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How can a person get over the guilt of having cheated on their partner? I love my partner, but before we got serious I cheated and feel extremely bad... I can't tell her though, or it'll break her heart. So, what do I do?
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>>16678700
Either confess immediately or take it to your grave. Whatever you do, don't wait and confess or do anything that'll get you found out. That's basically guaranteed break up then.
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>>16678700
Just forget about it and move on. It's in the past and bringing it up is going to hurt her as much as if you did it yesterday.
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>>16678700
Not telling her hurts her more. You're basically keeping her trapped in a lie. She deserves to know so that she can make her own informed choice.
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>>16678718
But when I done it I wasn't even serious about her. That's why it's terrorising me now and eating at my soul
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>>16678736
It doesn't matter. The point still stands.
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>>16678736
If you're serious about her, you have to tell her. You'll relieve your guilt, no fear of her finding out about it from someone else, and the foundation will be solid.

Considering it was early in the relationship, and neither of you were certain how serious it would become, she will most likely be understanding.

Don't fuck up again.
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>>16678718
This is completel bullshit. She isn't living a lie. She doesn't have anything to choose - it's in the past and has no bearing on the present or future.
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>>16678765
Do I really need to tell her though? I'm 100% sure if I don't then she will never find out
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>>16678765
Don't fucking tell her anything unless she finds out, and then you do what this anon suggests.

Why create pain and suffering from nothing? If anon feels guilty then that's punishment for anon. That will pass but why punish her for something she didn't do - and for something in the past.
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>>16678773
That right there is the bullshit. She thinks she's with someone faithful as that's what OP has said and implied when he entered an exclusive, monogamous relationship with her. The past absolutely has to do with the present and future as it's the best predictor of the two.

If your partner cheated on you, wouldn't you want to have the right to know and make your own choice? Or would you rather be a cuck.
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>>16678779
You should tell her if you're serious about a future with her. The guilt will eat away at you, her, and the relationship.

Subconsciously, you will act out, and may attempt to sabotage the relationship.

>>16678781
It isn't about punishment, but making it work long-term.
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Its all about the guilt.
Why are we still here? Just to suffer? Every night, I can feel my leg... and my arm... even my fingers. The body I've lost... the comrades I've lost... won't stop hurting... It's like they're all still there. You feel it, too, don't you? I'm gonna make them give back our past.
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>being consumed by guilt

Couldn't be me
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>>16678700
what anime is that
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>>16678964
Lain
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