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I was interested in two guys at my college who are within the same social circle as I am and we all go to a lot of the same clubs. I found out that they both liked me, but I liked one more than the other and my feelings for him kept growing while I also realized I didn't like the 1st guy more than as a friend. Guy #2 and me are now dating (as of today) which I think might cause a problem in the social group because guy #1 and guy #2 do not get along...at all. They've both told me about their disdain for the other.

This is bad because I've been hanging out with guy #1 a lot and I think he got the idea that I liked him back when I really just like him as a friend. I also have plans scheduled with him for tomorrow, but I don't want to continue accidentally leading him on and even worse I don't want him to get really upset when he finds out I'm dating guy #2.

I'd rather he hear it from me than hear it from somebody else within the group as I don't want it to seem like a betrayal, but he's super sensitive and I have a bad feeling that this might be particularly crushing news to him.

I also don't want this to tear apart our social group or make it awkward within the organizations, especially seeing as guy #1 is a leader in two of them.

Help?
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>>16773084
You already know what you need to do OP.

There is no easy way out of this, tell guy #1 that you're seeing #2 before his feelings grow even bigger for you.

Obviously guy #1 is going to be crushed, but there is nothing you can do about it, that's life
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>>16773084
Bonus tip:

Don't date guys within your inner circle of friends, I've seen horrible cases were it destroys the entire group.
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In the best situation he understands or has been expectong it
You should try to make him understand that you werent stolen by him ( that sounds a bit objectify)
Try to make it clear
Really wish you good luck
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