Is flirting with a girl who has a boyfriend a bad thing? If not, should I expect her to break up with him or to cheat on him?
I never really cared much about that bro-code thing, her boyfriend is not my bro or anything. But should other people's couples be respected when they are not married?
I get along exceptionally well with this girl. I didn't make a move on her before because I was struggling with some personal issues but now that those are over she became some other guy's girlfriend. I'm not saying I'm better than him but my confidence is pretty high in this matter right now.
Imo it is only bad if they have kids and maybe if they are more well off and bought a house together.
If they're like 21 year olds just dating and having sex then go for it. Nobody gets stolen who doesn't want to be stolen...
unless his bf is your friend, then go for it. you gotta make sure you're happy with your life, and if your happiness depends on unhappiness of others, then yeah, you still gotta make yourself happy.
when there's the last slice of cake, you gotta eat it ;b
Well that is a different story that I guess you and the other anon jumped to.
Yes, you're a piece of shit if you flirt to the point at which you're fucking while she is with the other guy. I was talking about flirting and she decides that you are better match, leaves him and starts messing with you.
I agree. You can't trust someone who would outright cheat.
Yeah, forgot to mention this. You should take this seriously, especially if you're a kid who has never experienced mortal danger since actually dying probably doesn't mean anything to you.
If you hit on someone's girl you should be prepared to fight, maybe to the death... or like the anon said you could just get shot in the chest six times and bleed to death.
Really the quickness is what makes the difference.
When you're young and figuring out what you want out of life you should be expected to date different kinds of people. The hypocrisy of the young males of /adv/ comes into play when they talk about how you should be experimenting when you're young but a woman apparently is supposed to stay with the first guy she chooses unless he beats her or something crazy like that, that the girl is an untrustworthy whore if she decides that she would rather be with someone else.
OP, just be careful here since you're so young and impressionable. There are a lot of legit autists and buttmad faggots on /adv/ who have a warped sense of the world and relationships.
what goes around comes around OP.
You try and steal another person's SO, you may find yourself in a similar boat some unknown amount of time later.
on top of that, it's just opening up a can of worms anyway, they cheated with you on someone else to trade up, whats to stop them from doing it again?
if she's cheater, steer clear m80
You're literally stating this
>a woman apparently is supposed to stay with the first guy she chooses unless he beats her or something crazy like that
Correct? Finding someone that you're more compatible with and ending your old relationship to be with that person isn't a valid reason for ending a relationship? Is that what you're saying?
I think what we're fishing for here is to let people do as they please, so long as they don't trample on the emotions or rights of others.
Nobody is advocating cheating, I clearly stated that in my posts as did everyone else.
He is saying that all other possible mates should be ignored after you get into your first relationship, that unless the guy is a disappointment somehow then you should ignore people who are a better match for you. It is just a ridiculous fallacy since you wouldn't know whether you were unhappy with something about your mate unless you saw what you wanted in someone else.
That is why I warned OP about listening to people on /adv/. People here are legitimately autistic and do these mental gymnastics in their heads to justify their thoughts. Someone who may not be very intelligent wouldn't be able to recognize that what the person is telling them is contradictory and completely illogical.
Pretty much this. If she tries to cheat with you then you know she is a bad person you should avoid, if she tells you that she needs some time to think about her feelings and she breaks up with him then she is a good person.
I hope you're saying I'm autist m80
you do know you've linked both of my comments right?
One thing that I think the majority of people don't think about is that the majority of women in relationships don't want to be alone. This is important, because when/if they break up, she's going to need to someone to come to. You can be that guy if you work your way to the top and build a friendly/tense relationship with her.
Most women just don't magically stop having sex once they're out of a relationship and they need someone to comfort her. As most of you autists are thinking, there's a fine line between friend zone and pushing yourself to the front of the line.
If you are genuinely building feelings and a relationship with her, then that's fine. Obviously you can go wrong with this and start manipulating her to break up with him, but if you were that type of guy you wouldn't be asking this in the first place.
If you cross boundaries and sleep with her while they're together, then most likely he's not fulfilling her needs in the relationship in some form. This is where couple's counseling comes in however and not necessarily for you to decide.