5 years ago I met a guy while travelling. He's from the US, I'm from Europe. He was 23, I was 18.
We "dated" for a week, and it was wonderful, but we agreed that there was no point at being in a LDR with that amount of distance.
We still talk very often. He's awesome and I adore everything about him. We kept things in friendly terms, and nothing sexual happened after that week. I dated other guys, he dated other girls, but we still like each other a lot.
He told me he has a chance to move closer to me. He said he'd do it mostly to be with me. He wants to visit me before that, to see if we still have that connection, and then eventually move here to give us a chance.
Is it worth it, for him? Am I going to ruin his life? There's nothing I want more than dating him, but I feel selfish.
Well, do you think you still want to be with him? If he's willing to just come on a visit, give that a shot and see how you feel?
If the spark is still there, I say go for it. Better to have taken the opportunity than not.
I do. I really like him, we had a great connection and, even thinking about it as rationally as I can, he's pretty much exactly the kind of person I want to be with.
I am probably just overthinking this, I've been waiting to see him for years and now that things might get real I'm terrified.
>Have you tried skyping him?
We talk on skype at least once a week, text a bit pretty much daily. We have a really great friendship, and we still have a lot of fun and everything.
How are things with your girl?
I'm not a robot tripfag, just a non-robot one. It won't work because it never does, you didn't have much of a direct, face to face contact. Both of you most likely expect more than shall happen, he'll cone to you and feel disappointed or you'll realise 'the relationship' was easier as a long distance thing. Life ain't a romantic comedy, getting your hopes up over a starcrossed puppy love is foolish.
I am 100% sure it isn't going to be as it is now, and I don't expect things to be like that.
We aren't going to move in together, if he decides to move; he's going to get his own house and we're going to date like normal people for a while. After that, we'll see.
I know I have feelings for him and I most likely idealize him based on the person he is on the phone because we dated for very little, but I hope that things will be natural and will develop nicely.
I hope it is, but I don't now. That's why I am asking.