I'll give a kinda tl;dr of the situation because I always get into too much detail.
>Girl I like for 3 years dates asshole
>Asshole used her 2 months ago just to touch her fucking tits
>No clue what's going up in her head
>Suddenly started gaining weight in legs, arms, stomach and boobs
>Randomly gets bitchy to quite literally everybody but me, she's calmed this down the past few days though.
>Asked me to walk her to a youth clinic by my home
>Youth clinic is where you can get tested for many things without anybody knowing
>Sounds exactly like pregnancy
>And now I know not a fucking thing to do.
She's like my only good friend. All my others are nerds, who are chill as fuck but not exactly helping me get a life.
I've been fucked up for the past year, I've given up my life to please people around me.
I'm not whiteknighting her. She doesn't even know I don't like her boyfriend, and actually I've hanged out with her bf's brother, who is so fucking chill.
And also, I'm not saying I'm her only good friend. She has many of her own good friends. I left out lots of the tiny info and shit since I didn't want to make a 2000 word long post, because nobody reads that shit.
I'm really worried for her, since not only is her life getting so off track (She basically failed all her courses) but she also has a mom that doesn't give a fuck about her and a dad that blocked her on facebook when she tried to contact him.
I just need to know what to do and what not to do, not just what not to do.
If she wanted your help, she'd ask for it. That's literally all you need to know. You can say what you want and you can do what you want, but the minute whatever you say or do sounds like you're criticising her or judging her for her choices, there goes your friendship. I get that you don't want her life to go down the shitter, but she's an adult and she can make her own decisions.
And the fact that you have feelings for her isn't irrelevant either. I feel like you're trying to 'save' her so she'll fall in love with you.
>I just need to know what to do and what not to do, not just what not to do.
What to do: give her advice only if she asks for it. Allow her to confide in you if she approaches you. Support her if she needs it.
What not to do: don't judge her or criticise her. Don't comment on her life unprompted at all, for that matter. Don't pressure her into doing what you personally feel is right if she doesn't want to do it
Thank you for this. This is what I needed.
Oh, to note, she's actually 15, which is why I even made this whole post. I wouldn't say that classifies as an adult, but if it's metaphorically then I guess.
And I do guess you're right, I do kinda look like I'm doing this for personal gain ("save her" sort of deal) so I guess I'll lay off that