How do you know when you've made a girl cum? In porn they scream and flail around and stuff but the girl I'm with tells me I always make her cum and even though she breathes heavy and stuff I can't really tell. She'll then take my hand or head away getting me to stop going so hard. I mean obviously porn isn't real but how do I know if she's actually cuming, and not just saying I am to make me happy or something?
You don't, so it's a great time to stop caring about it. Focus more on whether she's enjoying everything that went on up to that point. Encourage her to give you ideas about stuff to try together. Orgasm is important but there are simpler and more numerous things to focus on instead.
it's different for every girl. My current girlfriend cums like five times every time we do it but I can never fucking tell when it happens. I've had exes that couldn't come very easily, but when it happened the fucking walls fell down.
If you can't tell, ask to make sure.
There is a gland right below the cervix that emits a bit of a low humming sound when she cums.
When you think she is cumming, spread her lips and put your ear next to her pussy, If you hear the humming, job well done. If not, she's faking it.
Be discreet, obviously.
You don't need to "go hard" to get her to orgasm. The fact that she's gotta push you away repeatedly would be distracting for her to try and relax and enjoy it.
Just be gentle and repetitive, if she wants it harder, she'll ask for it. Don't do it just because she is breathing harder or appears to be close. It's why girls don't always say "I'm about to~!" because the guy just gets crazy and thinks he's gotta go harder or faster all of a sudden. Don't fuck up the rhythm that was already working.
Don't focus on the orgasm so much. Girls don't orgasm every time. It's kind of like the lotto, you won't always win it, but when you do, it's amazing. Just concentrate on making sure she's having a good time and enjoying everything you do. That's all you can ask for. Expecting a girl to come is going to lead to her lying to protect your feelings.
Legitimate female here:
When I cum I normally hold my breath. If she suddenly has a skip in her moans or is very quiet, that means she's actually enjoying it. Moaning happens when you're turned on but very rarely, most of the exaggerated moans are to encourage the male/to be "sexy".
When I cum my muscles tighten up. I have a very hard time cumming with my legs open but it's possible. If her thighs tighten around your head/body and she's squeezing you tightly then she's probably close to cumming.
When I cum I sort of spasm as though I'm having a seizure. If her torso heaves and spasms as though she's doing tiny situps, that is the exact moment when she is cumming.
When I cum, my vagina tightens and spasms. If your finger/penis/whatever is being squeezed in a spasmic manner, she's cumming/just came.
When I cum, it's very sensitive after and I can't handled continued stimulus. This is NOT ALWAYS the case with all women. But if your girlfriend is pushing you away or wants a break then she is probably too sensitive from cumming and needs a cooldown moment from the sex.
When I cum with a partner SOMETIMES, I announce that I am cumming. If your girlfriend announces she is cumming, she is most likely orgasming. Trust your gf.
When I cum I am generally tuckered out after and kind of want to rest/cuddle/relax. If your partner suddenly seems disinterested in continuing much else or acts a bit sleepy/lazy with sex, most likely she just came and is now satiated.
Screaming, flailing, etc. is all faked in porn to be attractive. Most porn "orgasms" are ridiculously fake.
my girl goes quiet, grabs my hair, shoves my face deeper into her pussy. she squeezes her thighs, arches her low back, head tilts back and away from me.
i always wait for her to push me away since we've had times where i stop prematurely cause i felt her applying pressure to my head slightly but it was her just being lost in it all and not knowing what she was doing. i look up at her and she's looking at me like "WHY DID YOU STOP!?"
i give her some time to settle down and go for seconds but most times her clit is too sensitive to continue and just wants to fuck or get me off.
when it comes to piv orgasms, we haven't been able to achieve that yet. she says she has gotten close but no cigar just yet. always trying.
In my experience you can usually tell it's about to happen because they tense up in some subset of their face, back, hips, legs, toes. Then when they cum they scream or grunt. Then relax. Depending on what you're doing to them, some of them also hate having their clit touched right afterward for 30 seconds or so.