Well I just got into a bit of a heated fight with my girlfriend.
So long story short, I was with another girl, my now Ex-girlfriend for about four years before we broke up. She never really got over it, but I was able to move on and started seeing my current girlfriend about three months after the breakup. So far things have been great, she's nothing like my previous Ex, and we really are happy together.
My Ex is apparently not having it. I cut off all contact with her and she is mad because I was able to move on and she hasn't been. So she knows she can't get to me, so she has started harassing my current GF. Up until yesterday she has been a trooper and basically given as good as she is getting, telling my Ex to Fuck off, and basically telling me not to worry about it, she's got everything under control and is not at all bothered.
Then yesterday, my Ex sends my GF a couple of sex tapes we had previously made. My GF got really Fucking upset. So last night she starts having it out with me over that. She said that we looked way to into it with each other, and the sex looked really good, that she couldn't believe I could do such things with someone like that. Holy shit, I was in disbelief, I told my GF I mean you want to act like my Ex and I had never had sex? She was like she watched the whole video and now she couldn't get it out of her mind. And then she went on and watched the second one too! Are you Fucking kidding me? Who does that? I asked her why she didn't stop watching and she said because she couldn't.
I haven't talked to her since last night. I don't even know what to say right now. I've stayed completely away from my Ex, I've done nothing wrong, and my GF got pissed with me? Oh Fuck that. Naw it ain't going down like that.
I mean, what would you guys do in this situation. It's Fucking Bullshit.
There's not much you can do. Appealing to your girlfriend's feelings using reason isn't much use, because feelings are inherently irrational. If I were you, I'd prepare for the inevitable breakup. It sucks, but that's how it is
she is understandably upset, but I think she is overreacting. Your job as a boyfriend is to protect your girlfriend. Your ex is harassing her. Advise the ex, if she doesn't stop you'll notify the police.
I think it is a little fucked up your current girlfriend actually watched the videos. I think the mature thing to do, would be to throw them away. What you do in the past shouldn't be a bearing on the future. unless it's really bad of course.
Are you actually serious? You have no right to be angry at your current gf. Have some empathy and imagine how it might feel for her. She's been trying to deal with the crazy bitch but this is just too far. You've done nothing wrong but neither has she. You need to get your crazy ex in line. This kind of harassment is not okay.
Also do you think you would be fine seeing your girl being fucked by someone else and loving it?
Do not engage in any fighting whatsoever over this. If your GF starts bitching about it, and doesn't stop when you tell her, leave the house and stay away for a 3-5 days. Don't answer her calls or texts. (If you're non-monogamous, fuck some other chick in the meantime.)
When you return, act as if nothing happened. She should have cooled down by then, and just thankful you came back. Treat her really nice.
This is not something you should be fighting over. Ever.
well.... you gotta get that ex bitch away from your lass... so u gotta call the cops on her ass, clearly your current gf wants some of that magic you got, so give it to her when she calms down... tell her that you love her now then bang her. I'd recommend to just make her feel good..
What the fuck...
Tell your ex that was fucked up and that she needs to leave your gf alone and get over the fact you guys are through. What a horrible person.
Make your gf block her number. I'm with your gf... how fucked up do you have to be to be in a relationship with someone who would do that? Sending old sex vids to your ex's new girlfriend? The fuck....
There's nothing you can do about it now. Damage control like hell (i.e. tell the ex off, block all media including #'s, and strict no contact for the both of you) until your gf calms down and you guys can talk about where to go from here.
Because of a sick sense of curiosity. Maybe she watched the first one by accident? I guess she just snapped form the harassment. Really try to be more sympathetic. The one at fault is the ex. You need to tell her off firmly. And make it right with your girl. It wasn't right that she watched them but it's understandable.
Also, give her a better fucking than in the videos.
You trusted her when she said she had it under control, when in fact she was being manipulated by your Ex.
It should have been your job to make sure the Ex keeps her distance and forever shuts the fuck up.
The posters warning about a breakup is right, insofar as if you don't avoid making this an issue - and that includes you questioning your GF any further on why she watched the videos - it will break you apart, quickly or slowly we don't know, but it won't be the last time your GF brings it up, unless you follow my advice and walk out the door when she doesn't calm down. Better men than me will advice you to do the same. Don't ever mention a word of this. If she does, don't give her any more than 30 seconds before you close the door quietly behind you.
This kind of an attitude will never work if you want a close trusting relationship. The crazy ex hurt her so he should try to be there for her and calm her down instead of shutting her out like this.
I think there is being right and being correct. Your right, your girlfriend fucked up, by watching a porn from your ex trying to screw shit up. But would bringing that up repair a relationship or create animosity, but first thing, first. Get rid of that ex.
Gf clearly gets off to watching it and is jealous
Are you guys like twelve cause you sure sound like it if you can make a deal out of something so retarded and irrelevant
Prepare for breakup cause your Gf sounds real emotional and emotions in girls are completely fucked anyway, impossible to predict so just roll with it.
Tell ex you will contact police and she will stop maybe. I say maybe because it's a girl and she might just yolo it anyway
Obviously he should support her and calm her down first. I'm saying in the likely event that she brings it up again, he must not engage.
No matter what he says, she will feel like he's defending the ex.
She seems like a pretty reasonable person so I think it's just the initial shock. Shutting her out now is the worst thing he could do. Make it right OP and you won't have a problem unless you fail to cut that ex out.
This shouldn't be news to anyone.
