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>Do girls/guys like <insert specific look>?
Some do, some don't. Our answers are not going to help you.
>I'm shy and afraid of people/rejection. What do I do?
Think positive, and get over it by practising and exposing yourself to it.
>I like someone. What do I do?
Ask them out.
>How can I tell if someone likes me?
Ask them out.
>Where do I meet girls/guys?
Anywhere outside. Or online.
>Is my body part big/small enough?
>Am I short/tall enough?
>Someone did something insignificant. What does it mean?
Nothing significant. Stop overthinking it.
Alternative answer: we don't fucking know.
>XYZ happened. Did I fuck it up with this guy/girl?
Maybe, maybe not. We're not in their head, we don't know. No amount of your walls of text will fix that.
>This person did something that hurt my feelings. Why do guys/girls do this?
Because shit people are shit people. It's not a gendered thing
>Would you date a virgin?
As long as they aren't insecure about it. Complexes are a total turn-off.
>Someone has made it abundantly clear they're no longer interested in me. Do I still have a chance?
>Where do I go on a first (or subsequent) date?
Pick one or more of the following: coffee, lunch, dinner, drinks, ice cream, movies, zoo, aquarium, museum, art gallery, <activity in your city>
>That one guy who keeps asking about cuddling in platonic friendships
No one wants to cuddle you. Stop asking
I've had sex with a few virgin men and its really common. All but one couldn't cum the first time. Don't sweat it too much. Enjoy yourselves and unless it becomes a pattern its no big deal
My girlfriend did a good job of making me feel okay about it. I've heard from a few friends that they never did, and obviously I enjoyed the whole experience so it helped my ego (as selfish as that may sound)
crazy thing happened tonight. girl that i like, yet have only met once IRL texted me randomly tonight "HELP ME". I said "wait, what do you mean? Whats going on???" she said "IM HAVING A ATTACK" then she immediately called me. As soon as i answered and heard her uncontrollable sobbing and rapid breathing i knew it was a panic attack. I did breathing excerises with her on the phone for about 15min until her breathing went back to normal. And i just talked the entire time in a calm voice about funny things we have talked about in the past to make her feel better. I know i definitely got her through this moment because she ended up telling me thank you at the very end and then went to sleep.
I might be overthinking this, but could their be meaning in this? She came to me to help her with this.
Well, I guess it certainly shows she trusts you enough to come to with a big issue like that. That or she faked the whole thing for your attention, I don't know how likely that is though it depends how trustworthy and honest you think she is.
>Well, I guess it certainly shows she trusts you enough to come to with a big issue like tha
thats what i was thinking too. I thought that it must me she really must hold a lot of trust in me.
And no, it definitely was not faked
I never received the support of my parents. I believe that pure weas and do not feel any love for me. Say they always make bad decisions, my waifu is bad, my friends are a bad influence and I'm a lousy son.
They never show me support, ever. They are not proud of me for nothing. They not even congratulated me when he goes in Chile after having taken the crest without high school, which refused to pay me. Nothing. Now they tell me I get out of the race for having missed a couple of classes the first semester. I say I'm going back to take, which is happening but do not want to continue. I say nobsoy smart enough to finish the race.
They want to do what my sister be a pinturita who married a weon (actually jerk) with silver and with a tired rimbonbante name. They want my life to look like theirs and that I am a useless weon like my dad that his whole life has been a wageslave.
Not to be so, I want to grow, want to be free, I want to make my own decisions. I will not change medicine at the PUC to fetch 3D girlfriend, I will be an engineer of Marruecos although it took me a thousand years.
Damn you all to hell, I'll do what I want and I will have to accept as I like it or not.
one of my friends was straight for a long time, then he came out as flamboyantly gay. and maintained that for a few years. Just recently he did a "Reverse coming out". and said that he's not attracted to guys anymore, and likes girls again.
This is an emergency, crush that friend-zoned me 1 month ago suddenly wish me luck, health and success etc on Lunar New Year (we're both Asian ethnic). I have stopped messaging her after the rejection because I want to forget her and I feel like she gave me wrong signals and baited my attention. So what do I do?
I posted this in the last thread and got one response but I'm hoping for a little more input.
I'm a sophomore in college, and there's a senior girl that works in my dorm. I think she's really cute and I want to ask her out, but I only see her while she's working and don't know her well at all. We've had a couple of conversations just about where we're from, what we're studying and other insignificant stuff but that's about it. She doesn't seem overtly into me, but she's also just a pretty quiet girl in general. Would it be weird or creepy to ask her out while she's working, especially since if she turns me down we'll still have to see each other every now and again? I personally wouldn't care if she turned me down but I don't want to make it weird for her to have to see and I really don't want to be known among her coworkers who I also see constantly as "that guy."
Well, I'm not sure for everyone, but I've talked to a couple straight guys here that tried to be gay because they were so lonely and it didn't feel right at all. I can't really think of any good reason why someone would choose a sexuality that they don't feel deep in their core.
Not that creepy to me. Just a thought but what do think of saying something along these lines:
"Hey, I know this is kinda weird but would you like to possibly get a cup of coffee sometime or maybe a dinner?" and say it with confidence, keep a smile and look hopeful. If she says no, I know this is easier said than done, just say "okay well see you around then"
Love is important to you? well, i met some women which thinks love doesn't matter, only sex, physical appearance, and short relations. And if it's important, why many times did you end with a man that doesn't feel love for you, having better choices in sight?
I've been out with a girl three times, essentially platonically. I'd like to specifically ask her on a date.
I don't want to make a big deal about it, even though for me it kind of is. Is there a way to phrase it as "no pressure" or explain that I'm ok with her rejection, without sounding like I don't care?
I do, but I get if she's not interested. It's cool if she's not.
I don't think so, but its certainly not immutable. I've seen my friend go from an urge to be a girly faggot, to being a normal heterosexual. Unsurprisingly these urges fluctuated with his relative self esteem.
