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Just need some thoughts/advice

I fucked a married manager at work. She's not my manager, nor is she involved directly with our department. But still, married and a manager.

She obviously has been neglected physically, and I can tell she's latching on to me. I'm not that attracted to her physically or personally. Also, her husband is actually a really cool dude. It may or may not be a cuckold situation, which ironically I don't support or encourage.

I'd like to get some external perspective on how I should approach this. I don't mind having fun with her for a few weeks and giving her what she needs, but ultimately I don't want this to last longer than that.

Should I tell her husband, or ask about their marriage, or just cut it now?
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Tell her husband? Hes going to beat the fuck out of you. Dude....you broke code.

You broke code
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>>16670615

Don't tell the husband. Straight up tell her that what happened occurred in the heat of the moment (yes, this implies you think she is hot, this doesn't hurt anyone) but that you respect her and her husband and should discontinue.

If you tell her husband, your job is probably gone, just something to keep in mind.
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>>16670623

No, he won't. Even if he was inclined. I grew up pretty rough, and like I said it could reasonably be a cuck situation

>>16670624

Wouldn't lose my job, but that said you're right probably better to talk to her about it. She wants to come over after work tonight.
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>>16670640

You can even fuck her tonight, it doesn't matter, you are already a jackass. At least imo, if it will calm her down. Just make your point clear that it's over after first.

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No, he won't. Even if he was inclined. I grew up pretty rough, and like I said it could reasonably be a cuck situation

Doesn't matter. If you kicked his ass you would be even more of an asshole, and not in an admirable way.
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>>16670662
>jackass

Yeah, I told myself I was going to be better and more mature this year. Not exactly off to the best start but I'd like to at least salvage what I can.

Nothing happens in the 'heat of the moment' with me. I'm pretty composed and aware. It was actually a decision I made at the time after thinking about it. Honestly I knew she wanted it for a long time and Inled her through.

No one is going to kick anyone's ass. I'm not 20 years old anymore. I can handle confrontation like an adult, if that's what happens
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Any other advice?
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I'm her husband asshole I'm coming to your address to cum on your houseplants RIGHT NOW
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Just tell her you aren't comfortable with the situation and think you should stop.
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>>16671794

Hey guys, she came over and I was genuinely trying to fuck her when I was struck by the proper decision. I stopped it and had a conversation with her.

Went exactly as I thought it would, the story is always the same, with minor differences in the details. She's a unsatisfied wife & her husband has a medical condition and on all kinds of meds. Judging by how she moaned like a bitch in heat (even after I gave her the lecture) it's been years at the very least.

I'm conflicted. On one side, I know it's extremely difficult to be in a dispassionate marriage, and I wouldn't cheapen the difficulty. On the other side I know there's no amount of reasoning that makes betrayal okay. I advised her to talk to her husband and just be genuine. Obviously she doesn't want him to feel bad, but I think he'd feel even worse if he found out she's been unfaithful. On the other hand she needs to be honest and admit that she's not happy and extremely physically frustrated.

Did I handle this with care?
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You're being a faggot. Get with her or don't. Stop discounting her husband. Telling us he's a really cool dude then that he's on a bunch of meds. Yeah buddy, thats a sticky situation and if you don't resolve it in some fashion its only going to get worse. Which means you either stop seeing her or she stops seeing him.
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>>16672202

Calm yourself. I'm not 'getting' with her, like my post said. And it's possible to be a cool guy and on a lot of meds. He's a decent dude with a mellow vibe. He just can't fuck her proper. I'm sure he was never the type to begin with, and chemicals have zapped his libido and dick.

I'm curious how I can help her because I sympathize and she's a pretty good girl. Just neglecyed and has no guidance.
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>>16672215
Help her by getting with her or moving on. Anything else and you're just helping yourself to a miserable relationship. Which is fine but may have adverse consequences, which I think you know, which is why you're here. Time to man up anon.
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>>16672218

I work with this woman. Mostly indirectly, sometimes more. I'm not worried about anything being awkward or jeopardizing my job, but I do have to interact with her somewhat frequently. Beyond that, like I said she's a good girl and a friend. I'd rather not abandon her to frustration and unhappiness. I'm not gonna fuck her again, but maybe I can give some direction

You're being hostile for no reason mate. Knock it off.
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Question for you OP, not to swing it one way or the other, but have you considered that, although being on meds that prevent him from fucking her properly, there are are ways of treating one's wife to climax, other than with one's dick.

He has neglected her by not at least going down on her, fingering her, stimulating her with objects, for all intents and purposes, making love to her.

Just out of curiosity, how old is she?
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>>16672268

I didn't consider that, and that is very true. As for how to take, I'm not going to use it to try and justify fucking her again, rather I think that's something she should discuss with her husband. That would ne a really great avenue of compromise. Solid bit of perspective though so thank you.

She is mid thirties; 37 as I recall
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Are you interested one being with her? How old are you?
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>>16673193

Sexually/intimately, no I'm not, but she's a cool person in a shitty unfair situation. I'm pretty logical, composed, and genuinely concerned for her best interest.

I'm 27.
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>>16672228
>but maybe I can give some direction
are you a woman? are you married to a guy whose medically unable to get it up? why should you give her direction? because she's sexually attracted to you and you've fucked her before...c'mon, man. your intentions don't sound sincere in the slightest
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>>16673400

Well, maybe not. But I'm not attracted to her physically or interested in fucking her again. I don't really have intentions but would like to help if I can. If nothing else being a friend would be okay. I'm not a professional, and I've already directed her to a few different professional specialists in the vicinity. But I'm not an idiot, even if I have been an asshole.

And I don't need to be a married woman to sympathize. The truth is I have more experience with it than she does. Not that I'm proud, but maybe I can use it to help her.
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Gonna pop this once I guess. Thanks for the advice I've gotten so far
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