Why is it that people think I'm an asshole when I tell jokes? Like if I make a joke in a group of 10 people, only 3 will laugh, the rest look at me like I said I killed someone.
(No they are not racial/religious/otherwise not "PC" jokes)
Ok its not jailbird humor. I feel sorry for you. You're simply not funny and make the situation awkward, which is while people laugh. I laugh when someone makes a stupid joke that embarrasses himself. You can see it in his face. Hahahaha. Do something and get yourself in prison, a year there would break your shell.
This morning - the manager says some of systems are not operating properly. I joke and say "so much for the IT department" a few people laugh.
Manager gets offended and says that the department has been really backed up this week so it's not their fault and they're doing their best.
It's because you insulted the IT department, and people you work with either realize how much they depend on it or they know people in it or they feel like laughing would compromise their image of loyalty to the company.
There are loads of reasons not to like that kind of joke, lol.
adding to what i said earlier it depends how you say something
if you said that comment about the IT department with a terminator demeanor versus with a grin on your face teasingly it could come off as douchebaggy
I say it with a smile. Plus I'm always friendly and helpful in the office. It's not like I go around making fun of people.
I can take a joke, so no it wouldn't bother me. I pay more attention to behavior, not things people say.
>I can take a joke, so no it wouldn't bother me. I pay more attention to behavior, not things people say.
You shouldn't automatically assume other people are as thick-skinned as you.
That's not even a joke, it's just you being negative about a group of people. It's like if your chef friend accidentally overcooked the food and you said "so much for being a chef".
Not funny at all, just rude and at best would elicit a brush off from the recipient
in your example, instead of saying 'so much for the IT department', you could have:
pointed at one of your friends and said, 'just the ones he uses, hopefully?' (ahaha fuck you too greg, normal ballbusting)
said 'its fine, nobody actually uses computers'
said 'its fine, just put (inarguably critical project) on hold'
you couldve said nothing, & instead asked if there are any resources or ways your department could help lighten IT's load
do you tell jokes because you want people to laugh, or because you want them to think youre funny?
if its the second one, they wont
>I joke and say "so much for the IT department"
This is a problem of social context. The joke isn't funny when you're in a context where you are understood to be insulting them. The humor inherent in a joke like that comes from the implicit understanding that you are on the same side as the IT department and are 100% in support of them - then it's unexpected for you to say it. If you're not ingratiated to the target of "asshole humor" like that, then you're just coming off as an asshole.
If you'd said "oops, I guess I shouldn't have been using the computers to build a fort" that might have been better - you're insulting yourself instead of other people. You can also do it with your friends/family who know you love them and are just kidding. Doesn't work otherwise.
What was the joke? You heard the systems were underperforming and accused the IT guys of not doing their jobs. THERE WAS NO JOKE. You just made a (likely baseless or unfair) douchebag comment.
Let's say it was you or your department. The manager mentions that your whateverthefuck is behind schedule, and some guy smirks and says, "Well, what do you expect with OP on the job?" Is that funny to you, especially given the circumstances? Or do you feel like you were just mocked and called incompetent?
Think about it.