Could any femanons tell me what it feels like to have sex with a guy? My boyfriend and I will be doing the deed soon (we're both college virgins) but I always hear the terrible stories of it hurting or the girl bleeding. Honestly, I feel like that's all BS. Sex shouldn't hurt and if you're turned on, have lube, and relaxed; it should be an enjoyable experiences for both parties.
So could anyone enlighten me here?
I was relaxed and had a lot of lube and was in love and comfortable and all of that and it was still one of the most painful experiences I've had in my life. Most of my friends also told me that it hurt their first times (yes, plural), but one of them says she felt nothing. It might depend on dick size (and most importantly dick width) and also on your own vagina. People are different, it might hurt for you or it might not. About the blood: with me, I did bleed but it wasn't a lot. One of my friends says the bleeding was super intense and stained her sheets pretty bad.
It's not that bad. Uncomfortable yes, but I hesitate to call it 'painful'. I didn't bleed. You probably won't enjoy it the first time, but there's really no guarantee you'll be in horrible pain.
It really just differs from person to person.
>Honestly, I feel like that's all BS. Sex shouldn't hurt and if you're turned on, have lube, and relaxed; it should be an enjoyable experiences for both parties.
This is true
If the guy you're with cares about you and isn't lazy, it shouldn't hurt at all.
In my experience it usually hurt because the guy was too lazy to do adequate foreplay and I was too timid to just say fuck it and put my pants back on.
The last guy I was with absolutely did not want to hurt me what so ever so we took our time and eventually had great sex. We used lube because I'm pretty tight and there was a lot of fingering, dry humping, oral, etc
eh, that's not really true either
since every woman's hymen is different, and a hymen being torn (if that's the right word?) is different based on how old she is when she has sex, there's not some way you can guarantee it wont hurt.
Hell, good sex hurts sometimes.
You're having something stuck inside of you. It will probably hurt at some point no matter what.
No, it really shouldn't unless you're into kinky shit, or have a medical problem. Stop lying. Cervix ramming is hazardous to your long term health, you can tear your vagina or pop a vein if you are too dry.
It fucking hurts if the guy doesn't know what he's doing and, based on the fact you're both virgins, your bf doesnt.
It also depends on how petite you are and how big his dick is.
I'm very small in general so I not only was in pain the first time, but several times after as well.
I bled all over the place the first time, and for a few days after (just spotting, not like huge period blood)
There are too many factors to just dismiss it as "it's all just crap" considering millions of women report pain and bleeding.
Just make sure he turns you on enough beforehand,lots of touching and foreplay. It does feel a little uncomfortable when it goes on initially but you'll get used to it and it will feel good. I even came during my first time.
Use lube (water based preferably with no glycerin because it cause yeast infections. never use flavored lube for anything except oral), make sure you're relaxed enough. The vagina expands when it's aroused, it shouldn't hurt
>hymen being torn
the hymen isn't torn when having sex, there is already a hole that dilates accordingly to excitation
if something is torn, it's not how you shoudl do it
it'll be awkward and moderately painful starting out, if you're not probably prepped and turned on or hes not gentle, its gonna hurt like fuck for a long while. After time it just becomes discomfort. With practise it becomes 'pleasurable'.