Still, so many guys engage in drama. It's of no use, you can't argue logically with female emotion. That's why you bail when she throws fits. It's the only way. Obviously you could just agree with them pensum there silently takling it, but you'll be failing a massive shit test, and they'll start to walk all over you before you have the time to spell miserable old man.
Honestly being in that situation I may not handle it well as it's obnoxious to have to repeat that someone is your ex for a reason, however consider from their perspective, if they believe (keyword believe) you enjoyed sex with the ex than you do with them, would that not hurt? Yes it sucks to be in your shoes but the best thing to do in these situations is to say that what's past is past, and if you ARE unsatisfied sexually with your current partner talk about it and be constructive, but let them know everyone has a past and you're with them and not her now for a reason.
I'd say it's the shock of seeing you guys fuck.
You should probably talk to her as calmly as possible and make her realize she's being stupid (without using the word).
You fucked your previous gf, big fucking woop.
If it took his ex giving them to her what more secretive could he have been about it at the time aside from simply not making the videos at all?
It's like you're implying the only sex tape that should be made ever would be if a male chose to record him having sex unbeknownst to the woma-..... oh i get it.
You're a fuckin tard.
she wants you to fuck her the way you fucked your ex.
she isn't being that unreasonable to be honest. I would you feel if the situation was reversed. She was fucking some guy with some huge cock and she was acting totally different then how she acts with you. I mean, Wouldn't you be taken aback, maybe not pissed, but sorta hurt I guess.
a trend I notice on 4chan is if you're a women, then you're wrong. Not all boards are that bad, but here they give men alot more latitude then they give women.
But then you also have the white knight, where women don't do any wrong, and everything is the guy's fault. Balance is the key.
What's unreasonable is that she watched the fucking thing, not her reaction to seeing it, that's totally as expected. It was just a stupid thing to do, and since she's unavoidably reacting in affect, there's little OP can say that won't backfire.
In other words, if my GF's ex sent me a video of him fucking her in the past, I would not watch unless I knew it would either mean nothing to me or turn me on. Of I knew there was a slight change I'f get uncomfortable/furious watching it, I would just delete it.
What did she expect?
That did come off as pretty bad on her part, but maybe how it happened it was unavoidable. Like an email, and the sex video just popped up. Maybe she was just so curious, she couldn't help it. I've been there. She is to blame for that, but her reaction isn't unreasonable.
Yeah, I obviously wouldn't like it, but even if I WAS angry I wouldn't direct that anger at my partner. OP said he was with his ex for FOUR FUCKING YEARS. I downright expect good sex to be happening in a relationship that lasts that long. He has been with the current girl for THREE MONTHS. That's a huge difference, sex could totally be different.
If I was his gf I'd be more upset with the ex that just sent me multiple sex tapes. Like wtf, do they even know each other? Block the bitch's number/facebook/etc. and get on with your life.
That's what I'm saying. Her reaction is understandable.
But watching it - not pressing stop, and then go and watch the second one, when it upset her that much.
In my estimate, she's angry and confused about how much it turned her on.
>I told my GF I mean you want to act like my Ex and I had never had sex?
Of course she realizes you've had sex, but actually seeing it is completely different. You didn't do anything wrong, but your girlfriend's reaction is understandable. If you want to blame anyone, blame your ex.
I think it is easy for us to say what we would do when we are level headed, but honestly, for me anyway, If i get angry or some sort of intense emotion. There have been times in the past I acted stupid, then when I was level headed, I was like, why would I even do that. I don't think she's without fault though. I guess I'm trying to say, I understand her predicament, and I don't find her actions all that unreasonable, maybe a little stupid, but they are understandable.
Keep in mind what she chewed him out about
>She said that we looked way to into it with each other, and the sex looked really good, that she couldn't believe I could do such things with someone like that.
Being upset about seeing your bf fucking his ex is understandable. Arguing with him about how could he enjoy fucking a girl he was going out with at the time is ridiculous.
Basically, you need to take your current GF, make a weekend of just you two. No phones, no contact with technology, be it a weekend away to a mountain hotel and you literally fuck the life out of her until she cannot walk any more.
Fuck her and show her how much you are into her. She will get the message then.
If that were true, why tell people you're a girl?
People say it because they want MORE authority behind their words by saying they're a girl. People react harshly because that is complete bullshit and yet they always do it. People are not reacting badly just because you're a girl, they're reacting badly because of what you're trying to do by announcing it.
>because of what you're trying to do by announcing it
notifying male anons that femanons are here listening to their shit politics and warped approaches to any given situation where a woman should be recognized as human.
listen, I find it really hard to believe if you saw a video of your girlfriend fucking another guy, you wouldn't be upset. This is what OP should really be focusing on, bc it's the element of the situation that gives him room to NOT break-up. Don't fly off the handle because this girl's emotions aren't working in your favor; you should've prevented it from ever getting this far. She's put up with a lot of harassment, but she drew the line. Take your cue and center your current anger on your ex. Your ex WANTS to ruin your current relationship; if you break up with your current gf over something she has every right to be upset over, your ex wins. It's really simple. She wants you two idiots to be mad at each other. The fact that you would even make this post about your current gf, and not her, is a perfect illustration of how she still has the power to emotionally manipulate you. You broke up with her, but you obviously didn't learn anything from the four years you spent with her other than how2makeasxtape.
I find it hard to believe you extrapolated all of that out of my objection.
You are essentially calling us all ebil misogynists and I don't agree, I've been told enough times that girls "know better" just because they're girls that I don't even play along with that argument anymore.