My sister and I have become estranged.
A few weeks ago, we were talking relationships and I mentioned that I recently dated an 18-year-old (I'm almost 27). My sis hasn't replied to me since. I'm worried she thinks I'm gross.
Also, I wanna clarify, my relationship with the 18yo was totally non-sexual. We kissed a little, that's all. I was totally Oingo Boingo, not Subway Jared.
I know it's weird. I broke it off with her last month because I just couldn't justify the weirdness to myself anymore, so save the lecture.
I don't even know if that's why my sis hasn't replied to my texts, but I'm entering week two of total radio static. How do I casually mention to my sister that I never poked that kid?
wow, I didn't know grown 27 yr old women could be autists, but here you are...
first, 9 years difference don't mean shit for consenting adults, so get over "the weirdness". you may have broken it off but in the future you'd do right by remembering your life is yours alone to live.
second, stop assuming shit and just fucking ask your sister. What is her age? You're 27 so I'm assuming she's an adult too. treat her like an adult and not and idiot and have a nice, healthy adult conversation.
third, and lastly, what is your profession?
Only in America you get shit like this. 18 is 18 dude, you can be sent off to another continent to kill others by your country, but it's strange if you want to have sexual relations with such people? even here you can drink at 18.
Holy fuck dude, again 18 is not a child, are you sure you didn't diddle a 13 year old?
I'm not a woman.
When you're as young as us, nine years is pushing it. Doesn't even meet the "half your age +7" rule.
I've sent her a few texts moving on to new topics, but no reply. Two weeks.
I'm a graphic designer/dishwasher.
ok you're not a woman? coulda fooled me... in fact, you did.
In any case, ""half your age +7" rule" just proves that you are mentally immature and thats why you were with an 18 yr old.
Regardless, talk to your sister. How old is she? Maybe she is going through her own shit right now and you prattling on and on about your gf BS wasn't helping her. You won't know until you put on your big boi hat and have an adult conversation with your sis.
My sis was pretty happy when I talked to her. She was telling me about her new boyfriend, and we were making plans to meet at the mall that weekend.
I mentioned my ex and bam, silence.
because there is no absolute basis for it. people develop at different ages and to discount a potentially successful relationship because someone aged out of your rule is retarded (as long as shit's legal, I mean).
And who made up that rule? Who perpetuated that rule? And who blindly followed that rule?
No. I'm atheist, my sister's agnostic.
It's a little more complicated than that, though. She's actually my step-sister - I've only known her for five years - and I admitted to her two years ago that I had a crush on her. So maybe she thinks I'm jealous of her new guy, I dunno.
ok here is the meat and potatoes.
She must be around the same age as this 18 ex of yours and is miffed that you owing to jealousy.
Why don't you just pick up the phone and have a pleasant conversation with her. Fucking call to check in on her and see how her days going. Let her know shes on your mind.
just engage her via txt instead
>"blah blah blah happened, what your take?"
>"Whats your opinion on blah blah blah?"
>"Hey remember blah blah blah? Something just reminded me of that blah blah blah"
>blah blah blah random question about bf and her love life (ex: did your bf do anything cool for valentines day?)
report back OP
... and it sucks. Because deep down, I really want to be with my step-sister. We like all the same porn and everything.
I've never been so close to anyone, but things haven't been the same these past few years. I think we're growing apart.
I can accept that I'm not what she wants in love, but I at least want my sis back.
I'd probably send her a text like "hey, haven't heard from you in a while, are you ok?"
If dating the 18 year old is why she stopped talking to you, well, that's kinda stupid, but you can't change who she is or what she thinks.