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>cooks amazing
>cute af
>skinny as hell, but still with T & A
>loves and adores me unconditionally
>we barely ever fuck
>she's more concerned with Disney movies and cupcakes than sex.

what's the point of having a hot girl you have passionless sex with every few weeks?
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>>16734572
If hot sex all the time with take out food is your goal, this is not the girl for you, obviously.
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You have to leave her immediately. So that I can have her.
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>>16734572
At least you get to have sex with her, you whiny fag. Try cosplaying with her. If there's a Disney prince she likes, she might get into roleplay.

The way to her pussy is through a couple of minor arteries, layers of tissue and a few bones. Eventually, you'll find her heart. That's the key. "Bone" Voyage, faggot.
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I was reading some Jung today, so take this with a grain of salt, but apparently it's not unusual for women to have less sexual romance until they are married, but then at that point to fully submit to it.

If she actually likes you so much as a person its something you can work on. It's definitely a much better situation than being with someone who is more sexually attracted to you than romantically.
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>>16734673
>I was reading some Jung today, so take this with a grain of salt, but apparently it's not unusual for women to have less sexual romance until they are married, but then at that point to fully submit to it.

Totally wrong. What the fuck planet are you from? You think married women have MORE sex than single women?

Women in general have lower sex drive than men.
After having kids, it drops further.

Women still do have a sex drive, but they mix sex drive AND the state of the relationship.

They don't get turned on by porn, they get turned on by an erotic STORY.

Men have to do more work to turn women on, be romantic.
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>>16734572
how often do you initiate sex? what happens when you do?

what is sex generally like between the two of you? are you able to get her off?
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>>16734702
Yeah I misinterpreted the passage a little bit:
"There are a surprising number of women whose real sexuality, even though they are married, remains virginal for years; they become conscious of it only when they fall in love with another man. That is the reason why very many women have no understanding at all of masculine sexuality- they are completely unconscious of their own. With men it is different. Sexuality bursts on them like a tempest, filling them with brute desires and needs, and there is scarcely one of them who escapes the painful problem of masturbation. But a girl can masturbate for years without knowing what she is doing."

He says in another place though that the only reason a woman marries is to make babies, so I think that's what I was thinking about.
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>>16734752
>He says in another place though that the only reason a woman marries is to make babies, so I think that's what I was thinking about.

Yeah this is something I would get behind.

Most women have a REAL calling to have babies. Marriage allows a stable framework to do that.

This shouldn't be surprising, we're mammals after all.
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I'm married and have sex once a week,some times more often. We both havve full time jobs and a house to clean,no kids. Get a hobby, your sex life is not your life. Just live and be happy with someone you care about.
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>>16734973
A day without an orgasm, is a day wasted that you will never get back...

I really don't see the point of being married to only have sex once a week, not that I can talk, I'm lucky to have sex 2-3 times a month

Funny how before I was married it was every day, I think it is some kind of scam...
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>what's the point of having a hot girl you have passionless sex with every few weeks?
From my perspective, there isnt really one. I'd rather date a 6 with a good libido than an 8 without one.

I'd think long and hard about what the relationship is to you, and if there's something you guys could do to meet in the middle.
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>>16734994
>>your sex life is not your life.
If you had more external stimuli you won't seek constant admiration, a relationship where sex is the only constant isn't a healthy one. We have evolved past the primary reproductive goals of early man.
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>>16735016
Yep, this is it. A pretty face isn't worth as much as a lack of gag reflex, hourglass curves aren't as good as wanting to go twice a day.
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You're probably too pushy. Huge turnoff. Nothing is worse than a guy that's too available.

Give her space and be cool, focus your energy on other things. When she realizes you're not pushing her to have sex anymore, she'll come to you.
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>>16735038
Millions of years of evolution has programmed me to be a sexual tyrannosaurus...

I do have hobbies & bang one out b4 bed

I hope your man is getting off without you too
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>>16735056

Why do women always say this when this is literally patently untrue by myself and every other married guy on the fucking planet?

Women still believe that they will be hornier when their man is less horny?

"Stop lying to us"

- Signed, All Men.
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>>16734702
Some women get turned on by porn and have incredibly high sex drives nearly on par with men, virgin.
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>>16734572
You know, there's a million fine looking women in the world, dude. But they don't all bring you lasagna at work. Most of 'em just cheat on you.
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>>16734622
>"at least you get to have sex with her"
>but I'm the "whiny fag"
>"Try cosplay"
>this whole post

top fucking kek. that's what I get for asking a question on 4chan outside of /pol/ I guess

>>16734751
sorry, I'm seeing this late. I really don't understand how /adv/ works since there's no auto update and you can't see how many replies a post has gotten (although I understand what might be the reason for the latter)

There's pretty much zero foreplay (beyond kissing, I mean), because she says she gets a UTI when I finger her if I don't wash my hands first (not spontaneous). Sometimes when I initiate she's too tired.

She's a morning person, I'm a night person. She's always cold (wearing layers), I'm always hot.


