So a girl I'm dating kissed with her ex of four years after we broke up. She used coke and confessed they kissed.
She started crying in my arms after she confessed. We've decided to give it a go again but I'm getting unsure if I can do this. She says she has no attraction to him at all and wants me. Seems genuine. Still I think she's a total cunt for meeting up with her ex, who is batshit insane and abused her in the past.
I think it's petty to be so resentful over a kiss, if that's all that happened. You broke up with her, she thought it was over and was confused and lonely. How is she a total cunt for meeting up with someone after you broke up? Did she break up with you or the other way around?
...Just stay broken up.
Drop her. Shouldn't even have considered getting back together, let alone ''takng her in your arms'' kissing another dude 4 hours after you break up. ''Seems genuine'' in this case is as genuine as the ''seems legit'' meme. Stop being idiotic and move on. Coke AND kissing an abusive as fuck ex? Enough Red Flag to make Mao consider not shooting up your family for not paying to live.
People do dumb things on coke and aren't themselves. Make sure she doesn't do it again and you should be good
Although from the sounds of it you might be better off looking for someone who isn't damaged goods
Huge red flag. Sorry to say it but either the abuse story is a lie/exaggeration (why wouldn't you cut someone out of your life after that?) or she's pretty fucked up. Either way I wouldn't bother
you stay together
you're at a bar, come across ex
she's excited to see him
you don't want to make it awkward
actually having fun
end up at his place
he has coke
do more coke
slowly become paranoid
withdraw from conversation
they don't notice
Well we broke up because she works in a bar where her ex works. I had trust issues.. well the main reason we broke up is she stood me up on new years and ended up in a party where her ex was too.
The crazy thing is the guy is an alcoholic, he did abuse her and he invaded her privacy long after their break up. Yesterday we had a talk at a café and she came clean about kissing him and doing coke. Cried her eyes out and told me she loves me and has 0 attraction to him.
I'm still not sure how I feel, from a self respect point of view. Sure we weren't together but her doing coke and kissing him.. hopefully not more, as I am developing trust issues again, it's not the way to handle it. Hey break up with my boyfriend let's hang out with my ex yidde yadda.
She's young, 22. I'm closing in to 30 and just know what can happen if you do or use certain things. I really do have the idea she learned her lesson but I am afraid I'm gonna end up being insecure about this.
I know she does love me, and she loves our sex.. but for me yesterday was.. well it changed something in me. Still I care for her and I think I love her but not sure what to do.
Thanks everyone for your replies. It does help a lot to get things sorted in my head.