>>16683636 >Should I tell her to stop making belittling jokes? Well, what's the context? Give more in-depth examples. I go back and forth with my husband, but we both know that we're never, ever serious. We say some obscene, ridiculous things to each other (that, when my mother heard for the first time, made her want to shit herself with laughter and then cry because it was so mean). If something's actually bothering us, we talk it out instead of passive-aggressively throwing insults at each other.
If you don't like that kind of companionship, or you feel like it might be too hurtful, then tell her. But just be aware that, if that IS what she's looking for in someone, you're going to have compatibility issues.
>>16683654 >fuck you >you're so dumb >moron >you're a little shit Wow. Okay, I wouldn't even consider those "jokes" because they have no humor, wit or merit. She's just putting you down, for whatever reason, and seems completely serious--completely different situation from my own. Don't let her play this off as a joke, because it isn't. She's treating you like hot garbage.
>>16683657 Again, these aren't jokes. She's being an aggressive, humorless cunt. She's bullying you and wearing you down emotionally. You could tell her to stop it, but with her kind of attitude, she'd probably just play it off as joke to play the victim. Or just continue to do what she wants. When someone is this malicious, there's nothing you can do to change them. Get out now.
>>16683669 >I call him a faggot, he calls me a nigger. That's our sense of humor. I do the same with my guy, on occasion, but I would never just come out and say, "You're fucking stupid," or something like that. I might make light of a bad situation and say, "Great job!" and then plaster a giant fake smile on my face while throwing up jazz hands (before correcting him).
That said, you gotta know you. Even if you'd be a whiny bitch for complaining about it. It bothers you and It sounds like "Getting over it" isn't particularly an option. So may as well be a whiny bitch now pretty early on rather then just hold in the anger like a different kind of bitch until it gets to the point of where the anger you feel at her under the surface makes the relationship unworkable.
>>16683636 Tell her. The last thing you want is to seethe inside for years and years, because you're going to end up telling her eventually, whether you like it or not. Would you rather tell her calmly now, or explode with rage years down the road?
It doesn't matter if it makes you a "whiny bitch" or not. If you're not okay with it, then you're not okay. Every relationship should have boundaries that are respected; just because you want her to like you doesn't mean you should just allow her to hurt you. I'm pretty sure she will be willing to give up these "jokes" more easily than you'd be willing to put up with them.
Hey OP, was in exactly the same situation. GF was incredibly sweet, kind and thoughtful but sometimes she would lay on the teasing put downs a little too thick. Same sort of shit.
She went too far one time, and during the making up process I brought up how callous she can be, that she would say things to me I could never bring myself to say to her. She understood completely where I was coming from and it's never been a problem since.
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