how the fuck do people get to the point of having sex?
im 20 years old and ive never done anything sexual with a girl, despite people calling me handsome and charming. im really awkward and just don't get how the fuck people go from being complete strangers to boning. fuck how do people go from knowing each other to boning? what the shit??
First, you meet the person. Get to know them, judge if it's someone you'd get along with, etc.
Once you decide they're chill, you start hanging out, usually with mutual friends, and get to know each other more. Eventually you share phone numbers, start calling/texting each other more and more. Everytime your phone rings or Facebook messenger goes off you hope it's them.
Then eventually you're hanging out alone and you start to flirt, get touchy feely, start kissing. One thing leads to another and then boom, you're banging.
yeah OP I was pretty much like you and I lost my v-card at 25
However I can tell you it's really about non-verbal communication, and you can go for it as long as you know that the girl is attracted to you.
>be on your best behavior, good clothes, well groomed etc
>try to have time alone with girl in a comfy setting
>discuss about shit and try to have an open body language (leaning back, chilling)
>try to make her laugh
>try to be playful and a bit silly just for the sake of being able to playfully touch her
>try to be in a position where your body/hand is resting on her and keeping it there (for instance arm around her shoulder or something like that)
>if she starts playfully touching you as well or getting closer to tease you, just try to say something even more playful to have her to continue to play with you, and then just a few seconds after DO NOT HESITATE and go for the kiss
>at this point if you were smooth enough you are pretty much garanteed makeout
>other alternative is she doesn't want you, or it's too soon for her but she likes you
>anyway you stepped it up like you were supposed to do
sorry if that was long, but the only thing really is focusing on being confident and laid-back and to *not* back off when you feel it's the time to kiss her