sitting in the library I started fantasizing about girls like I usually do. I thought about this one chubby girl and I thought about doing things to her in the elevator. her scent, the type of her panties, her hair, her lips and warm tongue, all of these things that I was imagining got me stiff pretty quickly. however, the moment I started drifting to the actual deed of penetration, I almost immediately lost my hard on.
that's when I realized that while I'm attracted to girls, I'm not actually attracted to pussy. like the thought of making out with a hot girl is 10 times more erotic than the thought of penetrating her.
any other guys like this? I'm worried about my sexual psyche and if it's healthy to be like this. desu I masturbate to tranny porn more than incidentally. hence my concern.
thanks for reading.
Too much sex or porn maybe. I had loads of sex (I mean loads, I slept with any girl, even ugly sluts) last year and I went from a guy who really liked women to a guy who can't get off without fantasizing about rape or rough sex. The more I fuck women the more I hate them and I don't even know why. They haven't done anything to me and it only happened once I started fucking sluts everyday. I've fantasized about beating women to deathwhile I fuck them and shit like that. It's pretty scary and my psychologist pretty much told me that I was having sex so much my brain wasn't excited by it anymore and used violence to stimulate me. Maybe you look at too much porn so now pussy isn't anything special to you but trannys are because they aren't the same shit you've seen time and time again. Not having sex has been what's helped me the most, I can actually see women as more than worthless sluts who are alive to get me off. I don't know op, I'd give avoiding sex or porn a shot, it's what's helped me a shit load. I doubt I'll ever be back to normal again but I definitely don't hate women as much as I did.
I don't get off to it anymore.
It was only when traditional sex did nothing for me. Pretty sure if I were gay I'd be in the same boat but with men. I'd take being gay over having fetishes that make me want to blow my brains out.
Just stop looking at porn, don't fap when bored and think about women you like in a way that you also recognize they're human beings (that suffered, learned, made mistakes and have or struggle for dignity).
I had (and still have I think) death grip and felt bad for my girlfriend since while I can get erect I feel so little during the act, I felt so bad I entered some kind of dumb philosophical trance while fucking and I realized all the things in our lives that led to that very moment of being just animals and I don't know that makes me feel closer to humanity and my SO so much that I can get off to that.
You just a guy with a good head on his shoulders. No problem with that. Most guys think it's cool to fuck girls, but what they don't tell you are all of the headaches of wondering whether you caught something, or all of the horrible hook ups where the girl smells like ass, or that she doesn't brush her teeth, or that she rarely bathes, does drugs and doesn't take care of herself, etc.
You want a girl. There's nothing wrong with that. What other people fail to tell you is that the only "girls" they "fuck" with, are girls with a shit load of problems. Girls that fuck on the first or 3rd date within a month are easy girls. Easy girls can be literally disgusting if they don't wash or take care of themselves. And that is just a lot of stress and headaches for you. The only guys that can really enjoy that are really desperate men that'll fuck ANYTHING.
I should know. Some hook ups aren't bad, and it's usually university girls. But I hooked up with one chick who literally smelled disgusting. And I am talking about her vagina. It smelled like ass. I couldn't do it. It was the worst and I don't think I am ever going to just have sex with women without knowing them ever again. Hook ups are nasty. There's nothing wrong with you OP.
Stinky girls is such a huge thing nobody talks about. I've smelled pussy that's more sour than spoiled milk. i fingered this chick I met a slightly stooped concert and I dry heaved half way through it kek.
Hooking up is a pretty big gamble sometimes. Even the tiny cute girls can have fat girl pussy stank.
You're normal. The actual mechanics of taking your penis and squishing it up against her vagina until one or both go "splooey" is literally the LEAST important part of having sex. In fact, learning to not overvalue the in-out-penis-in-vagina bullshit is a big part of being good at sex. The other shit that we usually think of as extraneous, like making out (before and during), the foreplay, the teasing & dirty talking (or whispering sweet nothings into her ear, you know, whatever you're into), above all the emotional connection between the two of you, is way more important, not just to making the sex meaningful but to making it physically pleasurable. For both partners, not just the chick!
Almost nobody thinks that genitalia are attractive. They're weird looking. When you get a girlfriend and have sex with her, focus on her, not her vagina. Because after all, you're not having sex with a vagina, you're having sex with a real life cute girl who you presumably like and maybe even love; your dick & her vagina are just the means by which you do it. Reducing sex to a hard penis hammering in and out of a receptive vagina is what porn does. Bad porn, even -- the good stuff usually features more of a connection. Don't fuck like a bad porn star, fuck like a regular person.
Don't stress about this. When you hook up with a girl you're really attracted to and really like you won't have trouble not focusing on the squishy downstairs mechanics of the deed. You'll be fine.