My girlfriend has bad eczema and recently it has gotten worse due to the humidity and lack of sun. So she is more often scratching her fingers and biting off dead skin. It is driving me crazy to the point that I don't know what to do.
I really love her and she's sweet as hell and all that, but when she goes on for an hour doing it, it gets too much.
I noticed she hasn't been using skin cream often, claiming it doesn't help with the itching and there's nothing to be done about it.
It is a sore subject for her since she has been criticized for it by her family growing up.
I told her once that it annoyed me when she did it often, and she was really sad about it.
Does anyone here have experience with this type of thing?
Yes. I have seborrheic dermatitis, a somewhat similar condition. I have tried a million and one different remedies, both natural, medical and nutritional, and nothing has worked to make the scaling and itching go away.
She really can't help it, dude. Don't be an asshole to her, try to show her a little empathy. It's tough to live with a skin condition and a lot of people take their healthy skin for granted.
If she hasn't already, go to a dermatologist. I had it really bad, my face, arms and backs of knees were always itchy, skin was peeling nearly a layer a day. Turns out the shampoo I was using was what was triggering it, so a switch in brands and this skin cream called Cetaphil fixed me right up.
I see, she says nothing helps really. I am trying to understand, but I fear I won't be able to get used to it.
We've been dating for over a year now, and it really didn't start bothering me until five months ago. It breaks my heart that I feel this way about it, cause I feel bad for her.
Yeah, it's really tough. Like >>16786677 said, sometimes it's a product you use, but that hasn't helped my condition and I've used REALLY strong steroid creams to try and control my condition, I imagine it's pretty similar for her.
Imagine never being comfortable with yourself and never finding relief no matter how much you itch and scratch and bite yourself. You can't make it better no matter how much you scour medical journals and the internet for remedies, or how many doctors and specialists you see about it. It really sucks and is much more frustrating for her than it is for you, so stop making it about you. I understand that it's gross but it's probably the only way she finds some measure of fleeting relief from the itching, kind of like how I'm constantly pulling huge flakes out from behind my ears and on my scalp. It feels shitty when someone gets on your case about something out of your control.
You can't control that it annoys you, but maybe just leave the room when she starts to bite and scratch. Or offer to give her a lotion massage. Cetaphil is a good brand, like >>16786677 said. Anything but just saying 'stop it annoys me', that's pretty insensitive and not productive.
I've had eczema before and I figure out one time when I was wankin it that some jizz got on my hand where the eczema was. I left it there because of the little relax period after your done wankin after about 3 min I washed it off and it acctually cleare up some of my eczema. Just jizz all over your gf
>tfw i have a rare skin condition with similar symptoms
>tfw anxiety flares it up
>tfw hearing that OP's gf got depressed over him bringing it up is the first post on 4chan in a long time that made me feel anything
fuck you OP
Coconut oil makes it feel better in the long term. Honey is a solution for "I'm going to rip my skin off right this instant."
Most creams that doctors give make affected areas extremely itchy after application, so I understand her distaste for them. Hopefully her eczema will ease off as she ages.
What's so annoying about it for you? She's the itchy one. If she could make it stop, don't you think she would?
I get it too, on my hands in summer if the weather's right. It's fucking balls not being able to use your hands.
There are certain exacerbating things that I avoid - all my toiletries and laundry powders are soap free always, and if I'm flared up I have to avoid drawing/writing for long periods (because my fingers pressed together causes sweating), avoid petting animals, avoid dust, etc.
So if you want to park her in front of the TV while you dust the whole house with a damp rag, that might be a productive way to divert your attention from her scratching, kek.
Sometimes it can be a food allergy too, if she's never looked into that. And stress.
FYI, creams and ointments are really fucking annoying - they might help with the rash (a bit), but they don't necessarily stop the itching at all, they just leave you stuck there super itchy (sometimes way moreso) AND super sticky and even more unable to do anything with your hands. Can't even lean on your fist while you watch TV, depending on the cream.
I will say, steroid ointments shouldn't be relied upon long term and can cause a withdrawal rash if used for too long - red skin syndrome. Fucking gay.
As someone who's had to live with flareups and even skin infections dye to eczema, it's the combination of the fleeting that helped a great deal:
1. Drink water. Skip soda, tea, coffee, alcohol, whatever - whenever there's an urge to drink anything, replace what you were going to drink instead with water.
2. Sunlight. This one is tough in the winter and you'll just have to deal with it. When spring rolls around, walk around or do something outside.
3. Moisturizer. After every shower, use a non-greasy body lotion all over, especially in the winter.
4. Conditioner. Use every time you wash your hair.
5. Use hypoallergenic and scent-less stuff whenever possible for soaps, lotions, etc. The oils in perfumes and etc are irritants
6. Make sure you're not using too much detergent when washing clothes.
But most importantly, she needs to feel like she can take charge and take control back from her affliction. Instead of criticizing and telling her how it affects YOU, talk about it as if you want to help out and support.
Something you need to know is that itching from eczema is NOT like that of a bug bite. Holding back from scratching is neigh impossible, and you feel an almost orgasmic sense of relief from scratching followed by burning pain because you're destroying your skin - it's almost like being addicted to a destructive drug.
Lol eczema doesn't make you chew off your skin. That is anxiety and a bad habit. She probably sucked her thumb growing up too right? All anxiety symptoms. I've had eczema my whole life and never thought of chewing it off. That's messed up. I do regularly bite my nails though. It's anxiety and it sucks. It's like quitting smoking
Good lord you sounds like a prick. How is this even worth asking advice about?
It's not her fault she's like that man, that shit can be rough. If you really care about her then just help her through it as best you can, even if that means simply doing nothing. If there's some way you can actually help her like help her research various ways to mitigate the effects of eczema then go for it, but don't bring her down like that, man. Telling her it annoys you is just gonna make her feel like shit about herself, especially since she's already been ridiculed about it so much in the past.
Boyfriend has this issue. Great big sores on his thumbs like all the time from biting at them. I try to help out by suggesting unscented products and stuff. I buy him some lotion whenever his breakouts get bad and put it on him for him because he's a lazy shit and he'd rather scratch at it than add another step to his routine. If I notice he's biting or picking at his hands when I'm around I'll hold his hand to stop him. It helps with me not getting irritated about it, but it doesn't do much for his condition overall.