How do I get over my girlfriends past? I'm 19 and lost my virginity to this 17 year old girl that is now my GF. She's been with 5 guys before me, 2 boyfriends and 3 one time things. With her last boyfriend they had sex like 100+ times.
This girl likes me a lot and regrets hooking up with those previous guys as she says they used her. How do I get over this insecurity? It's not effecting me that much but it's something that is always in the back of my head. At first I didn't care because I didn't really have feelings for this girl but as I started to develop more and more feels, it's creeping in.
If you can't get over it, she isn't the one. It's obviously bothering you deeply. Do you think you're worried she'll go back to him? That sort of lack of faith is harmful to a relationship.
It's really not bothering me much. It's just something that it's in the back of my head at times, you know?
She absolutely hates her ex, she's not going back to him.
Will this really work? This is what I was thinking.
She's a kid, until she leaves high school her personality is easily moldable. Give her stability and help her get over her shit. She had to respect you for this to work though so stop being beta.
Time makes the creeping in happen. It's how your sort-of-friends turn into fuckbuddies turns into girlfriends turns into wife turns into divorce turns into a paddlin.
seconfuckingdarily this girl has been with WHAT many dudes? Screams issues. Get away. I drew it up.
What insecurity bothers you? You think you won't meet her sexpectations? Fuck that. If she's a bitch about that, strike her from the fucking record.
The vengabus is comin
You're ignoring that you, my friend, are in a place on a slope known to be slippery.
I don't like being binary, but get attached and proceed or cut your losses and find someone you're more into. And who isn't lol fucked up. lol fucking 5 guys at 17 you gotta be fuckin kidding me jesus wtf is with this world.
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No. He should love himself as well. I never said he should be her submissive doormat wrapped around her finger. He should behave like a decent man and help her get over her issues. If she's a bitch he should dump her.
I have feelings for this girl and she's great though. She cares a lot, is honest about everything and goes out of her way to make me happy.
I want to continue having a serious relationship with this girl but I'm just looking for advice on how to cope with this. My friends told me "Ask yourself, would she mind if you hooked up with a lot of other girls?" And I answered probably not. So why should I care?
It's your first girlfriend and shes fucking 17
No matter what you do chances are it won't last, even less so with the information given.
I get it, she seems super special to you but in reality she aint, you just can't see past the rose colored glasses.
It's her responsibility to overcome her issues. She doesn't need to be bound to a guardian to experience a normal life. He's not her dad or a surrogate.
Cope with it? Eat some pizza and take a nice, footlong shitski. If that doesn't brighten you mood, I don't know what dark place you have sunk in to.
What exactly are you insecure about, OP? That you don't measure up? Trite.
I agree that 5 guys at 17 is slutty but realistically I would have killed myself if I hadn't fucked 5-10 different people a year in my early twenties... I'm in a relationship now with someone who had about as many sex partners as I had and it's very ok once you're somewhat of an adult. You don't think that much about it since you're equally experimented. Now in OP's case, it's understandably harder to cope, but if the relationship and the sex are good and constructive the thought of previous experiences shouldn't be that hard to shake off
This, as a man myself, i was a huge manwhore when i was a teen, horny all the fucking time, fucking all the pussy who crossed my way, but since you get older, you will feel more the need of emotional connection, rather than just sex.
You need to openly confront your fears of inadequacy. Invite 5-6 good buddies over and have them gangbang your GF in front of you. Then you will have lived through your worst case scenario and can move on. I have Ph.D. In psychology.
Wash down your tears with a refreshing Sprite!
I would date her she could get me some stellar discounts
He should set up the gangbang in a McDonalds. That will make the experience more complete. And it's good for business. In addition to my Phd in Psych I have an MBA from the London school of Economics.
You're qualified to write a manifesto about the oppression of the Burger King and the bourgeois class. How the bourgeois are born into a life of "Have it your way" while the burgertariates are forced to work for minimum wage instead of 30 dollars an hour and free blowjobs during breaks