Age old situation: I am in love with my FWB... He hasn't completely shot down a relationship in the future - and we are both able to see other people. I keep getting jealous... I want to try waiting it out and hope that he eventually wants to be with me... And I know how stupid that is... we are just so perfect for each other. I don't know if I have a specific request as far as advice but any would be appreciated.
then stop the FWB deal and break it up, cut contact and move on.
The more you let him fuck you the more attached you'll get and the more it'll hurt when he is the one that ends it. Make a favor to yourself and take control this shit before it goes out of your hands.
It works when it's a "I fuck whenever I want but you are fucking no one else but me" kind of deal.
You shouldn't get in a FWB if you aren't emotionally mature enough to handle it.
See I'm very understanding. I'm okay with him fucking other girls. I just want to know that I'm the number one girl. I know that sounds stupid... but I honestly don't think men can be monogamous.
if you were number 1 for him, he would have asked you for exclusivity by now.
Face it. You are just "one more girl" for him and you will never get what you want out of him.
The safest bet is to end it.
And no, many men don't want to stick their dick in every hole available. You are either too stupid (most likely) or just have the unlucky fortune to cross paths with a bunch of assholes.
Start being more cynical, assume everyone will fuck you over at some point and act accordingly.
Real life isn't a book/movie were everyone has good intentions because you are honest towards them and have good intentions.
The only reason people are fucking you over it's because you let them.
Stop allowing people to do that.
Yep. This is naivity. You are making yourself extremely vulnerable in the process and unattractive because it potentially comes off as desperateness. No one likes a desperate loser who are there for everyone just so that she can maybe have a relationship in the unlikely future. Also, according to this >>16831086 you have no self respect and you are putting him on a pedestal. You are no better than the loser guys who made you like him more.
>Start being more cynical, assume everyone will fuck you over at some point and act accordingly.
It's one thing to be cautious but you're just telling her to be douche. Plus this is getting completely off topic.
The other anon is right though, it does seem desperate and that would just make me think someone was insane. "You can have other women, but I just want to be your number one. I know men can't be monogamous." Would scare most people off. I would just recommend proposing a more serious relationship to him. If he says no then it seems healthier to move on than to worry forever about what it could turn into.
I see why he doesn't want to be with you then.
You have the mental age of a teenage girl.
There isn't something as being made for eachother. If he would have liked you he would have stopped fucking around by now. A guy starts fucking you for your looks and most of the cases he will stay for the personality.(this doesn't mean you're hot, it means you're acceptable enough to fuck and the standards depend on the guy. For instance the average /adv/ beta's standard is a donut.) It's clear that he's getting bored by your looks and that you don't have a personality (you get more walked over than a pedestrian crossing). Time for you to (wo)man the fuck up and end it. You've imprinted this false image into your brain that he's the one. Reread you own post. Now reread it again. Does this even remotely sound like the guy who's perfect for you? Jesus christ you're like the female beta2.
It is stupid. If you want to date, date. Act the way you would if he were any other guy with whom you wanted a relationship. If that's still difficult for you to understand, try acting like a guy would if he were pursuing a relationship with you. No confessions, no awkward moments. Pretend like you're starting from day 1 and hit on the motherfucker.
>needs time to get over his wife.
>my sides have entered orbit.
OP has the intelligence of the average Oprah watcher.