>feel like she baited me
She's probably just being friendly and doesn't want your dick.
I had a similar exchange that I responded to in the spirit of friendship and lead nowhere, not even friendship. If you want to be friends with her go for it, if you want to date her I wouldn't bother, but at least be courteous enough to respond.
Why is lifting weights a "bad" hobby? Had this conversation with a girl earlier, and she told me I should never admit to lifting as a hobby and should just say I read and things like that.
If you want to be friends with this girl then yeah it would be nice to repeat the gesture but if you really don't want to talk to her anymore then you have the freedom to just ignore it.
I was diagnosed with a chronic type of autoimmune disease (isn't going to kill me...yet) recently and was wondering when to bring it up if i somehow get into a relationship. Is it better to mention it earlier or later?
This girl thinks it's boring.
It isn't a bad hobby, but it might be something that's difficult to talk about for people who don't understand it. Even if you don't read books, you could still have a conversation relating to reading, storytelling, some shit like that. But if you don't lift weights, it might be hard to build a conversation from that subject.
No, she DID bait me. She was fucking friend-zone another guy at the same time which is the reason for my pre-mature confession to her.
I thought she and the guy were dating or about to date. Turn out "we're just friend anon ;)". I checked with her friends, they are not dating. The guy is a real fucking beta-orbiter and she acts like they were going steady too.
Not a girl here so feel free to ignore me, but if you don't know someone very well and your main hobby is lifting, depending on the way you phrase it you may come off as kind of superficial and bragging about your body.
Yeah, If she is going to avoid me then fuck you, that is really a "good thing". We'll see.
I know her type, anon. I should have known better than confess my feeling to her. I wasn't going to until she appeared with that beta-orbiter out of the blue out of fucking no where. I paniked.
She DID bait for my attention, anon. I've been through enough to recognize it.
Can a guy be too good looking? Like, where he would have to show explicit interest, before you think you might have a chance? Also, do you think a resting bitch face, combined with good looks, is a superficial curse?
Most hot guys have a resting bitch face. Brett Morin does a good bit on it-- hot guys always look like the sun is in their eyes for some reason; it's part of the appeal, honestly.
I have a girlfriend, I am dominant with her on sex and generally aggressive to other people, mostly when it comes to her. She says she doesn't care about poltics, and I made her leave her friends for me, but I still want her to be a good girl and agree with me on the things. Is there anything I can do to try to pursue her? I always make clear she is mine and I like to show her my strength, but it still doesn't work. Generally, I am always lovely to her and calm, even because she is the first person I loved, and she really loves it, but still doesn't share the same opinions. I don't want her to pretend or be forced to though, I just want her to see I am her man and don't mind giving herself completely to me. What can I do about this? It's kinda hard for me to be more "masculine", because it kinda affects me easily when it comes to her. What would attract you the most and make you give yourself completely?
It isn't. I don't even let her go out without me or my permission, and I choose what she dresses but she still isn't a good girl.
To both sexes; How important is it to you that someone you want to have a relationship, friends or otherwise, that THEY have friends besides you?
I personally find it kind of off putting to learn someone has a fuck ton of other friends they know because I start wondering how much more important and capable they are than I am. I wonder how we'd compare with what that shared person thinks of us. I don't like saying it, but I guess it feels less special if I'm just one of many to someone. But I don't typically go for outgoing people to begin with for reasons like that.
The only girl I have been with, stopped being with her friends when we got together, and their friendship slowly disappeared. Honestly, I think there is something wrong if your lover cares about other people besides their family and you.
White females: do you stigmatize white men who have relations with non-white women? I've been with a handful of latinas, a few asians, and a string of black women at college and I'm not sure if it bothers white women or not.
Would it come off as odd to you if you met someone you had good chemistry with, someone you find interesting, and then when you ask them about friends or hobbies, they tell you they don't really have any? I have a full time job, few hobbies that I'm super into, and am social as I need to be. People have even hit on me as a stranger before, but I don't really find pleasure being around people for the sake of it. I think delving into an interesting individual would be fascinating, but I do feel like the fact that I don't enjoy socializing outside of set events would scare some people off think I'm incapable of making friend or something's off with me, when it's a choice.
Hm. Got it. You are a bunch of disgusting liberal leftists who think women should be sluts and enjoy their lives riding the cock carrousel. Fucking betas, you should as well visit Tumblr and Reddit.
Guy here, I would want a girl to at least have one or two female friends that she could spend time with and do girly things with her that I can't. There's definitely an upper limit though, like if she has too many friends she's probably way more extroverted than I am and there will probably be too many days where she wants to go out and do things while I just wanna stay in and watch a movie or something.
Sounds like you do care about rejection. Even if you don't, you shouldn't spell it out for her. That would make it seem like you don't care. Whether rejection is important to you or not, it's her responsibility to speak up, not yours to predict. I'd casually invite her to something with a clear romantic connotation, or just pull a move on her. All my relationships have started with a friendly get-together where my crush happens to break the touch barrier because he feels like it. ;)
All I can say is, LOL. Good on you for having standards.
They should have SOME friends so they're not co-dependent on you, but not so many that you feel unimportant. A good partner will make you a priority, but no matter how important you are at the moment, someone with lots of friends will have no qualms with leaving you. It happened to me.
Would it be a deal breaker, if you would know that a person you met takes antidepressants? Would you think, that the person isn't like itself?
Or to be clear
Did you ever rejected someone like a date or friend, because he/she takes antidepressants?
During a quiet casual moment start a conversation:
>What are your thoughts on X?
Be open-minded and listen thoughtfully. If you disagree, ask questions and do your best to understand why someone might develop a different point of view than yours
Depends on the severity. Gripping and hugging my arm is nice for instance, but you should also have some level of tact too.
I'm not very invested in how many friends they have, or the lack thereof. I expect her to have her own life and not live vicariously through me however.
