>get dumped a few weeks ago
>get message yesterday asking to hang out
>we talk about all sorts of shit including her saying she still likes me and wants to be part of my life
>says to not mention any other girls to her because she WILL get jealous
>asks to go for drive to cliffs
>asks me if it'd be weird if I finger her and make out with her
>take her home
>asks if I want to hang out tomorrow
Okay what the flying fuck. Is this the right board probably not. I'm normally from /fit/ and got banned for posting a thread about girls, so I'm coming here.
Am I asking a question? No I don't think so. I kinda just want a female to tell me what the FUCK she's playing at
kek. yeah its best if shes not around you.
Moving on from someone you love is hard if you still love that person. if you want to control the situation then just not do stuff like that with her. Yes she should be the one to stop, but shes forcing herself as is so give her some leniency.
Whatever you do please dont try to get back with her. Your poisoned mind could infect her and youd destroy her relationship with her friends and family.
Yes but you don't contact people you don't want anything to do with to come to your house and chill and finger you in public
That's the part I don't get. Why is she coming back?
You must be fucking retarded.
Some anon before me said that leaving someone you love is hard. Well, THAT'S THE REASON.
She misses you but knows that she shouldn't be with you, that it's best for her to stay far away from you.
>i don't understand boo hoo
its fucking over you fucking faggot.
its ok to still mess around but don't give her any emotional security or attention. use her to feed your sex needs only, and only when she seeks for it
What part of 'she misses you but knows that she shouldn't be with you' is so hard to understand?
Imagine you're addicted to alcohol. You love it, but you know that you shouldn't. One day you decide to leave it for good, but deep inside you still want to go back to it. So, if you have little willpower and discipline, you have some drinks from time to time, but still know that you shouldn't.
She sees you cause she wants some of those feelings that she used to experiment through loving you, that's all. With time, she'll gradually stop needing you and she'll eventually find someone else or just stay by her own. This just means that if you keep wishing to be with her, thinking that you've got an oportunity, you'll end being really hurt in the long run.
Things are never going to be the same, you need to accept that.
If you think the relationship didn't work out in any way, if you could do with a different one, then cut the chord OP.
A relationship is like set of habits. If you fall back into them you'll do the exact same things again, including whatever shit made it not work.
Fuckbuddies with an ex isn't really a good idea unless you've had other relationships since. Your brain doesn't suddenly go "okay, this is only for sex now". Feels will be had and tears shed when you both finally realise you were supposed to be broken up.
>Is this the right board probably not
We're more of a "cannot into normalfag" general, with some "tfw no gf" containment threads to hold overspill from /r9k/, but we do occaisionally do actual advice every once in a while so you're in as good a place as any.
>I kinda just want a female to tell me what the FUCK she's playing at
Not female, but I'll have a guess anyway. Remember when you were a kid and your mum would clear out your room? She'd take a toy that you hadn't seen for years, so long that you'd forgotten it even existed, from the back of your toybox and say she was going to throw it away. Remember how in that moment that toy suddenly became the most precious thing in your entire existance and it didn't seem like life would be worth living if you didn't have it - even though you only ever played with it once and didn't think it was any good at the time? That's exactly what's going through her head at the moment. When she had you she took you forgranted, didn't value you, but since she left you that means she can't have you, which makes you appear more valuable.
If you can hack it emotionally use the situation to get some easy poon. Just don't foll yourself in to thinking it means you're getting back together - if she has you back "in her possession" you won't be unobtainable anymore and she'll just loose interest again.
Oh, and one other thing. It's considered poor form to start a grill thread without using a Pepe as the OP image, and the rarity of said Pepe will be directly proportional to the quality of advice you get. I'll give you this one to start your collection, but you'll need to get some of your own if you need to post here again.
Besides cutting, is there anything else that you do that you think could be problematic?
Sounds odd that someone should break up with someone because their friends told them to, unless the cutting person poses a threat or problem to the girl, or poses a threat to himself.