>>16757078 Well, we'd never had sex before. Most of our dates involved getting drunk together, usually passing out somewhere around getting to making out, and she was staying over sober for the first time. We were in my bed, like we had before, kissing and touching and everything, and she was totally fine all the way until she accidentally touched my dick through my underwear.
From the way she scrambled backwards you'd have thought there's a fucking rattlesnake in the bed. She didn't say anything, she just grabbed the blanket and marched out of the room. She'd gotten on my couch, laying on her side under the blanket so nothing except her face was visible.
I asked if she's ok and she said she was fine, but when I asked what the fuck that was she didn't answer, just wiggling her way tighter under the blanket. When I asked if she'd like to come back to bed, she asked if she could.
it doesn't translate well but it wasn't an "am I allowed to" kind of could but the "is it possible", like she was asking if it's still raining outside or if she can go out. No idea what else to do, I let her sleep on the couch. She left before I woke up but she'd put out breakfast like we usually have before she leaves.
>>16757116 Obviously I don't know the girl, but judging on that extreme of a reaction I'd guess that she's been sexually abused in the past. Definitely try to talk to her about it. Hopefully you'll be able to work through her crap and get around to a healthy sexually relationship. Of course if you don't have the patience for that sort of thing then you'll probably need to end it.
>>16757075 >>16757085 >>16757128 >>16757131 I don't want to dump her. I've never met a woman I'd have liked more. Her reaction just seriously freaked me out for being that extreme. She didn't even flinch about my friend's big goddamn crazy dog that scares the shit out of everybody.
>>16757154 >treat her like a kid she's really not a kid, I have no idea how to handle her. Half the time it's like she's a 40-year-old in a 20-year-old's body, she's so past all the petty drama and bullshit everyone else is dealing with. Including me.
Look at my last post, and do that, there's really no other way other than to be gentle with her. If she doesn't want to fuck, don't force her, but tell her you just want to 'be' with her. Or ask why she doesn't want to make love with you.
>>16757143 Gently bring up what happened and see if she offers any sort of explanation. Sexual abuse (or whatever is going on with her) is not an easy thing to talk about, but I'm sure she's embarrassed about what happened and wants to explain. You need to clarify what she is/isn't comfortable with and move on from there. Baby steps. Also keep in mind that she might have been drinking so often around you to lower her anxiety levels. It's a lot easier to let your guard down and be touched while drunk.
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