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I'm a guy going to reach 28 this year....
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I'm a guy going to reach 28 this year. How do I stop being depressed about being a virgin?
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>>16715932
get a hooker

you won't be getting any prime pussy right now for free, so go ahead

don't buy condoms she will have them without extra pay
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>>16715932
I think you know damn well what has to happen
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>>16715942
Don't do this, you'll just end up feeling worse because you had to pay for something that people around you could get for free.

You just have to fully accept that you were not meant to have sex in this life it was decided long before you were even born.
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>>16715956
thats just fucking retarded

but it doesn't matter cuz op apparently left long time ago
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>>16715975
Not retarded at all, just evolution.
There is a local fitness function which produce your genes and epigenetics. Essentially, there was some environmental benefit for your ancestors' mates to choose them over somebody else.

There are always empty leaves on a large enough tree. Rather than focus on carnal and primitive pursuits, why not dedicate your life to some higher calling or goal?
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>>16715986
that is only an option for asexual people

if he wants to have sex but can't get a gf because of retarded upbringing or w/e hooker is the best short term solution
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>>16715987
The universe is deterministic if he have not had sex yet, he's never going to have sex. It was just not meant to be.

>>16715986
Never research is starting to show that traumatic events in maternal grandmothers starts triggering change in biology that will essentially lead to her having fewer children and her children showing signs of homosexuality, incel and asexuality.

Everything has already been decided for us.
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>>16715956
Men who truly get sex for free are a minority
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>>16716012
My gf pays for everything and we still have great sex usually once, occasionally twice a day. She isn't traditionally good looking though. I've taken advantage of the fact that I appreciate many different types of women. I know for a fact that even if I had a 10/10 girlfriend, there would be at least a couple things I really wish I could change anyway.
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>>16715932
>>16715932
I am 28 and lost my virginity just few months a go when I met my current girlfriend.

I had not really considered about relationship before as I've always orbited towards the more nerdy crowd and live'd at my parents up until I was like 25 or something. Finished with my education, got a job and decided that It might be good time to man up and finally try to get a girl.

Had literally no experience with women outside of relatives, so decided to join one of the many dating websites (this one was similar to tinder) and simply started by practicing how to start conversation and keep them going. Probably the most important thing is to be yourself and not to be afraid to tell what you really think instead of what you think she wants to hear. Then it's just about finding the correct topic that both of you have a lot to talk about like politics, news, hobbies, etc and the conversation will simply lit to fire in a good way or a bad way.

It's late but still not too late OP
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>>16716060
Were you a KSV with no experience in dating before or just a virgin?
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>>16715942

>get a hooker

Everyday I come here, and everyday I read this stupid "advice." Having sex with someone who charges by the hour won't make his life better and it certainly won't raise his self-esteem. He'll still be the same ol' depressed schmuck with even less money.
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>>16716082
Chances are just losing his virginity won't make his life better since it's probably not the real problem
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>>16716068
No experience, so a kissless virgin with no experience in dating.

I had some experience with social interactions however as I have actively tried to meet new people through hobbies and interesting events.
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>>16716082
It could very well have a positive effect. Don't knock it doen just because you are an angry moralfag.
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The obvious answer:

qt traps, anon...
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>>16716098
I'd also like to note that a lot of women (and some men) tend to look relationships a lot differently after they get closer to the age 30 (25+). They're more likely looking for like minded partners who are confident and in control of their lives to settle down with instead of just playing around. Some of them might feel for being the one to take your v-card if they're not virgins themselves but some might actually find it cute and enjoy helping you with the problem.

It's not an issue unless you make it one.
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Sex isn't that great anon, it's not all that it's made out to be. I can honestly say I've had better climaxes when I get really lusty with my porn over cumming inside a vagina. I've only had three partners though if that means anything.
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>>16715932
Stop caring or do something about it.
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>>16716098
That's a little comforting anon, thanks
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>>16716219
Porn makes you numb to the real thing and is also the most common cause for ED these days. Keep it in moderation unless you want to find yourself in a very awkward position.

Found out myself the hard way..
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>>16715932
Don't listen to the sjw's in this thread telling you that you have no chance or that is wrong to use hookers.
Mostly woman use that kind of lame argument.
There is nothing wrong with using hookers as long as you take the adequate precautions.
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>>16715932
Got no real advice for you OP, except that there probably are deeper issues than just being a virgin at 28.

>>16716012
I guess you're the sort of faggot who puts a price on his parents' love and care for them.

