How to approach girls?
I have a bit of dilemma. I only date virgins, and I only date girls I find really pretty. (no I'm not changing either of those, that's not what I'm here for).
Generally I've done pretty well in this regard (pic related). But now I'm 28. And pretty virgins in my age bracket are pretty hard to find.
But these days, tinder/online dating/social circles aren't cutting it out for me anymore.
Thankfully I work at a university, so I have the opportunity to approach younger girls who would fit the criteria.
Problem is... I can't. I can't seem to overcome approach anxiety. I've managed to muster up the courage to do it 3 times, and only once has it gone OK. The other 2 times it was awkward as shit.
Does anyone here have experience with this? How the fuck do I learn not to give a fuck?
If you have limited yourself to 28ish yo females who are pretty and virgins, you have made a very niche selection criteria there anon.
I think you should give up this desire and look for someone who you can bond first
Genuinely curious, why are you into virgins? Is it just the idea of being her first experience, and therefore the most meaningful at that point in her life? Sex with n00bs seems pretty awkward, so I'm just trying to understand the appeal.
Well, like someone else has said, you're already limiting yourself a lot of with your criteria. I can't convince you to change that (nor do I really want to) but all you really have to do is convince yourself that the outcome doesn't matter. If you have the experience with girls that you say you do you really have no reason to have any anxiety, and I have a hard time believing you really have trouble dealing with it.
Leaving out all the rest of your creepy bullshit post, you approach just like any other person. With someone you're interested in, there comes a point at which you ask them out.
Adding in all your shit, you've limited yourself to a pretty severe degree based in criteria that isn't likely to come up in acceptable conversation until well past the point at which you can drop this person for other reasons.
>I thought wanting a virgin was pretty normal around here.
We get a lot of posts about it, but I'm not sure it could really be called "normal".
As it happens, though, you get an extra helping of mockery. At least most of the people who make these posts are virgibs themselves, and have the (somewhat twisted) excuse of wanting to lose it mutually. You're just a pig.
I mean I only date virgins too but... I'm 19 and want to wait for the right person. Can I ask why you only want virgins at your age, especially if you aren't one? As for anxiety I just try to put myself in situations I'm comfortable in and remind myself that I'm the guy and I'm supposed to take the lead. Just ask her a bit about herself and let it progress.
Odds are you're too fugly to attract the girls that fit your criteria, but a good start would be trying to not be retarded, you hypocritical dumbass. Did you think there would still be a bunch of pretty virgins around your age by the time you're nearly thirty?
And unrelated, but...
>Thankfully I work at a university
Don't shit where you eat.
>Did you think there would still be a bunch of pretty virgins around your age by the time you're nearly thirty?
Or, for that matter, pretty virgins of younger ages who are willing to date men of your age? Your dating pool is shrinking from both ends, OP -the low end as well as the high- and those numbers do not add up to a promising future with women. You can accept this, or you can change, but you don't have a lot of other options.