So Up until recently I was a virgin. I took the plunge at the ripe old age of 29 and bought a hooker because why the fuck not right?
Anyway, I found a website that lists hookers with a profile and pics. It turns out getting fucking fit attractive hookers in my city is really easy, and for about $100 for 30 minutes they're not all that expensive. Problem is, I think I got hooked. This sex thing is kinda good (just FYI) and with hookers its so fucking easy.
I'm upset because Ive seen about 16 hookers in that last 3 months, I'm starting to make a habit of this shit and I still would quite like a girlfriend to be honest.
How do I stop?
Well, that's a whopping 1600$ for something that's supposed to be free.
What do you think what it would take for you to stop? A gf won't solve this. I once got with a guy that had a think for hookers before us. At the beginning he was very good at hiding it. After a while the habit got the best of him. He started to masturbate to the task of almost ordering a hooker (choosing one, call her, write her). To this day i don't know if he ever truly followed true but it doesn't even matter. I was fucking disgusted and ended things after i found out.
>supposed to be free
unless you're a movie star it isn't actually free and "normal" women are always far more expensive than hookers
even if you are movie-star tier the women are only gambling that they can get more out of you because of it and are willing to not be paid upfront
I see nothing wrong with paid sex between two adults but the money does add up. Think of the amount of money you could save if you just jerkoff instead.
On the otherhand your overindulgence does not necessarily impede in you finding a girlfriend. However when you find a girlfriend I recommend you do stop, but that's a given. You'll be getting ses for free and it'll be meaningful.
Well Its not that much money. I spend double that on booze in the same time-scale. STD's? Ehh.... I use a condom, not overly concerned.
I don't know what would stop me to be honest. Boredom? Honestly I almost find the taboo of the situation as appealing as the sex.
Again, I dont want to make it a habit as I would like a legit girlfriend still. Do I just hit the dating game hard?
> i spend double that on booze in the same time-scale
There might be the reason you can't get a gf. Honestly, i know very few things about you but i can already safely say that i would never consider you bf material. Work on yourself dude
Good on you, exceptions are awesome. But let's be honest, this guy was a virgin up to the tale end of his 20s. The guy probably doesn't have much choice all things considered. If no one has taken a liking to him yet odds are very few if anyone genuinely would.
Then he should focus on finding out what's the problem and find a solution. I mean, have you seriously done work on yourself OP? Do you go to therapy. Do you try to better yourself? There's atleas a handfull of reasons why you're still single. And i doubt you don't know what those reasons are. Be honest OP. We aren't here to judge or belittle you. What good would that be? We want you to get out of this very miserable situation. Cause having to pay for intimacy and affection does have a HUGE negative impact on your selfesteem. And the last thing you need is getting even lower self-worth.
Oh wow. So you are saying that every hour he spends with me is him loosing money on me cause they are just necessary to get me to bed? Wow - just wow. You must be a pleasant person to be with.
You bring bitterness to a whole new level. Get help asap.
Avoidant personality disorder. I got bullied pretty bad when I was about 7 years old and that fucked me up a bit. I can talk to people, I just always assume they hate me. I have two friends who I trust, but that's it.
>There might be the reason you can't get a gf.
To be honest I've literally never even tried to get a girlfriend. In some ways I feel like I'm saving myself time and effort just being alone. as they're obviously going to reject me at some point down the line so why bother?
You could, now that sex is no big deal for you. B.S. on people who say sex is free in a relationship. If I think of all the money and time I blew on first dates and dinners, shit... hookers might be the more economical option if all I cared about was getting laid.
Watch out though man, hookers go wrong a lot. Druggie whores will steal shit, pimps will threaten and eventually you will get an STI. These are things that just happen. Added to that, you never know when Jon Law will decide to crack down on vice and that's never a fun jail phone call to make asking family or friends to bail you out. (I work a civvy position in law enforcement, man the number of strung out hookers and cut up jons...).
Key question is whether or not you want one. If you don't find the prospect of a relationship interesting, you actually might be better off paying just for the sex.
Don't get me wrong - the standard advice is that you should strive to be a better person and get in a healthy relationship but if you don't see the appeal in that... Eh.
I'd watch out for that booze, though. If you do need to stop, just think about all the shit you could buy with that cash and, well, look at some STD pics for 5 minutes.
Well, that's easier then. I mean, the board is full of threads about people who want to know how to date and such so you can look around to see if something matches your past experiences.
Have you ever asked somebody out? Like, you've fucked over a dozen women over the past three months - that should give you some confidence at least.
>I've literally never even tried to get a girlfriend
>they're obviously going to reject me at some point down the line so why bother?
Am kind of addicted to scorts too, I have asperger so it is not easy to even get a female friend. Getting a girlfriend requires a lot of skills that Im not learning because I just go the easy way of getting sex. I do not approve hunting but paying for a hooker is like a deer shots itself then ties to your car, Im sure you get the point.