Don't do it for attention. If you genuinely feel like it though, go for it. If I just plain felt like hugging or whatever the moment spurred, I'd do it, who cares who sees
Also nothing distasteful. I don't like seeing some douche grabbing his gf's ass in public places where kids can see it and I'd only do it if I was horny and knew I could get away with it without being caught or offending somebody. People who do it in the open as some sign of alpha dominance are rude as fuck
holding hands and hugging is ok.
But I think kissing and making out in public is gross.
I was on the metro the other day and there was a couple sitting over in front of me playing tonsil hockey for at least 10minuted... Gross
This girl and I had a brief conversation on fb. We went to the same school or whatever as kids
All I know I wanna fucc
Struck up a chat with her and it was all good. Brief but good. She said "feel free to hit me up anytime :)"
I feel like thats a little more than just an empty polite thing to say
Im still just talking to her via text though. I hate texting, feels like you have to force chemistry when I know I could do better in person.
How can I build up meeting her in person from where Im at. Also I dont know what my chances are because I dont even know if shes taken, and there were rumors about her being into chicks.
All I know is shes 10/10 and I wanna at least try my luck but dont want to be weird
No way to be confident about "I know this is kinda weird."
The best way to make her feel like it's no big deal for her to let you down is by not being overly concerned about it.
Nice generalizations. If it bugs you, don't get involved with people like that.
It doesn't give you anything to talk about. Reading books, you can discuss books, hikes you can discuss where you went, etc.
Don't mention it until you get exclusive or serious. Depends on what your pace is, but not too soon.
You're wording this as if you're expecting girls to ask you out. Real funny.
I don't particularly care if they have friends, so long as their lack of friends doesn't mean they're going to suffocate me.
If I'm not trying to get with him, why do I give a shit who he dates?
Hugging, holding hands, and light pecks are OK. Making out is not.
Got one for women too: How important is the quality of a guy's place to you? Cleanliness, design, style, taste, etc. Anything in particular that you really like or hate?
I do care, that's why I said I did. But I hear you. Just making a move isn't really an option, I have to ask first because of a cultural difference.
That's fair. I am pretty sure I can handle it if she rejects me, so Ill just ask and roll with it.
I think my friend likes me
>read the OP, faggot
but I don't like her Yet
how do I get closer to this woman to see if I can return the feeling?
Cleanliness is really the only important one. I'm not a clean freak, but I don't want to feel dirty just because I hung out at your place.
Hang out with her more. Make more of an effort to talk to her.
This is an even dumber question than in the OP.
You get closer to someone by spending time with them and having conversations. Your close friends are "close" because you spend more time with them than others.
I want a blowjob. Whats the best way to find a girl to give me one. Looking for a 8/10 minimum.
for the 8/10's and up out there, for you to give a random guy a blowjob, what are the circumstances.
It's just fairly inaccessible. Lifting isn't really a hobby, it's more of a lifestyle. It's not something to kill a Saturday afternoon, it's something to schedule throughout your week.
Plus it seems superficial, and if you actually go in depth it becomes too complicated.
People generally think of fitness as just a means to an end, not a passion, and people who are 'good' at it make normal people feel inadequate.
It's like a girl saying makeup is her hobby. Yeah, actually doing it to a certain standard and variety takes a lot of knowledge, but it's not something that can carry a conversation.
This happened to me last week. My friend kept insisting that this girl, that was at the restaurant last week, had the hots for me. I'm honestly 50/50 on it. Here's the story
>walk into restaurant to pick up pizza
>while waiting in line, notice a qt across from me, she smiles, I smile back
Just common courtesy right?
>wait for pizza
>notice qt sat in the table front of me (she was sort of facing me)
Mind you that the restaurant is empty and there were plenty of tables.
>she keeps playing with her hair and looking over at me
>smiles a few times at me
Shortly after, my friend and I left. She kept telling me that her(qt) body language meant that she wanted me to go up to her.
What do you think?
I comes off as being a try hard. In all honesty you shouldnt say you lift stuff for a hobby. Sounds conceited and useless.
You should say you train your body. If you never have a need to bench 3pl8s why are you trying to bench 3pl8s. Thats what she thinks.
Do you do anything active that uses your body. Lifting in order just so that you can lift is kinda lame.
I wouldn't really think much of it. I just found out the other day my brother's been on antidepressants for months, I had no idea.
Mental illness doesn't have to be a bigger deal than it has to be. Pretty much everyone's a little mental in some way at some point. You should be more embarrassed to have Codrall in your medicine cabinet (stop taking it, people, you're making the whole office sick!).
it boils down to a couple flaws:
>they're socially crippled or refuse to socialize in any setting
>they're shit at communicating anything meaningful about their lives
>they have no ambitions/dreams
>they're checked out of whatever "chemistry" that's between us
I'll stigmatize the fuck outta you if you persued them and they were obviously ugly, if they were actually decent looking then you can have a pass.
I'd think he has confidence issues, but give him a hand clap when he comes out of his basement.
No, because that's awkward to be around a bunch of fuck heads babbling about the thing you're doing when you honestly don't give a shit. Plus it should have been a date, but now it's not even an idea.
>see girl wearing nice sweater
>want to compliment girl
>say to girl "nice sweater! reminds of those sweaters Amy wears on the big bang theory
>girl get mad because I called her "ugly"
why are girls so batshit insane?
>say she dresses like the socially awkward, frumpy girl from a show famous for a hot blonde
>why is she so crazy?
She doesn't know you think Amy is pretty, because part of Amy's character is that Amy isn't pretty.
I invited a girl I'm interested in to visit a sight-seeing area I was interested in (a local forest, I'm foreign). She explained she had gone recently and found it boring, so she declined. The next week I invited her to lunch and she accepted.
Would you reject an invitation from a guy you like even if it WAS just the two of you?
So this very cool girl sat next to me in one of my university classes today, and it really made my day. We had idle banter the whole period, and shared some smiles and laughs. I noticed that she also started imitating my body postures at some point, too.
