my lovely little brother is getting bullied by an older guy who is fat and tall at his school
today my brother told me that this guy sat on his head and made fun of my brother while he's at it and kicked my brother's best friend in the guts and beat him up after he tried to stand up for my brother
my brother is only 10 and is extremely short and scrawny, his best friend is also the same age as him
the bully is about 14 and is extremely huge
my brother insists that i don't tell their school principal or tell any of the teachers about it
i just assumed that the bully threatened to beat him up or something, but my brother denies any threatining
what do i do? i don't want my brother to go through this..
it's simple, you beat up the bully yourself.
but it sounds like you're a grill. do you have any tough-looking orbiters or boyfriend? you need to intimidate this mother fucker.
i mean i guess it can also work if you're insanely hot and told the kid off too, but i doubt it considering you used an anime picture for your op.
You gotta let people know about this. In this day and age you could probably get that kid expelled from that school for what he's done. People take bullying pretty seriously in this day and age.
I threatened a bully with a pumpkin carving knife when I was 9 and I turned out ok. Rocks in sock like the other anon said is also effective. Just don't do this on the playground, needs to be outside the school.
Regardless of what your brother says, report it to the school. They are required by law to deal with this in a way that protects your brother, or they can be sued. (Not that it will come to that - they really do want to protect kids from bullies)
the fuck with you guys and bringing up weapons and snitching to the school...
first of all, violence and weapons is a huge no-no, you don't want to teach your 10 year old kid that threatening someone with a fucking knife is going to make life easy. that can easily backfire with the bully punching the knife off your kid's hand and use it against your kid.
i don't know how schools deal with bullying these days, but there really isn't a system out there that would work. and snitching makes the bullies itch for something worse. its still something people are trying to figure out how to deal with, but as long as there are shitty families, there will be vicious bullies.
like i stated before, you need to intimidate this bully somehow by showing him your kid has tougher or scarier people on his side.
Produce a fake printed warning letter from the principal and put it in the bully's mailbox.
It works best if the bully stumbles upon the letter first and tries to hide it; the paranoia will do the rest since I got a feeling that plenty of people hated his guts.
Even if either the school or his parents discovered that the letter is fake, it'll still raise some attention regarding his bullying activities.
My husband got bullied a lot when he was a kid bc he was constantly moving around. He would fight them, no matter how big they were. He said he'd use heavy items if the kids were really big (like a large piece of wood). Often he'd get his ass beat, but they'd be friends after.
I got bullied & I still regret not fighting back. They stopped after a couple yrs bc they got bored & other kids started making them feel bad.
My cousins would tell me if they got bullied. I went to the same school as my guy cousin. He pointed out the bully, I walked over, grabbed him by the collar and told him to leave my cousin alone or I'd beat the shit out of him.
My girl cousin went to a different school so I got my mom to drop us off before her class started and she pointed at the girls. I did the same with the leader.
Neither of them got bullied after that.
My older sister knew I was being bullied and I still hate her for not sticking up for me like I did with my cousins.
If you do get involved, don't tell any adults. Either take care of it yourself, get him to fight back, or get another guy to take care of it.
KICK THE BULLY'S ASS!!!!!
Confront him directly first in person (you need to stop picking on my little brother- if I'm watching you and if I see you pick on him then your ass is mine.)
You got a couple of options here.
1- Beat the shit out of the guy yourself. This is gratifying, but involves great personal risk and your brother will come to you the next time this happens (and it will happen again).
2- Have your brother beat the guy up. This is a challenge as when you're a kid a difference of a year and a few months could mean the other guy has half a foot and 40 pounds on you. A weapon or two could even the odds, but that could make your brother into a monster if he vents his anger at the wrong time. Still, it's good that he learn how to defend himself and the other kid learns to leave him alone.
3- Call the school. Nowadays you don't need much evidence. The other kid will be expelled or suspended at least. However, this could mean a lot of nothing as the kid could just come back after school and attack him then. Still, it's the most diplomatic option.
4- Get his parents involved. This could be difficult as you need to find a way to get in touch with them, bit it could also be the most devastatingly effective. Noone wants their parents to find out they are a bully.
5- Blackmail. As noted above, a letter from a fake school exec could work, but that would mean you would have to have access to his locker (difficult at best) or have your brother slip it in (also difficult as everyone sees people putting stuff into lockers nowadays).
6- Bribery. Give the bully a stack of playboy's(or a password to an adult site) and he'll leave your brother alone. Guaranteed. Of course distributing porn to minors is illegal.
I would not suggest bribery, as this can often turn into extortion if the bully feels like he can get more out of you. It doesn't really solve the problem at all, unless the bully just chooses to give up.
Your other options are good, but I would only recommend 5 if 1-4 have ALL failed, and only if you plan it out smart and thorough.
