dick sizes. I honestly don't care about the size it feels good to me either way. 5.5 is my current bf I think? and I love it, but he's so embarrassed about it :( it's been like that with my past relationships too. what causes men to get so self conscious about their dick sizes? porn?
I even had a 7.5 still be self conscious, wth.
more importantly, how do I get him to feel better about it? I'm always honest when I say I love it, but it doesn't really seem to do much :/
This issue is bigger than you. Men do not have the same support structures women do. An insecure man is mocked rather than coddled and fed empty compliments. The penis size thing is drilled into men at a very young age. The reason it stick with men is because there's an element of objectivity to it. But only really when it's like 3 inches.
And then you have women who are being 'rebellious' or whatever by making a big deal about size nattering and that doesn't help.
Just try to be there for him and let him know it's good. Don't lie or cuddle hum and for the love of God don't fake or in bed. Just be honest with him. Of course telling him that you want I'm him or it is always comforting. Try dirty talk. Believe it or not that can help self esteem.
Nice quads. Also, congrats on finding the perfect fit. Some people spend their whole life seeking their soul-mate and fail to find the perfect body to come with that perfect soul. You seem to have found the perfect trifecta of body, mind and soul.
I'm not sure you can fix his insecurity. He kind of needs to come to terms with it on his own. My ex's all to used to rave to me about my dick but it never helped because people lie.
What helped, honestly, is fucking my way through half the planet and doing lots of research. Now I understand how and where dick size matters.
Your man needs to learn and I'm not sure how to teach him. Because the truth is that it does matter. A guy has to be physically big enough to be able to reach certain spots. That's hurdle #1. But there are strategies for smaller guys and bigger guys to reach those spots. A small guy can use different positions and techniques to make her pussy hum. Being bigger helps stretch the vagina, but vaginas come in all different shapes and sizes too. There is such a thing as too big. Being smaller can actually mean a guy "fits better" with a specific girl. And there are other pros and cons to being small and big. Yes, being big can have cons. But let's also not lie, bigger dicks are more arousing for women and thus can make orgasms easier. So what, so does being fit. So does being rich. So does knowing how to set the mood and turn her on. It's all important.
Hurdle #2 is emotionally accepting rejection and that he has to use what he has the best that he can. Most other things men are judged by - strength, wealth, compassion... those things can be worked on. Your dick size is your dick size. Every man has to accept it and love it at some point, but that might be hard given today's world where men are judged by the size of their dicks. Gotta love yours.
Your man can make you cum *better* than a guy with a big dick, but he has to put in the work to be good.
A lot of men care about penis size because it's linked to masculinity and there are widespread misconceptions about large penises feeling better, when in reality it's a matter of preference.
Porn also spreads the misconception that it's universally desirable and even normal. Almost every guy in porn has a huge penis, and that's because they need to film it going in and out of a hole. The longer the dick, the easier it is to film and more action there is to show.
Don't make a big deal out of it. If he mentions it to you, tell him "I'm very happy with your penis, and the man attached to it". That's it.
i'm 5'9" and i am 7 1/2" no idea how accurate "statistics" are but i have always been happy with my dick girth and length. in high school i was 7", now i have gained another 1/2" and it's a bit thicker. the more experience i have gained in the past years has helped me gain more confidence in being a better version of me when interacting with women (not sexually). most women i have been with can usually take 6" deep at the most. it is definitely the best feeling having a highly attractive woman able to take my member fully. that versus not being able to. obviously it must feel much better for the woman who can take it all vs not. that size is ideal for you because everybody is different.
what i am saying is that physical ability and skill as well as experience in bed play a definitive role in how one carries themselves as an individual.
maybe your bf is just somewhat shy about his overall appearance in general, not just his cock. the way i look at it is if a man is getting pussy he shouldn't have to worry about his tool size/shape... it's covered up in public anyhow and the revelation of the cock for his Significant Other makes it all that much more exciting because it's like a tease on some level.
i cannot imagine just being with like one or two girls. so many different women prefer different kinds of performances in bed as well as cock sizes. you can't deny you prefer one length and girth over another.