Where can I meet a guy to have a relationship with? How do I get a boyfriend? I have no romantic/sexual experience whatsoever and I'm in my 20's, I'm getting increasingly frustrated.
>inb4 "just go to a bar" or "just go on a dating site"
I want an actual relationship with a respectable guy and then to lose my virginity to him. People on dating sites are either too far away from me or only care about sex. Online dating is not popular in my country. Men in bars are only looking for sex.
PS: I have no friends to rely on, am socially awkward and painfully ugly
You now realize relationships are about sex
If you occupy close proximity with someone and aren't having sex its called friendship
Perhaps that's what you desire instead
Go outside to things that interest you or hang out with friends and co-workers more. This widens your social net and provides you with more opportunities to meet someone.
There is no easy answer. Everyone who is in a relationship bumped into their mate somewhere. All you can do is try to bump into more people.
>I want an actual relationship with a respectable guy.
There are too types of guys.
Guys who get laid.
And respectable guys. Who get respect. And nothin' more. With all the girls wishing more guys were like them, but none ever wanting to be with them.
Being not-respectable works for guys.
I mean shitfuck, it's such a rigged game... if we aint at bars tryin' to pull, then we're "nice guys" who're just "acting" to try and con sex.... Because we all just "want one thing".
No ,seriously, honestly, answer me this?
What is in it for a guy to be "respectable"? He'll just be treated like some creep anyway... at least if he's creepin in bar he knows he'll deserve to be treated that way.
So... bitch... my /adv/ice is to grow the fuck up. There is no prince charming, chivalry is dead, and women hate men and men hate women.
Either get dicked or die alone.
>Where can I meet a guy to have a relationship with?
Public locations. Clubs, bars, secret societies.
>How do I get a boyfriend?
>PS: I have no friends to rely on, am socially awkward and painfully ugly
Get yourself some friends.
Social awkwardness is fine so long as you don't focus on it during conversations. Men often find it endearing.
Ugly is fixable and can be compensated with a good personality. Ugly and funny > pretty and humorless.
I said I want a respectable guy. Not a NEET who pisses in bottles and jacks off to his anime waifu.
Nice try, but I actually go weeks without leaving the house or talking to people outside family so once again. Nice try.
Aren't you a nice person
All guys want sex. It's natural. We're all sexual creatures. Man and woman, that being said. 2-3 months is a long time in today's age to start fucking, especially if you're old enough to go to a bar.
Maybe lower your standards a little bit and give the standard "nice guy" a go, however that's easier said than done. Most guys who are respectable have more important shit than to pick up chicks at a bar, they're trying to establish themselves.
>I mean shitfuck, it's such a rigged game... if we aint at bars tryin' to pull, then we're "nice guys" who're just "acting" to try and con sex.... Because we all just "want one thing"
You're projecting. I've never been approached by anyone, only by homeless drug addicts on the street.
By "respectable guy" I mean someone who a) is not just looking for sex and b) would take a relationship with me seriously.
I may be ugly and kinda friendless but I have other things going for me. I wouldn't mind dating a guy who's equally ugly, but not one who is a complete loser in every single aspect of his life and has not a single positive trait. The "nice guys" who made and agree with those pics are bitter assholes who go around the internet whining about women being whores.
Because you guys are fucking annoying. Go back to /r9k/
If you're a girl, just look towards your crowd of beta orbiters. I know you have a full cadre, and are just being a user and abuser.
If you're a guy and a big ol' homo, well, uh, sorry man. It's hard, and mostly luck to find somebody. Really, the bar scene might just be your best bet. But there are gay bars that aren't horrible grindr-esque AIDS pits; try a gay bar that's more brightly lit and doesn't have anyone wearing leather in it.
>If you're a girl, just look towards your crowd of beta orbiters. I know you have a full cadre, and are just being a user and abuser.
Yeah, I should have known better than to ask for advice on 4chan.
You're only mad because you know I'm right.
You could approach guys on the fucking bus and it'd work out. You're a girl. The world belongs to you. Stop fucking complaining about it, it's tiresome.
>You're only mad because you know I'm right.
No you're not, I've never had any beta orbiters in my entire life.
>You're a girl. The world belongs to you
You're a straight cis white man. The world belongs to you.
>You're a straight cis white man.
I'm not though. Perhaps you should go back to your Tumblr hugbox if you can't handle the lightest realtalk and the smallest bantz from literal nigger faggots, sweetums :^)
Actual advice here: find somewhere to practice your hobbies in public, and find like minded people there, or go learn something new at a class. You just have to put yourself out there and not be afraid to make the first move. It's not always going to go perfectly, but you'll only end up back where you started. You might even make a friend, and maybe they have a friend who'd be into you. It's all about social networking.
Holy strawman. I never said I have it bad, just that you have it easy.
Maybe you should go console yourself with some white knights on reddit or something. You seem to be getting into a little bit of a tizzy.
>Maybe you should go console yourself with some white knights on reddit or something.
You're right, people on reddit give actual advice instead of telling me that I must secretly be surrounded by beta orbiters and that I need to stop complaining because as a vagina owner, I have no real problems.
THE SHITPOSTING IS WORKING!
i don't know girl but i'm in the same boat. early 20s, virgin, and don't want to give it up in some wildly short amount of time. most of my friends fuck after two weeks and that seems way too fast, so i end up avoiding dating altogether.
Yeah it's depressing. But I think a decent guy would be willing to wait, the problem is where to find one. I guess I'll have to try to approach random people or like someone suggested, expand my social circle.
In public. Men usually don't take kindly to breaking and entering.
You get to know attractive men well enough to figure out and provide for their romantic needs. Those vary from person to person, just as yours are different from those of your friends.
>Men in bars
Men go to bars because they like drinking and hooking up with easy women. That might sound obvious but I point it out to demonstrate the value of setting. Remember that I said you have to go out in public. If you want men who have particular sorts of interests, you need to go to places which relate to those interests. I know you're thinking to yourself "But there are a million places that respectable men might go." Yeah. On one hand that gives you a difficult goal: you have to be very proactive in living a varied and active lifestyle. On the other hand it also makes the planning step very easy. If any ten respectable men have between them forty different possible interests, you have a huge selection from which any choice will cause you to bump into at least one respectable guy. So the focus on the bar is pretty stupid. If you think about it, you could close your eyes and throw a dart to hit some place where respectable men will be. Just don't aim for the bar.