>be tomboy hermaphrodite with mostly functional penis
>boyfriend is catholic to some degree
>3 months into dating, he comes back from vacation
>we have sex
>he insists on sucking my penis
>I'm not really comfortable with that
>he does it anyway because
>"come on, when would I get another opportunity?"
>I think this is mostly a response to my having a set surgery date for removing the penis
>been about 24hrs since
>still not sure how I feel about it
>don't think it matters since I won't have a penis in a few months
>nagging worry that he is a closet gay
>logical me and my counselor assure worrywart me that his qualities preclude him from being gay
>superhuman ability to flick tongue
>modest amount of porn
>often gets boners when hot women are involved
>never gets boners while looking at guys
I don't really wanna bring it up with him either because it seems to be such a transient and unfounded worry. Plus I want him to feel casual when having sex with me. Am I wrong?
He may not be 100% gay, but he's definitely somewhere in the middle on the Kinsey Scale. Did he know you were going into full transition before you started dating? He could be using you as a way to have "guilt-free" gay sex, because he sees you as a woman (and you'll be a woman soon anyway). Catholics, in my experience, tend to have some fucked up views when it comes to sex.
I dunno about this. If my girlfriend had a penis, well, to be perfectly honest, I'd be curious about it, and probably want a go at it. He sees you as a woman, and as another Anon said, "guilt-free" sex.
>I don't think it should mean anything more than it does. Why would it matter anyway? He's with you.
I agree! Like I said, my worry is irrational. I just... it really freaks me out what percent of people can't love me because of what's between my legs.
As another anon mentioned, he's somewhere on the kinsley scale. But from what you've listed, I'd just peg him as bi or somewhere inbetween that and straight.
Plus this is definitely a unique situation so it's not surprising that he's curious.
Nah. The Kinsey Scale is hopelessly simplistic and frankly outdated. Few psychologists have regarded sexuality as a binary scale for well over a decade.
Having hung around here for a while, and having a few friends who are pretty deep into the whole sexuality-is-fluid movement (you know, the kinds of people who reject the LGBTQIA movement for not having added enough letters yet) I can say this is far and away one of the most common 'queer' behaviors I've seen. For whatever reason, a lot of otherwise completely straight men, who aren't at all turned on by male bodies or male bits and aren't emotionally attracted to men in the least, just get curious about what blowjobs are like from the other side. Although I don't identify with it personally, if you don't have any hangups (totally straight people are allowed to not think gay sex is actively disgusting) it's a natural enough thing to be curious about, and lots of these men go back to being totally straight afterwards, their curiosity satisfied.
Call it queer, questioning, or bicurious if you absolutely have to put a label on it, but it doesn't necessarily have any implications for his sexuality. Being a little curious about dicks doesn't make you gay; being attracted to them does. It's certainly nothing to worry about.
>Plus this is definitely a unique situation so it's not surprising that he's curious.
Definitely. There are lots of things I don't really feel attracted to but would totally do presented a opportunity
I'm pretty straight myself but I'd wanna not pass off this one in a life-time oppurtunity to suck my SO cock and not feel gay about it. This anon >>16671711 is probably right on the dot.