I'm pretty clueless with girls, but I'm okay socially. If she sits by me again, should I make a move, or just try to befriend her? FYI I am really in need of some friends down here right now, as my last group abandoned me after one of the girls tried to get with me and I declined (they were all girls).
I have an autoimmune disease myself, but I was diagnosed over 10 years ago.
I usually mention it after a few dates because I don't want people to get involved with me if they're not okay with taking care of me/being by my side when I get sick (and it happens fairly often). Might not be the best way to talk about it in terms of "success", but I found out it might be a dealbreaker for some and I prefer talking about it sooner than later, when I already feel something for them. If a stranger tells me "You're not worth the effort" it doesn't hurt as much as when someone I have feelings for says so.
I usually just say "I have some health problems, they are chronic and can be rather important, but I am handling it well and things are going good, so there's really nothing to worry about".
Good luck for your disease!
so this is now an ugly girl? in what world?
She's not the standard pretty girl.
In the whole tv show everyone makes fun of her because she's not attractive, she dresses bad and she's socially awkward.
Not the best comparison for a compliment.
Is she attractive? Not just 'not ugly', actually attractive? Do you think comparing a girl to her is a compliment? Would you be okay with being compared to Sheldon or one of the other guys?
I'm not sure if there are any problems with being a confident person. Within reason anyways, too much can lead to arrogance.
Bit after you get exclusive I think. Also varies on what the illness is. Celiac runs in my family which is an auto immune disease as I understand for instance, but it's mostly just an annoyance as long as no one throws crumbs everywhere. It's hard for me to give a blanket statement on this topic.
Television, where she's constantly compared to these two. It's unrealistic on purpose, but it's still obvious to most people.
You fucked up. Now you know not to do that again.
Don't feel like making an extra thread, so here it goes.
To anyone with BDSM experience, especially Dom/sub dynamic:
How do I get into dom "headspace"?
I'm a 24yo male who as of now is pretty much vanilla. My gf is a 26yo sub and I've recently been trying to be more dominant. But I can't seem to think of anything (fyi, it would just be sessions, she's not into 24/7).
We've already established boundaries, etc.. and I can see myself being dominant per sé.
For the time being we've avoided any frustration by having her be a slave to a domme we know occasionally.
>inb4 kuk, etc...
>(You would not be alone, some of his friends would be there too).
Depends if I know them, or if I'd be a serious third wheel in addition to already being a fish out of water for the activity itself. In which case, I'd probably decline but (if our relationship permits) casually suggest another activity the following weekend or something.
1) how did you start exploring your sexuality?
2) my ex, who is now my best friend, was very, very prude and we started dating. I taught her how to masturbate and I was around for her first orgasm ever. is that very unusual? would you think that is a weird thing to have someone, especially a male, to teach you how to cum?
Would you date someone who you knew was going to have long term issues regarding any relationship?
A female friend of mine who I am very close recently went through a rather messy relationship that ended with the other party moving across the country in large part to put distance between them. The other party is married and their relationship sort of came to light (they weren't sleeping together, but they were getting very close) and now they're gone.
Thing is, my friend is convinced heart and soul that one day they'll come back into her life. I was there for her for a lot of this, helping talk her through it and deal with it. She told me everything and in a weird way it brought us a lot closer together. She doesn't want to put her life on hold waiting for that moment but she kept saying that she'll be ready when they come back....which I pointed out basically made any relationship between now and a hypothetical 'then' a timebomb. She said maybe that's just what she had to deal with.
Fast forward a bit and she's been feeling better overall but I don't think her feelings about the issue have changed any...but they do seem to have changed some regarding me. We've been friends and nothing more for a while but suddenly it feels like she's moving much closer. Whether she's doing it as a coping method or just because she's interested in me now that the dust has settled a bit, I don't know. But I honestly don't know if I like it. I'm not sure I want to deal with the potential relationship issues she might have as her boyfriend. And I certainly don't want to risk our friendship.
So I guess this isn't specifically for guys or girls, just looking for some insight from both.
Would you think it's strange if I told you I haven't masturbated in about 10 months?
If you asked me why I'd say it started as an experiment, hoping for (and getting) more energy, being sick of pornography and the time lost due to masturbating.
I probably wouldn't say at first that it was also to objectivize women less (I wasn't that bad before though) and to increase stamina during sex (worked like a charm, 15-30' to 1-2h).
females tell you your'e good looking however you just don't see it, maybe it's a confidence thing or maybe how good the girl you wanna ask out puts you off. what is the best way to get over your lack of confidence and speak freely to woman ? I'm 20 and i find it hard finding confidence to walk up to a girl and start a conversation, i'm always thinking what should i say, what will she think of me and if the woman in question is particularly looks great, that throws me off to an extent
Face to face I find this girl super easy to talk with. We seem to agree on a lot and I feel like she's very sincere.
Texting it feels like I'm talking to a different person. She'll just ignore shit I say or never answer a question I ask.
Is that normal, for people to behave very differently in text? Should I just call when I ask to see her again?
A lot of people are bad at texting, maybe she's a busybody too so she can't answer right away and then forgets. Maybe calling is indeed a better idea. By not answering stuff do you mean she doesn't answer when you ask if she has time on Saturday or some meaningless stuff? If the first one maybe she's just the kind ot get along with everybody and has different people to hang out with. If the second then she's just bad at texting
>Is that normal, for people to behave very differently in text? Should I just call when I ask to see her again?
You could always try that.
And yes, people sometimes act differntly on the phone. I myself for example tend to talk a lot face to face, but my phonecalls are 30 seconds at most and texts only as long as they need be.
I've been seeing this girl, but she doesn't want to hangout at my place, and doesn't invite me to do anything with her. She will agree to go and do something if I offer it, and sometimes she'll forcefully pay.
I'm at a loss what to do or how to handle this.
I'm a little uncomfortable telling people how much I make, especially romantic prospects.
I made just shy of $5,000 a month and I only work 15-20 hours a month. I manufacture candles, soaps, shampoos, etc, but primarily candles (about 80% of my revenue is candles). I'm only 25.
