Insecurity and low self esteem isn't attractive to anyone. If you're quiet but secure, it's fine. If you're terrified of speaking with people because you're terrified of people, that's more of a problem.
Said this before and I'll say it again. Young women find confidence sexy because they are insecure themselves. The older we get the more we appreciate other types of people. If single I always go for the shy guy. (I'm 30)
>>16713067 Are you 18 or what? I still look like a million bucks and ever since I was a teen I hated Chad. I ain't settling. Most of my relationships were with shy introverted guys and things evolved from an online interaction (I like writing). The so called "confident" guys are full of shit. Look around, the world is shit. Everyone has self esteem issues. At least the shy ones are honest about it. When you grow up you realize everyone is a mess, kiddo. But few are self aware. Be who you are, OP. Waiting for someone that actually likes you is cool, no matter what other say mkay? Or else just become a lying scumbag steve after meaningless pussy.
>>16713991 Oh my god.... please don't confuse being introverted with being shy. I am highly introverted and my charisma and social skills are quite high as well. If he is shy its not the same as feeling drained when you're around people.
Dating introverts is awesome. Dating shy people takes extra effort and patience. Please don't mix us up to justify your social deficiencies.
>>16712843 >Just to be clear, women find shy guys to be a turn off, even if they're not ugly or fat, right? It depends. I think shy guys are very cute, but I don't like it when I have to put forth all the effort. There's also a huge difference between shy and needy/clingy/insecure/emotionally unavailable.
My guy is shy and nerdy, but we've always been equals. He completely opens up to me in a way that he doesn't with others, and I love it. It makes me feel special.
>>16712843 No. Shy guys are sometimes very interesting. when he then opens up a little bit its always suprising as if you were opening a presant very very slow. But I guess that not many girls see that and they just take the guy that is easy to talk to.. You need a good personality though otherwise its not worth it
If you're a little shy, but you still have enough confidence and initiative to engage with them and have fun with them, they'll love it. A cute guy who's just a bit shy (just a hint of boyish innocence) but is still confident in what he does and happy with his life will cause wet pussy in a 100-mile radius.
The problem is that most people confuse shyness with social awkwardness. Being shy means that you're a bit more guarded and reserved around strangers until you get to know them. When you're socially awkward and have a lot of social anxiety you clam up, second guess yourself constantly, and shrink away.
only thing that matters is physical attractiveness. an ugly guy who is confident is boorish while a hot guy who is confident is charismatic, an ugly guy who is shy is creepy while a hot guy who is shy is mysterious
It really depends on the culture. ..biologically women rely on confident men but we've transcend past that. Humans look for personality unlike most animals so the preference for liking shy guys is most likely a social construct due to the fact women are biologically dependent on a loud confident guy ..yes I do realize I am saying bullshit but it's just a thought and yes I can post bullshit if I want to
>>16715186 >Maybe in the past that was true, but now curvy just means fat. That's more or less what I mean. People still use these terms in their original sense when talking about other people. But when you call yourself curvy, it means you're fat, and everyone knows this. Along similar lines, when you call yourself shy, it means you've got a serious social phobia, if you aren't an outright shut-in, and again, everyone knows this.
I lusted after a shy guy in high school, but nothing came of it because I was shy, too. Then I lusted after a different shy guy, but nothing came of it because, again, I wouldn't make the first move either.
The shitty thing is that I found out years later that both of them were into me.
Lol unreal thread so far. The difference depends on who's asking. You see a lot of girls say, "I like to date someone who has a sense of humor" This doesn't necessarily mean you need to be a comedian, but you just need to be able to make her feel comfortable around you. Same concept with shyness.
Typical guy thinks that cause he read online a girl wanted shy guys that, there are women out there who want a loner shut in, when in actuality is that they want a guy who will be a push over and not put his foot down.
>>16713232 >Waiting for someone that actually likes you is cool
It most definitely isn't. Nothing in this world is for free, everything you have or want to have has to be earned and you have to work for it. Not everyone is born a "people person" that's a skill you have to be constantly developing in your entire life. There's nothing wrong with being introverted, but there's a big difference between that and being cowardly. A lot of tumblr age people are also self diagnosing themselves with things like "social anxiety" when in actuality they just never strive to be out of their comfort zones most of the times.
>>16716217 I do. It varies from person to person. But from what I've observed, a fair number of ladies who dated Chads and eventually try to start dating guys who aren't total assholes did so because Chad made a move and they themselves lacked the self-confidence to tell Chad no. It's one of those situations where, really, EVERYONE except Chad loses.
>>16716167 I was a shy guy in high school, college, and clear through law school. Years down the road, a startling and wretchedly depressing number of girls I was into at the time have told me that they were into me. Long after that knowledge was of any practical use to me, of course. Naturally, I still lack the self-confidence to attempt to pursue anyone I find attractive.
>>16712843 this is a misconception op. women don't know what to do with shy guys. women have the passive dating role, and men have the active. all these niggas saying u gota entertain the fuck outa her till she gives it up are beta orbiters trying to have the best compliment on her facebook selfies.
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