>Make an account on one of those sugar daddy sites
>Been talking to this one guy for about a day
>He wants to take me on a trip for a week
>Hes starting to ask if i want to learn and explore sexually
>i say "yes but not right away" because a friend taught me to lead them on
>"the trip presumes this"
>Mfw this is definitely a thinly veiled hooker site
What exactly do you think "sugar daddy" means? If you want to do it your way, just date an older man normally, right here at home. But if you're meeting a new guy, and he's paying for a week-long trip, and he's calling himself a "sugar daddy" and planning to spend money on you, then you can bet he wants something in return.
If you're gonna be so naive about this you should be on a different type of dating site
Who is "everyone?" What are you talking about? And what fucking world do you live in where a grown-ass man would buy a week-long vacation for a girl he's never even met, except on a sugar-daddy dating site, just because he wants to "get to know her?" Grow up
The point is, everyone on that site knows the deal. If the "first date" is an expensive vacation, then yeah, he's a sugar daddy, and if you allow him to spend his money on you, he's gonna expect you to put out.
I don't blame you for being freaked out, I wouldn't be into that kind of arrangement either. I just don't know what the fuck you were expecting, or what you actually WANT out of this situation. If you're so grossed-out by the idea of having sex with him, why are you talking to him at all? What is this about for you? Just the money?
>Who is "everyone?"
I have a few friends irl who do this shit.. they say they dont fuck the guys and I dont really believe them anymore. they told me to just "lead them on"
>And what fucking world do you live in where
Of course they're lying, and even if they're telling the truth, they're scum. They're still like hookers, they're just hookers who take the money and leave without putting out. So they're basically just whores AND thieves.
If you actually took their bullshit advice, you'd be putting yourself in a very dangerous position. If you fly away to a foreign country with some grown man you don't even know, who is clearly expecting sex in return for the money he's spent, and then you just try to "lead him on" without holding up your end of "the deal," what exactly do you think is going to happen to you out there? Let's see if you can take ONE guess what a guy like that, would do in a situation like that. He's clearly not all about love and respect and consent, he's about getting what he paid for, and that's why he's on this site.
Get better friends and stop being so naive before it gets you hurt
Dude, you are 18 not 12, wake up. Sugar daddy pays for sex, not for playing in scrabble with you. All these friends saying that they lead SD on and have profits are lying, I bet they slurp their dick religiously.
Expecting someone will spend on you money and expect nothing in exchange is retard-tier thinking.
Then you shouldn't be trying to get them to spend ridiculous amounts of money on you. There are lots of perfectly nice older guys out there who definitely like younger women. But you're probably not gonna find them on a sugar-daddy site, and the first date is gonna look more like "dinner at a local restaurant" than "week-long trip to Europe."
For real though - ditch the "friends." Or at least never take a piece of advice from them again. I don't know what kind of game they were playing with you by trying to get you to sign up for something like this without understanding "the deal." Maybe it's just their way of dealing with the shame of blowing old men for money "oh no there's no sex, I just lead him on" or maybe they were deliberately trying to set you up for a big humiliation because you're clearly naive and they thought it would be funny.
Either way, these are not good people, and you almost made a truly stupid decision because of their influence. Cut them off
Women are so used to getting everything good in life and without consequences that faced with the prospect of free money, they don't even question it.
Suck that dick you shameless whore.
One of my friends who convinced me to do it is a guy. I think hes the only one out of all of them that really believed its sexless, because hes a guy and he probably doesn't know shit about sugar daddies.. The girls though...yeah they probably were trying to set me up & they probably feel guilty about fucking all these old guys
They are whores.
Sugar daddy = old guy wanting to spoil and fuck young girls so he feels himself like a man again
There is no such thing as leading these on because they are experienced and got through a few heartbreaks when they were younger. If you want to get showered by gifts and lead people on look for inexperienced betas who can't tell the difference from acting nice and genuine kindness.
2. Being a Sugar Baby vs Being a Prostitute
Sugar is a lifestyle choice, not a profession. A sugar baby is a woman who wants to date financially secure men who can provide her with the lifestyle she desires. She’s selective about who she dates; a prostitute isn’t picky about who she takes on as a client. The risks involved with prostitution are countless, and include exposure to crime, abuse, sexually transmitted diseases and theft of service. Many prostitutes are also subject to physical and emotional abuse, especially when involved with a pimp. And in Sugar, sex is never a requirement, only an aspiration.
Sugar Daddy sites themselves state one isn't obligated to sex to be a sugar baby.
This is how they market their website, its how being a sugar baby is "supposed" to be but in reality this rarely happens and its hard to find.
Its legal because they're "dating" but theres still sex and its still in exchange for money. At least half the time. All the talk shows, women in denial and the way they advertise their site is very misleading and many people end up in ops situation because of this.
Actual sugar daddy here. Yes OP, sex is expected if you travel together. That being said, it's odd he wouldn't arrange to meet beforehand. I always arrange a normal "date" meeting with no expectations first, to see if we click and we both understand what the sugar relationship entails.