I really liked this guy. He invited me over and we had a quickie, and we both immediately regretted it. I feel like that ruined things between us. It feels very awkward and he doesn't seem to want to talk to me anymore. I'm very sad about it. Is there any hope of salvaging the relationship?
if it's a girl I've known for a while and I find attractive, then she shows interest and we have sex, I would still like to talk to this girl and see where things go. I think my interest would spark not diminish.
oh. no. that's not how this works. that's what 4chan wants you to think.
if he genuinely likes you he won't mind a single bit. i would be more turned off if i sense a girl playing games and not acting true to her feelings. if you WANTED to sleepp with him that moment. then it was the right thing to do. if he can't see it that way, be glad you dodged a r9k bullet
I wish this were true in real life.
We last spoke Thursday. He was very curt. One word answers. Didn't joke with me. Didn't say goodnight, like he usually does.
He's older than me, so maybe he just has different values than guys around my age? I don't know. He genuinely seemed to like me as a person.
Also, after we had sex he said something along the lines of: "I really didn't meant to do that. I don't want to take advantage of you.Youve done nothing wrong, but I've done something terrible."
It was surreal.
look he invited you over to fuck and you did. what surprised him was how easy it was and likely believes you are just that easy. strangely he ruined it for himself believing you were more a challenge. he'll hit it again I'm sure but doubt it will be anymore than that
> "I really didn't meant to do that. I don't want to take advantage of you.Youve done nothing wrong, but I've done something terrible."
My ex gf has said those words to me too: I don't want to take advantage of you.You've done nothing wrong, but I've done something terrible...
we dated for 2 years. knew each other for 3 and a half years.
Those words came out of her mouth more than once in different variations.
She also has called herself selfish in more than one occasion, and conceited which I now believe becasue 3 weeks ago she came over after our first major argument, and she made me believe we were having make up sex, and then after that she dumps me.. crushed me. ignores me. I messged her once a week to ask if she would like to talk but each time she said no I need space... so Thursday evening I dropped offf all her shit in her house. She still don't care, so don't give this person any more attention.
I'm seeing a Councillor about this whole situation actually.
So that is my advice. Do not give this person your time and affection.
If a guy doesn't want to talk to you after sex, then the sex was the end game.
If he wanted to hang with you, he still would after sex.
Shit, I have a girl coming over this weekend that I think is pretty cool, if it just so happens we fuck, it would litteraly change nothing in the amount of time I want to spend with her, cause I don't really see how fucking her will make her a boring person.
> I've done something terrible
Oh yeah, he is cheating on somebody with you.
>willing to bet this person is very selfish
I've said almost the exact same words to a girl I was cheating with and I am extremely selfish.
Tried to distance myself later, so she doesn't get atached and/or find out about my gf and then tell her about what happened, and ruin the game I was playing with her.
> I am extremely selfish.
Tried to distance myself later, so she doesn't get atached
That's exactly what my ex did to me, except she was not cheating, she was just a selfish person (her own words used multiple times). I hate her for it actually. As much as I still love her, she is a terrible person, my guard is up to never meet a person like that again.
I'm not OP and I don't want to derail the thread but my ex was not decent. She used me for 3 years. It was not all wasted time though, but I don't see her as the same person anymore.
No offence dude, but it sounds like you had your own share of insecurities and shit and she had low self esteem and didn't really like you, but was afraid of trying to get some one better.
She probably justifying treating you badly by thinking "If he takes it, it's his own fault, I even warned him"