When we fuck it feels like going through the motions/obligatory. I'm pretty much just wanting it to be over.

Yes, I do get her off when we actually do it, and she's dripping wet, but only because it's so infrequent. If we had sex 3 days in a row she'd be dry as Sahara the third day.

>>16734973
have you ever been in a relationship with someone where you actually had passionate sex regularly? I feel more alive and more close to the person when it's like that.

And I'm not judging you, but personally I don't think once/week is acceptable for me before I have kids, because then how's it going to be when I have kids? Once a month? 12x/year? Fuck that.

>>16735016
My ex was a 7 with a good libido and I felt like a god when I was done with her.

The fact that my girl is a 9 isn't why I love her more, though, it's that she's an actually good person (and she won't cheat on me like the 7/whore)

>>16735038
I agree with all your statements individually, and I can tell you're intelligent. I just disagree with the conclusion that 1/week or even 2-3/month for a married guy is within the acceptable range.
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>>16735056
>too pushy
I only started initiating because I was thinking I should try before I break up with someone I love, and just concede that she's become my best buddy. I had pretty much stopped, because I stopped caring and started to see her as my bud.

>>16735491
>You know, there's a million fine looking women in the world, dude. But they don't all bring you lasagna at work. Most of 'em just cheat on you.

I know, man. I know. But now I'm at the point where *I* want to cheat, which is something I never thought I'd do.
>sadfeelspepe.jpg
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>>16735108
If you were a girl you would get bored of a husband who is constantly trying to get you to take your clothes off.

It's the same shit every time. If you're going to be a boor at least be exciting. Learn a new move, learn how to give a good massage, learn how to eat pussy properly.

If you're going to push sex on somebody it better be the best sex of their life. and even then, it's still less attractive than a guy who has more important things on his mind than sex. That's the guy women want to please, the guy that's not very interested in them.

Want sex? Stop pressuring your partner into doing something like your life depends on it. Way too much pressure. just be cool, get her comfortable, and let science happen.

Girls are most turned on when they're most comfortable. There's nothing more uncomfortable than a guy who wont stop groping you as you watch an episode of Seinfeld.

eat some good food, talk, laugh, watch a movie, cuddle. If she's in the mood, she'll give you a signal. if not, no sex that night. that's life. Find something else to invest yourself in. You shouldn't be 100% invested in your partner anyway, never a good idea.

Reality is that your sex life will never be as intense as it is when you first start dating. girls have different needs as time goes on. Fulfill those needs and your sex life will continue as best as it can.

When I first started seeing my gf of four years we had sex three to sometimes five times a day. Now we have sex maybe three times a week, but we feel closer. If a girl wants sex to be good, it has to be special. Having sex five times a day isn't special, it becomes routine.

The most romantic couples I know have sex maybe once a month, but they adore each other. I imagine every time they fuck it's like angels are singing above their bed.
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Lack of sex from your gf/wife, regardless of circumstances, boils down to the fact that she doesn't view you as a fuckable male. Whatever unique illnesses she claims to have will melt away like butter in the presence of a taller/richer/stronger man who she respects more.

You want some /adv/ice? Lift and get back in the game. If she won't make you happy then maybe there's someone who will. Ignore the haters who want you to have a dead bedroom forever.
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>>16736210
this is your male instinct talking.

Not a bad thing, really. You should always improve yourself and win over your partner, but it's not the same for women.

Guys assume if your gf doesn't want to have sex, that means if she sees somebody more attractive than you then that will all change and her sex drive will immediately kick in.

that's false in most cases. Unlike what TV tells you, most women don't get wet at the sight of a muscular guy. They just think "oh that guy has big muscles. I want french fries."

If a girl is asexual she's asexual, not just towards you but towards everybody.

If she was wanting sex, she would get it from you, unless she knows you're shitty at sex.

Give your partner orgasms every time you have sex and it will wire her brain to only seek you out when she's horny.

If you can't please her, then what you said is true. She will see a more attractive guy and want to have sex with him, because you've basically failed her.

Look up the video "Sunny Lane teaches you how to eat pussy." It's some old porn star eating out sunny lane and explaining everything you need to do to make a girl orgasm through oral sex.

Once you master that, your girlfriend is yours forever.
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>>16735228
Exceptions do not make the rule shitforbrains
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>>16735500
There is, but auto update is disabled by default on a phone.
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>>16734572
Is she 18? Or is she 26?