Ex fat bully here. Even if you did "stand up to me" I'd just wait a few days and then kick the shit out of you. To be fair, all the kids that I did beat up deserved it because they talked a lot of shit for being so small. They could run from me but they couldn't run away once we were in class. I remember I slammed some kid's head into a desk after he made fun of me during recess for being fat and running from me so I couldn't catch him. He sure had a bloody smile after that.
Thankfully now that I'm grown up none of that matters anymore and I don't have to bully anyone. It's much more relaxing now.
You think I was that stupid, don't you? I love how everyone assumes bullies are dumb. You think I avoided getting my ass beaten by being lucky? Mother fucker the people that could beat my ass never did because I never gave them a reason to or I found a way to protect myself.
Also, nobody would have gotten "bullied" if they hadn't been such shit talkers. I didn't steal their lunch money or take their stuff. They just thought they could talk shit and not get hit for it. Apparently I was labeled a bully for intimidating and/or hurting the kids in my class to the point where they were too scared to talk. After that, we got along swimmingly.
make sure he doesn't make the same mistake as a lot of guys. tell him to start self defence classes. If i had a brother that young and he was getting bullied then i would train him to fight.
Dude, you're bragging on a mid-sized board on 4chan about how you were savvy and badass in elementary school. Don't argue. That's what you're doing.
It's very unattractive and honestly sorta pitiful.
See anon, that's why I said ex bully. That's why you're always "the guy that has trouble understanding things". Why not just accept that you're retarded and have someone help you post on 4chan?
I was once driving down the street in my car and witnessed a bully beating up a much smaller boy. I pulled over, got out of my car and proceeded to beat the shit out of the larger kid, repeatedly punching him in the face and kicking him in the ribs. I think I broke his nose. I nodded to the shocked smaller kid and then drove off.
Whip this kid's ass or tell the school.
The fact that you're the type of person to brag about being a badass elementary schooler (and to get belligerent when people call you out on how lame that is) is unattractive no matter where you do it, dude.
It doesn't matter that you did it anonymously. Don't kid yourself. That's your personality. Most people are pretty perceptive. They can sense who you are.
Awww your projection is adorable. Please, tell me more about myself! You're so insightful :^)
I'm not innocent. I instigated sometimes but the overwhelming majority was retaliation.
I'm literally just pointing out the things you've done in this conversation. That is not projection; by definition, that's who you are. You'd do better if you grew up a little. It's no skin off my nose if you don't. Take care.
You're making assumptions about my character (pathetic, douchebag, unattractive) to fit the little image of me you have in your head. It's OK, anon. We don't expect much out of you. Did you get daddy to help type out your post for you?
bully only doing it because he is bigger and tougher than your brother.
you are going to have to teach your brother to fight back and stick up for himself. this is a lesson he needs to learn on his own.
if he is 10 he needs to know: anything can be a weapon if you determined enough, and if all else fails the cowards way out kicking him in the balls.
take him to a gym to learn to fight properly.
What the hell. Firstly the kid is ten and starting puberty, taking him to a gym while his body is still growing is a terrible idea. Second, the other kid is 14, he's already derived physical gains from puberty and is bound to be much stronger than a prepubescent child (ignoring his hulking physique) so even if you tell him to fight back, the odds are still out his favour and only encourages harsher retaliation.
Anon, kids are still kids. Depending how old you are, you take advantage, you take a few friends with you (if you can or go alone) but as long as you're bigger/older and willing, you can probably discourage him with the threat of violence alone, it's unlikely a teenager of that age will be cocky enough to want to fight someone who is clearly older, even if you are (possibly?) a girl.
Otherwise, tell the principle/ a teacher. Your brother is only trying to discourage you from acting because he feels shame. Bullying can do that, it makes kids think they've done something to deserve it and worse, a lot of kids who bully were initially bullied. Would you be happy with yourself if you didn't act and your brother ended up picking on other kids later on?
>Firstly the kid is ten and starting puberty, taking him to a gym while his body is still growing is a terrible idea
What? You should definitely take him to a fucking gym. Kids need exercise just as much as adults, if not MORE.
The fuck is wrong this anon? Jesus, some people.
>he feels shame
>done something to deserve it
no you prissy cunt it's called honor god damn the boy wants to fight his own battle not have some nutless pretty thing save him
You sadly gotta fight violence with violence when it comes to bullies.
And you have to have to convey that you don't have enough any mercy, when he's on the ground you kick until he starts screaming for help rather than for you to stop.
My little brother got physically bullied by girls (much stronger at that age). He didn't want to tell me who or contact the school about it so I taught him how to fight a little and gave the same advice as here. I don't know exactly when he beat them up but he told me I had helped him a lot. Not sure if he got into any trouble beyond that or not but he's doing really well now. No sign of lasting damage. I suggest you let him deal with it because frankly the way I felt about the girls was just horrible. Not sure I'd be outside of prison now if I had gone after them.
The real problem with bullying isn't physical it's psychological, it's similar to rape as you feel that you have no control.
Only way to beat this is to take control back.
Either by force or by whatever other means.