Some of my friends work in the same industry and might think it's flirting telling a woman how much they make, but it makes me a little uncomfortable. In an ideal world, I would never tell someone else how much I make. Do I have the wrong mindset? I don't mind talking about my job, but I'd personally feel inadequate if my date told me she makes this kind of money.
In the end I don't want to make my dates uncomfortable.
>try to ready my mind for dating
>go buy condoms
>spaghetti dimensions are now opening omnidirectionally
>cashier is an extremely super cute girl with an extremely super cute voice that surpasses the cuteness of all the puppies in the world combined
>my brain is literally boiling and my eyes are screaming at me as my ears are strangling my wind pipes
>mfw I don't even have the balls to buy a bunch of lubricated latex balloons
Well at LEAST I fucking tried.
I mean they're just condoms, it's not like its a hint or some shit like that.
I agree with your mindset. When you first start dating someone, you don't just throw everything on the table for them to see, you build up trust. If someone asks, just tell them that you don't feel comfortable sharing that information.
That being said, you need to disclose your finances before getting married.
How often do bar fights happen?
I'm asking since I can never hold back during a fight, no morals or ethics, if a person attacks me, I no longer consider it a person but recognize it as an animal and will defend myself accordingly as with any other animal, by either running away like the fastest nignog ever, or grab the heaviest/sharpest object and disable my attacker permanently.
And then I get a prison sentence of course.
So even if some testosterone radiating super good looking Incubus tier manly man were to ask for sex just like that he'd fail 99/100 or 999/1000 of the time?
Just go around the town/city and just ask?
I mean this is literally cheaper than paying for sex if you think about it.
>So even if some testosterone radiating super good looking Incubus tier manly man were to ask for sex just like that he'd fail 99/100 or 999/1000 of the time?
Well not quite, but you get the drift.
Of course there are people who have higher rates of success and lower rates of success. But statistically and soeaking, yes. If you were to try this with every woman you meet (which is not really advised though), chances are you'll find one or more women willing to sleep with you in an instant.
Greentext story incoming
>Girl from Tinder, we've only met once due to circumstances, but we both wanted to see each other again
>Texting all the time
>Last Saturday I ask her out to a Valentine's Day date
>She was planning to see a movie with a friend, but she says "I'll see what I can do about that :P"
>It's Tuesday now, we texted a lot since then but she didn't touch the subject
Should I ask her again? Or wait? I got no problem with waiting, but I need to buy tickets and stuff, so the earlier she confirms the better. Pushing for confirmatiom might make me seem needy though.
I'm a skinny guy. I have a gf atm and I've had multiple girls being interested in me. It's definitely possible, and I'm shy as well, and quite average in looks. Make up for it with personality, humour and a nice attitude I guess. Seems to work
It can hurt your chances, but it's nothing to get beat up over. You will find someone, I can guarantee you that. BUT if it realy bothers you, try to gain weight through exercise. It helped me (but I lost weight again when I quit, but it's easier to understand how much you should eat a day that way)
I mean male masturbation is usually just fap until the sperm comes out and then the penis gets sore, and I could continue, but after having that one orgasm and ejaculation, I have no reason to continue after that, and then I wait until one or two days until I fap again.
But in my opinion, I find female masturbation more interesting, since you girls could orgasm more than once in a day from various ways of stimulation.
Oh, well, I'll write a tl;dr version just for convenience's sake:
If you get a "maybe :P" as an answer when you ask a girl out, should you wait till she gives you a definite answer or ask again a few days later?
Through social circles mainly and at parties. Went to a school that was social at the core and met other people through those friends I aquired there. One of the friends I met at that school later became my gf after having chased her for a long time (worth it tho). Be patient and understanding, that's important
>ask girl on a date
>she says okay but that she's coming out of a long and difficult relationship and doesn't want to engage in something right now
So basically yes to the date, but no to a relationship? I don't understand what it means. Yes I'm a bit socially retarded.
My girl friends say she means she wants something casual.
Any input is appreciated.
I know this isn't /soc/ but honestly, do I look bad? I think I look like shit. And a girl asked for a photo of me so I sent this. She hasn't seen it yet, but I feel so nervous. I honestly think I look like shit and she's going to laugh
She wants you to be patient and might want to pursue something more serious in the near future with you.
That was my case when this happened and now we're happily together. Might not be your case, but try to be patient
I asked a girl out a couple weeks ago. She thought I was joking and said no because she wasn't convinced it was a joke at her expense. She looked very uncomfortable, maybe a little upset, so I excused myself and wished her a good day.
Is there a way to salvage this?
Well, not me. I started dating my boyfriend when he was 6'3" x 160-165 lb. Since we met he started training more and eating decently and got to 180-185 lb (mainly muscles). I honestly found him more attractive before.
But it's just a matter of taste. Of course most girls (and most guys) like a fit body, but being a bit skinnier/chubbier isn't a deal breaker for most, and can be a turn on for some. Relax and feel confident.
Kind of. We went to highschool together four years ago; we weren't friends, only peers. I came upon her at the gym and we do a lot of things together (again, as peers: we go to the same badminton club and same gym). We've said hello but never hung out or anything. I'm 24, she's 24. I know she's single and has never had a boyfriend (or girlfriend), or even been on a date.
If you (woman) turn down a guy, is it weird seeing him again?
I asked a girl out at her work. She said no. No biggie, I continued on with my day. I won't be going back into her workplace, but I am frequently in that area for work. I'm dreading running into her again if it'll make her uncomfortable. "there's that guy who asked me out, I better gtfo immediately", etc. I just want to go back to strangers and not make it weird.
Let some time pass and then ask her to talk. Tell her you are genuinely interested in her and try to be calm and kind. Try to understand why she thinks that you're making fun of her.
Been seeing someone and having sex frequently. Unless it has been in a car, Missionary has been the go-to position.
