I have a Social Anxiety and think down on myself (I don't think girls like me even though girls friend have told me their friends like me) would tinder be a good decision for me?
If you're a guy, unless you're ripped or know how to take a decent photo, be sure to smile (properly, no fake smiles).
I actually tested this, 1 week with smiling and one week just straight faced, got tons of likes smiling and very few straight faced
Tinder will be an excellent place to build your social skills I think though. My advice:
Start conversations with every match (I hope you're swiping right on all of them) with some topic, it doesn't matter what it is, but maybe something relate to their profile. A silly joke to start with is fine.
Also: Talk to ugly/fat girls. Yes, you may not be really attracted to her, but having a fun conversation with them, will build A LOT of momentum to talk to chicks you're mildly interested in. Also, you'll probably get desperate/lonely and maybe fuck one of the ugly chicks anyways. It happens.
Not OP, but does his stuff really work that well? and are there other books from him that can help turn somebody like me who doesn't know the first thing about being social into a happy normal person?
It's essentially a social self-help book that is extremely successful and used by many successful businessmen and celebrities for decades.
However, jumping into it at this stage is only really useful if you want to conduct business right now. If you read it at this stage, you'll probably turn into a fedora wearing Men's Rights Activist or Men Go Their Own Way autist. It's empowering to read, which is why many people love it, but at this point you really haven't learned to enjoy people's company and learned to show your appreciation towards others in a loving way. I know that sounds dumb, but it's important so that you don't become a complete dick.
My advice is stick to Tindering and conversating with every girl you can talk to. If you learn to appreciate them by enjoying their company and having fun, that'll take you a lot further. By this I mean talking to ugly/fat girls and maybe going on lunch dates with them. There's probably going to be that one landwhale who's into call of duty or whatever pleb game, and you'll actually be able to conversate with her, I'd suggest that first imo.
Last bit: talk to cashiers and labor workers and genuinely ask how their day is going. It makes their day 10 times better because they've been seen and paid attention to and it will make you feel really good inside.
My natural smile is gummy and hideous because of overbite
I've instead had to master smiling by doing it in the mirror every day. It still doesn't look natural but its close enough that I've been told its cute
It. Doesn't. Fucking. Matter.
Say whatever, she's honestly just happy you took the time to start talking to her. It's like madlibs, just think of random to put together and hopefully it's funny.
>Say whatever, she's honestly just happy you took the time to start talking to her.
You and the 300 other guys she got messages from that week, sure.
Anyways, I tried online dating for a year. OKC and Tinder. I left them both for good feeling really bitter and jaded. The whole experience was very demoralizing. A 10/10 model looking person with no profile info whatsoever will receive exponentially more responses/initial messages than any average looking or ugly person. Why? Because these sites are about looks and nothing else. OKC actually took away profile images for a day and everyone talked to each other more. Once they put them back on, it went back to being so painfully shallow.
Dating sounds like a good idea when you have problems socializing, but I'd suggest improving that and meeting people IRL over the internet. I've been away from that shit for 2 months and already I feel better enough about myself, because I'm not all down on myself for not looking good enough for some shallow Tinder whore.
Why are you so concerned about how you look Anon? One thing most guys don't get is that looks honestly don't matter as much to women as they do to us. We're very visual creatures, so that's hard for us to understand. Research shows that women judge you more on your height than any other part of our appearance (sorry manlets) however most guys get over that and understand that's just who they are.
Honestly if you're judging yourself so harshly based on how well you do with random women you message on the internet, then maybe it's better you're getting some fresh air.
Lol women on dating sites want guys who are y'all and white. This is what they go for. Look it up online and see for yourself.
I am a short brown manlet and that's not what is considered attractive at first glance. So I do better in person when people get to know me.
The thing is with tinder is that women typically will almost always match with whoever they swipe right unless they're REALLY ugly or fat.
Women get a wide pick, so saying something interesting is really important.