How can a person get over the guilt of having cheated on their partner? I love my partner, but before we got serious I cheated and feel extremely bad... I can't tell her though, or it'll break her heart. So, what do I do?
If you're serious about her, you have to tell her. You'll relieve your guilt, no fear of her finding out about it from someone else, and the foundation will be solid.
Considering it was early in the relationship, and neither of you were certain how serious it would become, she will most likely be understanding.
Don't fuck up again.
Don't fucking tell her anything unless she finds out, and then you do what this anon suggests.
Why create pain and suffering from nothing? If anon feels guilty then that's punishment for anon. That will pass but why punish her for something she didn't do - and for something in the past.
That right there is the bullshit. She thinks she's with someone faithful as that's what OP has said and implied when he entered an exclusive, monogamous relationship with her. The past absolutely has to do with the present and future as it's the best predictor of the two.
If your partner cheated on you, wouldn't you want to have the right to know and make your own choice? Or would you rather be a cuck.
You should tell her if you're serious about a future with her. The guilt will eat away at you, her, and the relationship.
Subconsciously, you will act out, and may attempt to sabotage the relationship.
It isn't about punishment, but making it work long-term.
Its all about the guilt.
Why are we still here? Just to suffer? Every night, I can feel my leg... and my arm... even my fingers. The body I've lost... the comrades I've lost... won't stop hurting... It's like they're all still there. You feel it, too, don't you? I'm gonna make them give back our past.