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How do you feel about polygamy? Would you be open to one if you were offered to join? What's your standards?
Honestly I don't think it would work out well but I want to try one out while i'm in my twenties. I'm not cuck enough to cheat on my partner either.
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Not for me. If other people want to do it then that's their prerogative, but I don't want to be involved in any way.
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its all situation based.

everyone likes to say 'well thats not gonna end well' as if monogamous relationships ever 'end well'. if two or more sexy people offer to let you into their circle, why not try it?

whats the current situation OP?
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>>16749912
There is a lot of unbiased research finding it is a psychologically unhealthy relationship. So no I would avoid it.
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>>16749927
well its just my current partner is pretty busy, and sometimes we fight and I just felt like if there was another person involved it could help solve the conflicts easier and also they could be there when the other was not. Ideally id like it if we all loved each other not just towards me.
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>>16749942

you heteros, homos, or any degree of bisexuals?


also i think your logic behind this is a little flawed. you're operating under the assumption that you need someone romantically doting on you 24/7 and if you're already a conflicted couple adding another person wont help.

im pro polygamy but it does not sound like you are a prime candidate.
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>>16749959
well its not like we're fighting constantly, we just have those typical small couple fights every so often. And i'm bi, so i'd be pretty happy with whatever gender since its not really whats in their pants that interest me. But just in general I like people bigger/more mature than me so i dont mind if they're female or male.
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>>16749912
Eh, I really don't believe humans are a type of animal that can be satisfied with monogamy but I can't quite accept polygamy either. I think, tho, if I had absolute trust that my partner/boyfriend/husband loved me I would let him have other sexual partners.
But still, I'd rather it not be one recurring person (if it was a different one each time perfect).
I don't think I am interested in sleeping with someone I don't love though
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>>16749983

i dont think this would work very well for you guys. you are looking for someone to replace your partner becuase he is busy. that is not going to work.
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>>16749912
No. I'm an animal and territorial. This registers as promiscuous and ignoring claims about insecurity should mention porn is unappealing because dicks.
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>>16749998
Yeah I guess the way you say it makes it seem bad, but id try to give them both equal attention. Its just I really love him but I get lonely easy so I get a bit angry when he doesn't have enough time to spare... So with at least two people I don't have to stress him out with my bickering.
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>>16750038

you are wanting to be polygamous for all the wrong reasons, and hes not going to be comfortable with that. you want someone else because you're basically saying you cant be bothered to wait for him. he will assume that you're going to leave him if the other person is there enough for you.

you shouldnt start any relationship because you're 'lonely' let alone a trilationship
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>>16750051
Yeah I wouldn't do anything he wasn't comfortable with but it was just a idea. Since he's literally busy 90% of the day and when hes not he doesnt seem to want to talk or anything because hes tired. I'm just a pretty needy person in general and I'm not looking for anything really sexual but just to share deep feelings and snuggles with 'I love yous' involved.
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>>16750093

Then it is quite possible you are in an incompatible relationship, people in this situation would first talk with their partner to see if their needs can be adjusted, if not than a break-up might be best.

Honestly, it sounds like you could easily drop this guy if you found someone better, you are just afraid of losing your security.
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>>16750093

hes not going to be interested in a trilationship. for reasons i stated above, plus he doesnt have enough time for you how would he have enough time for another girl.

you are needy. work on that. go be single. cuz you two are not compattible.
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>>16749912
>How do you feel about polygamy?
it all depends on having people that work together well. this is very rare.
>Would you be open to one if you were offered to join?
Yes (male)
>What's your standards?
High. I could have been married multiple times to high caliber women by now (29). I left my ex about a week ago. Extremely hot. My co workers would talk about how hot she was behind my back. She was accomplished (made more than me and would make more than me in the foreseeable future). Her family was also wealthy.

I left her because she couldn't give me what I needed, which included experimenting with other people in the relationship. SHE of course got to fuck my incredibly hot roommate but just couldn't deal when it came to women. I was fine with it because I"m also bi and my roommate was fucking hot. Even if I didn't fuck him I wanted to just be around his hot ass naked.
>Honestly I don't think it would work out well but I want to try one out while i'm in my twenties.
I'm almost out of my twenties... you need to go hard, and go soon if you want to get yourself into a position to accomplish this. Life gets hard when you get out there in the real world. Time is spent working, preparing for work, life shit like cooking cleaning etc. It's hard to have a relationship at all let alone with multiple partners. Also, keep in mind the older you get the more people in your age group settle down. Some of the women I've threesomed and foursomed with in the past are now married with kids lol.
>I'm not cuck enough to cheat on my partner either.
Good. Don't. It's not worth it.
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I feel okay about it but only if I am the polygamic one and my partner isn't.
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>>16749912
I wouldn't work in one of those.
I can't even handling having friends let along having committed relationships with multiple people.
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I wouldn't want that, and I doubt it would work for the vast majority of people. However, it might work for a tiny percentage, like homesexuality does.
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I wouldn't do it and I wouldn't suggest anyone else do it. Humans are naturally jealous and I can't imagine that those types of relationships are healthy.

If anyone else wants to do it, though, that's fine. It's not my business.
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The people I see in open relationships are usually the ones I'd never want to date to begin with. It's a free country but I still think it's a bad idea.

>>16749927
>everyone likes to say 'well thats not gonna end well' as if monogamous relationships ever 'end well'
Yeah except if you opened your eyes and observed some it would be pretty obvious they open up a whole new level of drama.

Almost invariably someone is unsatisfied in the relationship, and feels like the third wheel.
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>>16750187

im not saying it doesn't, all im saying is that it ends no worse than any other relationship, so why not have fun and just do what you wanna do for as long as you want to do it?
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>>16750187
>>16750197

tho in OPs situation it is a dumb idea if she wants to keep her bf
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>>16750197
>all im saying is that it ends no worse than any other relationship
If someone feels like a third wheel in the relationship, lolno. If a guy feels like a cuckold in his own relationship it won't transition as easily as a relationship normally would.

I see this shit all the time, you're deluding yourself if you think they're equivalent. A bad poly relationship is significantly more volatile than a normal bad monogamous relationship.

t. Conservative in Portland.
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>>16750233

i wouldnt quite say equivelent. i dont think a 'true' trilationship would ahve the longevity of your basic partnership.

but considering that everything ends pretty bad anyway i dont see the issue with going out and having fun, maybe 'dating' a couple or letting a third wheel in.

lets be real if tihs is something you are considering for your already existing relationship, then its arleady on its way out.
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>>16749942

Been in a poly triad. This is shit reasoning.

As hard as a two person relationship is, it is exponentially harder to be in a triad relationship because it takes a ridiculous amount of emotional investment to keep things emotionally equal between you and the other two. You constantly have to be aware of how you are treating each other, what activities and things you talk about with each person. Getting in a fight over something with one, then trying to help resolve a fight or stay out of a fight that the other two are having...

It is just exhausting.

We lived together for about 3 years but in the end we split amicably as I wanted out. It just got to be too much work. I probably won't do a triad again but am still down with open relationships.
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I'll outright say that I'm a fucking hypocrite when it comes these things.

As a male, I wouldn't mind having more than one woman in a relationship. However, I wouldn't want to share one woman with other men.
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