>become friends with girl at work
>shes 10/10 amazing personality, beautiful in every way
>be me, 7/10 at very best, low self esteem
>trying to be her bf for 3 months, falling in love with her more and more because she makes me happy when I'm around her
>She tells she just wants to be friends with everyone and isnt really looking for that, being so stressed lately.
Help me, my heart is crushed. I put myself out there again only to get shot down.
24/M/Virgin for reference.
I want to continue to pursue her because I genuinely like her and would make an amazing bf to her.
I feel we're a match but no matter how hard I try she just doesn't seem to like me. I'm nice, considerate, I'm not too shitty looking, she loves the way i smell, how I make her laugh, but fuck it's just not working.
Am I just fucked? Should I give up? Should I continue to flirt/pursue? What do I do? I feel like my heart has been ripped out.
Also, no, I'm not autistic.
>>trying to be her bf for 3 months
You "tried" for way too long and got put in the friend box.
Two options here friend
1. You decide she's a good person and keep being a friend cause of her amazing personality. You respect her wishes and go find someone else, your odds of finding another nice girl are better than for everyone who bought a powerball tonight
2. You keep being "depressed" and heart crushed, orbiting around this one girl who will give you something she doesn't want to give you, thinking she owes you a relationship by doing crazy things for her and getting your heart broken when eventually she does decide to get into a relationship but not with you.
Option 1 sounds better imo but it's all upto you.
Thanks, I know deep down this was probably going to happen, I just had to try, y'know?
Ive been stuck in a shell for 6 years and when i finally come out I get crushed, just kinda sucks.
I don't know how deep in the friendzone I am. She treats me different than she does everyone else, goes out of her way to say hi to me, smells me, hugs me, flirts ever so slightly with me.
Dunno, I think I'm staring too deeply at it because of my intentions.
Thanks for the advice though, you're pretty spot on.
imo you're just acting like a pussy tbqh. You "got out of your shell" and met one person and you think they're the bestest thing ever, that's flawed. There are other good people out there for you to meet, not just this one girl, you might think they're the end all be all but they aren't. Trust me, everyone's been there.
Like I said, don't try and mop around. It's your choice, option 1 is the better choice, if you do truly find her fun to hang around then who knows in time she'll be ready to start dating and you put yourself in a good position instead of being that guy who just wanted to stick his penis in her cause that's what it sounds like to me, you just want to get your dick wet but you can't.
Good luck dude. I hope you make the right decision.
>imo you're just acting like a pussy tbqh. You "got out of your shell" and met one person and you think they're the bestest thing ever, that's flawed.
I can't disagree with that. I see myself being a little more emotional about it than i ought to be, I suppose.
> It's your choice, option 1 is the better choice, if you do truly find her fun to hang around then who knows in time she'll be ready to start dating and you put yourself in a good position instead of being that guy who just wanted to stick his penis in her cause that's what it sounds like to me, you just want to get your dick wet but you can't.
Weird, yeah she's absolutely gorgeous, but I'd rather cuddle and talk than have sex any day, being a virgin, I'm scared to do it anyway, at least right off the bat.
Again, thanks for the blunt advise, it's well needed.
>gets rejected once
>its the end of the world ;_;;
you know there's like a billion people right
>does all that
>still rejects you
Some women are like that. Don't overidealize her. She probably has some issues. Drop the idea of dating her, hang out with her as a friend if she's so great since friendship is also nice, and find another gf