>GF starts acting suspicious.
>Circumstantial evidence makes it look like shes cheating
>She gives flaky arguments but I cant push further because I dont have evidence.
>Let it go for now
Now heres the kicker. I cant get it up for her anymore. Like I dont want to be betrayed so Im closing off my emotions unintentionally and now we cant have sex. Shes freaking out blaming me that I dont love and trust her. I tell her I dont suspect that she cheated anymore and thats not why I cant get hard even though it is because I dont want to listen to her potential lies about it
What do. The evidence I have that she cheated is not enough to assume she cheated. I think Im partly getting caught up with the fact that I cant prove she didnt and and seems like she did. Id like to still have sex while I sort this out.
The evidence itself isnt really sufficient.
But its involves alcohol, party I wasnt at, not responding to text or messages, hanging out with one of her guy friends I feel like wants to steal her. Apparently they left the party early together.
Also when I asked if they had ever slept together even before we were dating she said it was non of my business. Then theres the suspicious behavior and things I heard word of mouth. Feels like people were being careful with their words about her around me.
>she said it was non of my business.
that's called a "dodge", which means the answer is something you don't want to hear. Now, maybe she slept with him before the relationship, which isn't a legitimate issue, but it does color her other behavior. The rest of the stuff might be hearsay or indirect, but I would say that a reasonable person could conclude that she either cheated on you or, more likely, is considering it. When dealing with situations like this, understand that even if she's cheating on you and even if you do dump her, you will never ever get 100% proof of it and will have to live with the uncertainty.
dump her or don't, in either case prepare yourself for the end of the relationship.
>Red flags everywhere
>"asked if they had ever slept together even before we were dating she said it was non of my business"
>No respect for you as the icing on the cake
if she is not cheating on you now(wich she probably is), she will do it soon, so no worries, your pain is about to end op.
Look paranoia doesn't just go away, no matter how many people on 4chan try to comfort you. Like other anon said, if the trust is gone, what's left?
If you're worried about rushing into a breakup, take a deep breath and take some time to clear your head. See if you can trust her again. Set yourself a deadline, maybe. If after that, you still don't feel like you can trust her again, break up. Whether or not she actually cheated is irrelevant if you're going to keep believing she did.