Any guys here can give me some advice.
Im in my 20's and I'm not good looking at all, more so ugly would be my guess.
Being in my 20s and having never been on a date in my life, I feel really depressed and sad mostly when around women my age.
I'll save you some time, I did a google search and got advice on how to improve my appearance. I work out(2 years), dress well, skin is clear. The problem is my face I think and im short 5'6.
Basically i just want to not feel depressed about it because it ruins my day and makes me feel like garbage.
Doctors don't give a shit how your emotional state is unless they're a psychotherapist. If I went to my general practitioner and told him I was depressed he'd probably smirk and tell me to seek a psychiatrist. Then he'd make fun of me with the nurses later for coming in with such a stupid problem.
Do you ask any girls out? Do you have any friends that are girls? Do you know how to interact with girls calmly and casually? Do you talk to girls regularly, attend social gatherings where girls go to meet people, or approach girls first to chat or talk at any time anywhere?
There are many people your height that get gfs. Very many. But getting a gf is like changing a tire; it requires work. You dont just stand around waiting for the tire to be changed and cursing gods and man that things aren't better, you get down and do some shit, even though you get sweaty and your shirt gets dirty.
Have you been asking anyone out, either in person or online?
Kind of hard to get a date if you're not interacting with women.
Also, you need to work on your mentality. I get it, being a longtime loner sucks, but dwelling on it isn't helping; do the words "desperate and depressed" sounds romantically appealing to you? Because almost no woman will think so.
Keep on with your personal betterment efforts, but you've got to start enjoying life before women will want to spend time with you.
The beauty of being a man is this- you are not just your looks. Your looks can be balanced out over talent, money, popularity, and overall value.
All you have to do is become 'high value' in a few areas of your life, and you can use that to get bitches. Rich CEOs get mad pussy, and trust me it's not based off of their looks.
no. no, i would not count my friends girlfriends as friends. yeah. Nope, Im in college but Computer Science lol.
Im not a big fan of this labor work thing, I like solving problems with my brain asking me to code something is really stimulating for me. Ask me to change a tire and maybe another time.
I have 10 solid friends that i've known over a decade. Granted they are a year or 2 older than me, but we enjoy the same things and come from a similar socioeconomic background. Im not desperate I have standards, but its not so much physical.
Lol that makes it worse, I have no talent or popularity. I'll make 100k working in tech, maybe 150k if i become a manager, but i will never be like rich.
The sad thing is I once thought ok i researched a bunch of information on how to fix my appearance ill do these things then problem is solved. Yeah, didn't work.
Still better then falling in love with someone who will never love you. And loves your best friend
anyways you are still young just don't think about it too much you will eventually find someone
Where i live you have one doc that gives you prescription to specialized docs. He then tells you something like "well anon you feel like shit because you eat shit" or "stop smoking pot boy and if it doesn't get any better go to this doc"
Good for you "doctor" but your opinion doesn't whey more than other answers.
Well, you have to know this by yourself. Doctors have heard stuff and can tell you something with their experience.
But maybe you're right, that a female doctor maybe will understand what you explain, but not know what would be good for you in your situation.
Let me put some things into perspective for you, OP. Right now you're stuck in an endless cycle:
>you actively tell yourself that you're ugly
>that makes you less confident around women
>women are turned off by your lack of confidence and that drives them away
>you not attracting/driving away women further perpetuates your belief that you're ugly, go back to step 1
There is only one reasonable and fool-proof way to break the cycle and that's: confidence. Forget that you're ugly, become less self-aware if need be. Date women below your "tier", listen to motivational speeches, music, whatever the fuck, there are a million ways to gain confidence.
Just remember - your problem isn't in the fact that you're ugly, it's in the belief that you're ugly.
Also: post pic.