Anybody over the age of 20 that's obsessed with disney needs to be put down. I seriously believe it's some type of mental illness.
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>>16736287
Exceptions cause laws to be reinterpreted to encompass an exception you uneducated double nigger.
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She could be going through a "should I really be having sex" phase. All girls eventually go through a phase like this. Where you are trying to decide if sex is worth it. Y'know with all the risks. Maybe she's realised she doesn't want to risk pregnancy yet and is concerned. And it doesnt matter how safe you are contraception only lowers the chance of pregnancy. Best thing to do is talk to her how she feels about sex. Also after 25 female sex drive starts going down.
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>>16734673
Lol this is opposite.
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>>16734572
yeah if you're that shallow. the relationship only hinges on sex apparently. let her know and see if she dumps you. if not, you're both at the same level
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>>16734572
She's broken and letting you fix her, be happy she lets you fuck and use that to see what she likes and doesn't, so you can initiate sex a bit easier after. But yeah, she's probably hurt and broken but don't ask her! Enjoy Disney and cupcake cuddles.
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>>16734572
just print this out and give it to her, she will understand.
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>>16735517
>I know, man. I know. But now I'm at the point where *I* want to cheat, which is something I never thought I'd do.
Have you communicated with hey at all about your sex drives? You need to talk this out with her, but don't be pushy. She deserves that much. There are many guys that would KILL for the girl you have.
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>>16737067
On computer. I don't even have update, let alone auto-update. Also, I have to post my comments at the top. No box appears when I click a post #.

>>16736210
>You want some /adv/ice? Lift and get back in the game. If she won't make you happy then maybe there's someone who will. Ignore the haters who want you to have a dead bedroom forever.
I don't agree with your analysis of her, but thanks bro. Thank you.

>>16737197
Late 20's. Lots of girls like that shit, or have some other thing they love (Hello Kitty). I've accepted that it's harmless in and of itself. It's no worse than all the adults who paid to see Star Wars.

>>16737341
Confirmed for never having been in a relationship with someone where good, intimate love-making increased the bonds.

>>16737381
She's not broken.

>>16737469
I know you're right and I will. The problem is that I didn't realize this was a problem. I too had the attitude that I should relax and not let sex be so important for me when everything else was great.

But now honestly, I see her more as a sister. I love her and her family so dearly and I don't want to ever lose them from my life. It would be great to reignite the spark sexually, but honestly right now I have no desire. I really only want to cuddle with her too at this point--but that doesn't mean I want to be celibate...
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>>16737469
>There are many guys that would KILL for the girl you have.

Absolutely, I'm well aware of that. That makes me feel very guilty. It's like I've got this pearl, and I'm hoarding it even though it might not be the right one for me, because I know that I cannot get anything comparable. She's light-years out of my league.
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>>16737497
>She's not broken.
You're deluded.
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did you talk to her about this? if yes what was her explanation? if not why the fuck dont you do it?
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>>16737566
Tell me more about someone you don't know.

>>16737713
Like I said I've lost the interest too. I will talk to her but I feel that it will result in breakup
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+1 for "Talk to HER about it first."
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>>16737721

It absolutely doesn't need to lead remotely in that direction.

Just sit her down and say," Hon, I love you dearly and you are more important to me than anything else, but we've got to figure out what's going on between us sexually. We can be better."
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>>16734572

exhaust all options. everything from
>for everytime we fuck, i give you a back massage or (insert other favor she desperately wants here)

to

>going out of your way to find out what is stopping her from wanting to be sexual and fixing it.
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>>16737739
I'll give it a shot the prob is I've lost interest too and I don't know if I can reignite it. I honestly wish I could keep her as my best friend and fuck other people, but I know that's not an option.

And I know one day I'll regret that I can't find a good woman. Just the mirror predicament of the average American slut
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Youre not exciting her OP. Cupcakes are turning her on more for fucks sake
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>>16737752

Eh, not everything is destined to work. I'd say that if the sex was the only problem I'd work real hard to fix or get over it. But if your passion for the whole relationship is evaporated, best to just move on for both of you.

Well, good luck either way, just make sure whatever you do is for the right reasons and not just a "what if the grass is greener" thing.
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>>16737775
My passion for a romantic relationship yes, but not my passion for a friendship. Unfortunately I know she's not one who would remain friends with me. She'll be too broken hearted
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>>16735491
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>>16737824
That's what you get for breaking her heart
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> why are women such sluts and whores, stupid women
> given a qt3.14 chaste girlfriend who loves him
> I wish I had a slutty whore
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>>16738077
>iknowrite.jpg

I've literally been overlooking this for years because I don't want to be the male version of pic related.

>>16738072
>that's what you get for breaking her heart
and how could I avoid this? by just being an insufferable asshole until it wanes on her and is slow and painful enough to the point that *she* falls out of love with *me*?

that's manipulative. and a great way to waste several more years of a good woman's life. it's not like i've set out to break her heart. I've done literally everything I can to help her in every way.
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>>16734572
Is she on the pill?

When I was on birth control it super worked in that I never felt like having sex anyway.

Birth control can be tricky; it has differing effects depending on the individual. This is something to consider, since it's possible that her hormones are being fucked with.
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>>16738300
interesting point, since switching pills turned my ex into a psycho. weird that i never thought of that in my current situation i guess?

she did get on BC when we started dating, but it's a shot she gets every 3 months. I don't really trust it 100% desu so i pull out.
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>>16734572
Sex is a big deal in a relationship you both need to be in the same page of that aspect for the relationship

Go to a relationship doctor thing so you guys get some help on that, talk about it

try to fix the shit before saying "fuck this im out of here"
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