jealous, but of her. All that evening she didn`t stop making herself the center of attention with stories and details I would have been embarrassed to tell, yet no one says anything and continue favoring her.
Anyway, confronting her might be difficult, because I haven`t seen her since that very evening (hence why I`m worried with how strong my feelings remained), and she lives in a different city along with my boyfriend and his friends.

In short, I think something is very wrong with me even more heh. Thanks for the insight.

>>16851589
Eh, it's normal to have that kind of jealousy. Why are you beating yourself up? And why aren't you sharing your feelings with your boyfriend?

>>16851694
I mentioned that his background is flawless along with all of his friends` - wealth, normal and loving family, always social and always had had friends. I talked to him about my feelings, but he just doesn`t understand where my frustration comes from. To him, people never do anything out of bad intention, and he finds the good in everyone he meets.

>>16851727
It's not a good sign if your Signficant Other doesn't understand your feelings. I think it's a very important building block for a relationship. If that's the case, maybe you should seek methods to improve open communication. This could be the answer to letting go of such troublesome feelings.

>>16851727
Gosh it must be so hard having a rich balanced friendly boyfriend. Wow OP you really have it rough. Fuck off.

>>16851799
Well what do you suggest? I don`t know how to approach him with this, I don`t know what to say so I don`t come off as aggressive and judgemental. I already gave him a ”you rich kids have it easy” vibe, which comes off as judgemental, whenever I tell him why I think he doesn`t understand.