Ladies - what is your opinion on Missionary? I know "it doesn't hurt to mix it up a bit", but does consistent Missionary bore you or am I being autistic and looking at it too analytically?
What are some easy ways to make one become more attractive in general to girls? Already plan on dropping glasses for contacts and I've started working out often (some girls have already begun to notice) and I often get complimented on my clothes as well.
Contacts aren't necessarily going to make you more attractive. To answer your question: hair, skin, body, clothes, demeanour and body language are what makes someone more attractive.
Choosing a good pair of glasses can make your face look better.
Get a good haircut and facial hair style. Use good cologne.
Be confident. Be kind. Treat people nicely. Be assertive. Make people laugh.
yea i forgot to mention, i also plan on getting a haircut too.
Clear as day. Never really had problems with that besides the fact that i'm a darkie.
Gotten much better over the last 6 months ever since I started working out.
I'm fine with that as well
This is where I need EXTREME HELP tho. I'm known by most of the girls I know as the funny/sweet/nice/goofy guy and I want to be able to change this but it seems nearly impossible. I never get taken seriously but I've been trying to refrain from being goofy by being more quiet and reserved.
I'd prefer the funny/sweet/nice/goofy guy over the quiet and reserved one. I know that I can have fun and enjoy myself with the former, I'd expect a lot of awkward silences with the latter.
true. i think i need to be more assertive, but when you are known as the goofy guy, it's very hard for girls that i'm interested in to even take my advances seriously. I got very lucky last month when me and this very attractive girl started talking, but things ended between us and I never even got to hook up with her before that either.
well, i've asked some two close friends that happen to be girls and they've told me that i'm too nice. i'm guessing i have to act like a challenge but i don't know how to be a challenge since i don't get girls/never hooked up
There's a difference between being nice and being a doormat. They were probably telling you that you're a doormat. There's nothing wrong with a genuinely nice guy, but a doormat is meek and unattractive.
>Clear as day. Never really had problems with that besides the fact that i'm a darkie.
You that looking after your skin involves things like making sure it's protected from the sun, right? It's not just about acne
And its actually becoming more and more tolerable these days.
I mean what's the fucking point locking up an idiot for dooming their child a much more worse fate? THAT is punishment enough in my opinion.
guys, how do you feel about male strippers?
I was recently at a bachelorette party where male strippers had been ordered. Everything was ok at first. I was feeling awkward but everyone else was super into it, but once the G-strings came off, the craziness began, basically the bride was coaxed into licking and sucking whipcream off of the male strippers' dicks, and other girls at the party did the same... I was the only single woman there mind you.
Now I realize this might not be normal behaviour at all and it might have been a crowd who were way more sexually liberal coupled with some pretty seedy male strippers... but I dunno, female strippers you aren't allowed to even touch... but male ones rub their dicks on you.
On the off chance this is real, no normal guy is even remotely okay with that. I would go as far as refusing to date a girl who's done this. I imagine the guy would call off the marriage.
I need advice from anyone who's been in such a situation because I'm at a loss and can't help.
My friend has been in a relationship with this girl for more than a year now. it started off with him wanting a fuck buddy and her hoping for more because she finds him amazing.
Fast forward to now : he lives with her, and the last time they had sex was a long ass time ago. He tried everything to get her going but nothing works because she's either too busy/tired/angry about something. He's starting to be mad about it.
As for her, she constantly mentions that she feels lesser than him and is happy to have him, that she's afraid she'll lose him. Every time he mentions something going bad in their relationship she breaks into tears and apologizes.
Thing is for all her talks about her hating how easily tired or angry she gets, or how frustrated she is to feel like she doesn't deserve him, she never shows any interest in sex.
Any ideas as to how to solve this?
This sort of behavior disgusts me. While I don't see anything terribly wrong in strip-club bachelor/bachelorette parties (cause that's the point of a those parties, one last wild night before a lifetime of strict exclusivity), it should definitely stop at looking. Touching and especially licking the stripper's genitals should be a big no-go.
Women, I'm afraid a girl(s?) I know/are extremely suggestive is/are attracted to me, without me having opposite feelings. Keep in mind that I'm single myself, and am not planning to change anything too soon. What is the least harmful/hurtful thing to do if this person collects enough courage to ask me out. I don't want to hurt anyone. I just want to be friends.
I don't have any problem with male strippers as a concept, but what those girls did is not ok. There's a huge difference between watching some naked guys and sucking their dicks. That's some fucking cheating right there.
I think I've been mentally scarred by my mother. I have never had a girlfriend nor been with a girl and I'm gonna be 30 in a month. I mention my mother because she was my only parent and raised me to respect women. But I also see on my facebook girls that I know sharing images like "If he says you're pretty, he just wants to fuck you".
My question is, if I were to compliment a girl in that way "I think you're cute/pretty" would it be seen that way? Should I try to compliment an article of clothing instead? How do I follow up should they just respond "thanks"? One of the reasons why I don't initiate because I don't know how to follow up and I don't want to create an awkward situation.
Tell them that. It will hurt them, getting rejected does hurt. You can't stop that.
Even making it clear you value their friendship could make it worse, depending on how deeply they like you.
There's nothing bad with wanting to fuck someone. There's nothing bad with asking them out or complimenting them.
Grab your balls and go for it.
I used to think I should be all subtle and gentle and nice. Turns out being natural, confident and just asking works fairly well. Be direct. No fuss.
I get all this, but I don't think you understand how terrible my condition is. It's almost paralyzing, or something. I been told all this before and I understand it, but I can't bring myself to do it.
"grab your balls" dude. I'm 30, basically. I haven't done that yet and I'm long since past my prime. It's not that easy.
>past my prime
Realize nobody else cares about that, though. If you are looking at people your own age, it's an absolute non-issue.
Have you tried joining a dating site? Hear me out: you can spell out your personality and intentions up front, and any interested women will (in theory) understand that before contacting you.
