>every birthday / xmas I go out of my way get her a gift she wants
>she doesn't even have enough money to get me anything I want
>get her $130 camera
>she gets me a sweater and 2 free posters from her friend
>all I wanted was a poster of my fav movie Blade Runner
I feel like she just fucking doesn't give a flying fuck. She never really listens. She blabs her mouth every time we hangout. talks about all sorts of subjects, when we first started dating she would talk about some guy she would rather be with. Claims he's not a problem is just her thought about him.
IT just feels like she doesn't really want to date me she just wants to get fucked and cuddled.
Whenever I get frustrated and want my space she just cries and says "why do I keep screwing up?"
wtf is wrong with women?
>expects gifts from significant other just because you gave gifts to them
you're a giant douchebag bro
if she's so annoying and such a shitty girlfriend break up with her instead of keeping your holier than thou attitude around
we both said $100 to spend on each other for xmas.
this is more then me being a spoiled brat.
>both communicate on what we want
>I don't get listened to at all
>ask for something that is $10
>specifically mention what I want
>get 2 posters of 2 random movies I've never seen
2.5 years of dating. she has no money to move in. she wants to go on vacation , we can't she has no money. she went a year without working.
If she has no money and you know that, and you still expect her to spend money on you, then your expectations are not reasonable. They may be if you're with someone who can afford to spend more, but you're not.
>try to make it easy for her
>look the other way while bullshit happens
on our 2 year anniversary she didn't given stick to our plans of making diner. She went off to hangout with a friend and visit a friend working at a restaurant. wait for her for 4 hours.
all I fucking wanted was a $10 blade runner poster for xmas.
I even said if she can't do $100. that's just the limit.
theres no fucking wait she couldn't of just fucking listened and bought the one thing I REALLY asked for for fucking $10.
During our anniversary dinner she brings up racially driven conversations that I have told her I don't want to talk about.
why the fuck can't she listen? I don't set my expectation high.
>I even said if she can't do $100. that's just the limit.
And she obliged and spent under the limit. Stop fucking complaining that she didn't spend as much as you did if you told her it was okay if she didnt.
thats not the issue. money isn't the issue.
its someone that isn't a responsible adult and have a job after I asked for her to get one. Even when she complained about not having money.
the issue I have is that she can't listen.
>she mentions she wants a camera months before xmas
>remember it for months
>before xmas tell her what I want
>don't even get anything close to it
Of course she wouldn't get you the one thing you repeat to her, that takes all the fun out of gift giving and you over gave on the limit. You are both retarded and deserve each other.
she knows its my fav movie. I specifically asked for it for xmas. my walls are bare in my room. I told her the store. I said it was about $10. she kept asking me for weeks what I wanted for xmas. I even showed her it.
its like she just wants to screw up and be sad. that's honestly what I think she does.
look for advice. maybe someone has been through this.
am I wrong for thinking a relationship is 3 people? you, her and the relationship. I try my hardest to make it fun and so we can both make each other happy, motivate each other, go after our dreams and have fun.
at times in the relationship I just feel like a class she skipped over or a school project she left to the last minute.
Here's your advice: put up with it or break up. We know you won't break up because if you were going to, you would have done it ages ago. So that leaves the first option: put up with it.
I try to understand and be patient with her. then my frustration meter just goes up. I get mad at her and we get in a fight.
then she just cries. I stick to my guns on not wanting to hangout and wanting her to go home. She just cries more and asks
>"why do I keep screwing this up"
then we make up and it gets swept under the rug and its only countdown till it happens again.
I think after 2.5 years she knows how to push my emotional buttons
>I think after 2.5 years she knows how to push my emotional buttons
i'm no psychologist, but it sounds that you have built up so much resentment that any little thing she does makes you mad
you still feel bitter from stuff that happend a long time ago
>when we first started dating she would talk about some guy she would rather be with
I guess I hold on to them as examples of just bullshit. it doesn't make sense to me.
I have told her, even with that scenario. That some convo's are for her friends and not for me.
Then she doesn't listen and just keeps blabbing her mouth. Even when I've told her times that I don't feel comfortable talking about it.
it feels as if she thinks her emotions/feelings are more important then mine. there is no reason she can't respect my requests. I don't ask for much. infact I make them pretty simple
perhaps since this is my first real relationship and not her first maybe I put too much effort into it?
for her she might not see it as that important just another guy she is dating. As for me I see her as my world.
maybe my years of not dating has over blown my expectation?