>>16715987
Asexuality is not an orientation. It's an illness.
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>>16716273
>Porn makes you numb to the real thing and is also the most common cause for ED these days.
>Found out myself the hard way..
>the hard way

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>>16715932

stop being a virgin?

Seriously, you're a virgin because you choose to be a virgin, so be proud of that choice or change it. There's really not a lot of in between for you.
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>>16716273
>most common cause for ED

Source.
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Hire a prostitute for the love of god.
You will see that its really not a big deal, and once you finally have done it, i bet you will be able to get laid fairly easy by yourself afterwords.

Just treat the girl with dignity and respect, she will probably talk to trough it and you will have a fun time.

I dont understand why people look so negative upon getting a prostitute.
I have been with a few, usually on when on vacation after consuming way to much alcohol.
Its been some of the most fun nights i have had to be honest. And i have no problem with the female sex, i have had over 30 partners that have not been bought and paid for.

My guess is that you need the touch of a female body more than you need to dip your penis in a vagina.
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>>16715932
>I dont understand why people look so negative upon getting a prostitute.

Cos he's a virgin at 28 and paying for his first time? He probably sucks talking to people in general.

I mean, it's not like a fun weekend in Amsterdam with your buddies.
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I reached 28 last year.
I'm not depressed about being a virgin, because I'm too depressed about having no friends, no fun, and no future.
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>>16716531
>I'm not depressed about being a virgin, because I'm too depressed about having no friends, no fun, and no future.

This. Never being laid is a side effect of no friends, no fun and no future.
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>>16716609
28 year old virgin making 70k a year who has a house, car, a degree, and lots of friends. I'm a virgin not because I lack social skills or a future but because I'm fat and have convinced myself that women simply don't want to have sex with me. Which is a fair assumption because who'd want to fuck a fatty besides other fatties? No thank you!
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>>16716691
>Bait

Seen this bullshit pasta about 20 times already, usually posted to derail the thread.

It's dead anyway, so derail the thread.

Also
>I'm a virgin not because I lack social skills or a future but because I'm fat and have convinced myself that women simply don't want to have sex with me.
>fat

Something you can easily change. If your bullshit pasta was even remotely true.
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>>16715932

losing your virginity isnt that important actually. whats actually important is if you A) want to have sex and B) are getting sex. if you lose your virginity you're just gonna start whining about how you onjly ever got laid once for instance.

if its important to you go lose it, but its quality not quantity (even if that quantity is zero).
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>>16716709
OK I'm back. It's not pasta but ok. Believe what you want, faggot.
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Stop giving a shit, that's the only correct answer.
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>>16715932
Everytime I get the chance to have sex, I turn it down because it doesn't feel like she's the "right one". Had a close call in bed a few weeks ago. Chick showed her true colors. Glad I didn't give her my card.
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>>16715932
Just be yourself and act confident.
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>>16715956
Don't listen to him, OP! You're 28! You've earned it! You deserve some relief. Since it's your money and she's consenting, what exactly is wrong with it?
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>>16716273
You almost sound like my bf, however I wish he'd take this advice. I don't care that occasionally he can't keep it up, but it kind of makes me feel inadequate, especially compared to the hot girls in porn.

I care more about how he feels when it happens, and I always try my best to reassure him so I guess that counts for something.
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>>16716878
Who the fuck cares if she's 'not the one'??? There are billions of people in the world, the chances of someone finding their 'one' are very slim, and thinking with that logic is foolish, and will only set yourself up for disaster.
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>>16715942
>you won't be getting any prime pussy right now for free, so go ahead

I guess I'm the exception to the rule.
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>>16715956
that is not how it works and most of them feel like they are doing you a favor by giving you sex. this is why many of them will complain if you don't take them out enough because she feels you are not spending enough money on her for the sex she is giving you.
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>>16717680

It's not even that somuch the girls as it is that you train your mind and body to respond to certain stimuli. That's why people browse porn - you end up getting to look for that one combination of attributes (sex act + set-up + body type etc.) until you find the one that gets you actually excited. It's not like you just find any random video with a girl in it.

That's why it's so destructive, it warps your sexual mental model without you being aware of it.

I'm not sure of it's effects on myself, either. Sometimes i get raging hard boners for my gf, other times it is like "eh" and i don't like it.
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If it's the act itself just get an escort and get it over with. If its the intimacy and love you need then you'd have to work out your internal issues whatever they may be first and start dating and putting yourself out there.
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