>girlfriend and I have been chatting all day, talked on the phone once earlier about plans for this weekend
>randomly calls me a half hour before I need to leave for work
>tell her a few things that have happened during my day (just recently bought a car, talked to her about that and also mentioned more about plans for the weekend)
>she doesn't want to do any of the talking
>try getting her to talk ("how was your day?" "what have you been up to?" "you excited for this weekend?")
>"fine" "nothing" "yeah"
>seems like she doesn't want to talk, keeps giving short answers
>she's the one who called me
Why? She isn't upset or anything and she isn't losing interest, we're still very into each other at this point in the relationship (only been together for 1.5 months).
>no one wants to cuddle you
hey fuck off. i would hug anyone who needs a hug.
(unless cuddle means something else, i should probably use google before posting stupid shit)
but /guy/ here so nobody cares :DDDDDdDdd
If you suddenly start talking to me whenever you see me, talk to me after class, and invite me to study, are you trying to work up the courage to ask me out? Or are you just being friendly?
If a girl goes through abortion isn't she dead?
Lol true that, you can't see round house chuck norris kicks or Mike Tyson Knockouts for sure, it's alot of fumbling and grabbing and lying down and shit, you probably should run, just run, you don't want to get hit by a beer bottle, shrapnel's bad for you
What if she was raped (and didnt had access to the plan b pill)? What is worse? To have the baby of a rapist and be a single mother for ever or save the baby from a life of misery?
lad here with a terrible problem
just about to finish hs in a couple of months
now, during the first two years of hs i was a complete shut in but somehow during the third year i completely opened up and got very active with people and started actually spending time with people but one particular person was a girl in my class with whom ive made quite a friendship in very small amount of time. this friendship was based only on our similar music tastes and mutual affection for parties and such events. so we started going out (not in a sense of dating) to as many as we can find and i couldnt have been happier to have found such a person and a friend
the problem arose a month or two before the nye when i started falling for her and after the nye it completely worsened. i am now constantly thinking about her , my mental capacity is all devoted to thinking about her and its exhausting me completely. i of course had to confess to her how i fealt because it literally became unbearable and we have talked about it numerous times and every time i mention it or something, she responds that she is very confused and doesnt really know what to do she says that she knows how this could possibly unfold and losing me would devastate her (i know for a fact that that is true based on another event) and to make matters worse, i myself am a person with 0 intelligence about these things which makes me even more of a dunce and that makes me angry
i both love her tremendously but also hate her, when shes around i wish shed go away but when shes not i wish she were always by my side. its gotten very destructive and it completely interrupts my daily activities and completely clogs my thoughts
can anybody here try to provide a helpful peace of advice on what i should do, id be very appreciative
i thought about confronting her as to why cant she just reject me and then id distance myself but that would also be very hard on me because i cant think of a day without seeing her at east once
ive unexpectedly fallen for a female friend from my class after being best inseparable friends for a year and after confessing to her we dont know what to do, im an idiot for this stuff and she would hate losing me if things go badly and know the feelings i have for her are so strong and are messing me up
What happens after you ask someone out and they say YES?
>have casual friend
>we've had lunch one-on-one several times
>planning to ask for a formal date next time we meet
If the answer is yes, I'm worried about getting over-excited and quickly becoming too clingy. Is it ok to text more? Can I compliment more? How much is too much?
>Hey I'm in your town if you wanna hang out
I don't want to hangout. I feel burned and upset and disappointed. Went on 6+ dates with this girl, but she's weird and idk what she wants and when I ask her, she says "idk".
Female, here. I really like gangbangs but I've never met a guy who was willing to participate in one, let alone 3+. And don't say I can just grab some random dudes, that is just not happening! Is being near another dude while you fuck a universal hetero turn-off? Do I have to start dating bisexual guys? Or is porn basically my best option?
I'm down with watching 'em to jerk but I'd never participate myself. And I would date someone who had, but not who currently is, if that matters.
It isn't so much about other dudes, but more monogamy in a relationship.
I know if I took her up on the offer, I'd get in her car and she'd expect me to have a plan.
This shit pisses me off so much. And it's not the first girl to do this. Do I attract morons or something?
>Why won't any guys notice me!
>I never take the initiative, that's the man's job!
If pussy wasn't in demand, these people would be dead in the streets because no one would pay attention to them.
why is being clingy percieved as a bad thing? im not talking about wanting something and banging on about it, but rather simply about wanting to be around someone etc
like i had very few (or none, depending on interpetation lmao) people that could be percieved as clingy towards me and i always welcomed them with open hands, and make them just that tad happier. it even feels nice.
????? is it a society thing?
>perceived as clingy
Then they weren't clingy. When people say clingy they mean a nearly constant, morning/noon/night communication / need for attention / affection.
It's draining, annoying, and even frightening or intimidating.
It's smothering, that's why. Wanting to be around someone else is fine if they want to be around you, but most people like to take time to themselves or with other people, not spend 100% of their time with their SO
well, that sucks. im kinda like that for the people i like, though i always contain myself because i know they'd hate me for it.
which is probably why i dont scream at people like that because i understand
emotional disorders are a beautiful thing. fuggin ebin :DDDD
''Happy valentine's day!
I just wanted you to know that you bring joy on someone's life.
Hopefully you won't experience my approach unpleasant, it certainly isn't my intention.
drawed heart + anonymous email''
creepy as hell?
She changed her mind or not?
>met girl in a club
>had fun, got her number
>invited her for a coffee a few days later
>received a message "I would gladly but I'm not in town till end of the month..."
Am I being blown off politely or just being autistic/overanalyzing?
>save the baby from a life of misery
This is the most sickening mentality. Im sure its better to kill off all of the people suffering in the world because its sparing them.
Give the child up for adoption.
I told the GF that I didn't mind her being sweaty and "gross" when she comes home from Uni. She seemed really stressed out and called that "weird". I'm not into olfactophilia or anything like that, but I thought it was common knowledge that you don't mind another persons "scent" when you're compatible or in love.
Am I wrong there? Is that weird? And, in general, why are women so horribly stressed out when it comes to body odour?
I don't think it's weird personally, but if she feels gross it isn't hard to understand why she thinks it's weird.
I wouldn't want to be sweaty and gross when I'm with my so either.
>but if she feels gross
But why would you feel gross? Sweating is normal, and it's totally normal to be sweaty after a long day at work or Uni.
I guess I just won't mention it again, it's not worth fighting over or having a weird moment over.
If you were pregnant, how insulted would you feel if the guy insisted on a DNA test? Assuming you're in a committed relationship/marriage with this guy, not a random fling or anything.
I've met a few guys who were burned badly by paternity fraud, and I've read & watched too many horror stories. There's also a statistic floating around somewhere that states roughly 1/3 of men are raising children that aren't biologically theirs. I don't know how true that is, but I certainly don't wish to contribute to it, either.
Not only that, but another reason I'd want a paternity test is for insurance purposes. So that when it comes to things like life insurance, healthcare, inheritance, etc., my (biological) children wouldn't be dicked around by the law, they'd just have the ironclad evidence right then and there.
4chan has a pretty notorious reputation, especially with misogyny and in some ways, encouraging violence against women. So:Do your friends know you browse here? If so, what do you tell them? How do you rationalize this?
>Do your friends know you browse here? If so, what do you tell them? How do you rationalize this?
That I browse 4chan sometimes.
This isn't /b/, 4chan is not defined by one board.
Yeah, but what if? This is the kind of thing that should be regulated by law. You people would be surprised at how many guys are actually raising another dude's offspring.
Fuck that shit.
Many of my friends immediately associate the entirety of 4chan with /b/. Saying shit like "/b/ IS 4chan" or "without /b/, there is no 4chan."
They're Redditors, so I'm not surprised, really.
''happy valentine's day!
If i wasn't such a pussy, i'd try to get to know you.
anyway, i thought it could make your day to know someone thinks about you.
in case of this card made it's job, for my part, i'd like to know about it. =D
"What if?" Is indicative of lack of trust. Either you trust them or you fucking don't.
If we are married and committed, and you need a test to prove you fathered the baby, you don't trust me. You didn't yesterday either, I just didn't know it.
For girls that do online dating:
What is, in your experience, the most common way for you to reject a guy who has messaged you?
>A. Ignore his advances
>B. Reply back saying that you're uninterested
>C. Tell him exactly why you don't find him attractive
>D. Give him positive feedback on how he could do better
>E. Blatantly insult him
>F. Something else?
I'm trying it out, and I want to know what to expect when faced with rejection (which I believe will happen quite often).
Is it really that casual though? My sister uses Reddit often, which seems less sexist, to her at least, but she thinks 4chan is a depraved place.
We're Americans, so maybe its played closet to the chest because of that, but I can't imagine it's any different abroad
Just tell her you have the irrational fear that the child may not be yours. That its not her fault, just that you have seen men raise kids that arent theres and deep down it created a seed of doubt.
Tell her that while you are willing to put that fear aside because you trust her, and want to fight it because of how much you love her, that its best if you get it so that theres no unwanted side effects of you sidelining that fear. That you want to fully embrace your child and love him as much as possible and completely erasing that fear is the best possible course.
Add in that if she refuses its only going to increase the fear and that you wont be able to go on as is and dont want to be named as the father otherwise.
This "reddit vs 4chan" Meme needs to stop.
>Is it really that casual though?
Yes, also I'm a big strong womyn for posting on here and not giving in to the misogynist patriarchy, right?
>This "reddit vs 4chan" Meme needs to stop
Not as long as my heart is beating you fracking robots
You make it sound like it's a crazy idea that women cheat. The uncertainty is not fair for us. We really get fucked over in terms of child support and shit, men should at least be able to know for sure if a baby is his or not.
Let's hear how I am a misogynyst.
If both are shit and will not help you, why would one being slightly less shit matter at all?
You want to date her you should just ask her. Ask her to lunch. I was afraid too, but it worked!
It isn't crazy that women cheat, of course they do. But if you trust her in all areas EXCEPT this, it really is an irrational fear.
You asked if the request is insulting. It is! Full stop. Know that if you ask, it will probably hurt her.
I am sexually attracted to degradation and humiliation and male dominance. I go here because this is a quick and easy place to find it (/b/ or /gif/ usually) I have a group of liberal friends who understand that violence isn't inherently bad.
>but she thinks 4chan is a depraved place.
People build up all of this shit around this website, when it doesnt even have any fangs anymore.
I remember some guy talking about how scary /b/ is when it's been ages since they've done anything more significant than spamming a poll.
Could go both ways.
Absolutely disgusting and unacceptable. If I found out my woman was playing with another mans dick, she'd be on the street the day after. The fact the wedding wasn't called off makes me liable to suspect it's supposed to be some secret between whores.
It honestly depends on how much I feel comfortable talking to him. If I don't, I just ignore him because it sends a clear sign that further conversation will not change my mind. If he's just not my type, but otherwise easy to talk to, then I'll just tell him, thanks but no thanks.
Is it ever okay to play lighthearted pranks on a first/second/third date?
I wouldn't do anything too dickish, like spraying her with silly string.
I was thinking of doing something relatively harmless, like talking to her in a foreign accent throughout the date, and when it's time for her to go home, I say goodnight in my normal accent.
>talking to her in a foreign accent throughout the date, and when it's time for her to go home, I say goodnight in my normal accent.
Adoption could be worse for the kid desu. Unless they're a smiling blonde and blue-eyed baby there's no guarantee the kid will be adopted. Plus there are kids who never get adopted no matter what. Being a ward of the state is a shitty life and you live your whole life thinking you're detective in some way 'cause mommy and daddy didn't want you.
Chill man. Maybe because I practice in California, but there are a lot of family cases where the woman pays spousal support and child support for children who aren't hers. Can't speak for other states but over here it goes both ways