Most femdom can be quite good, aside from a few exceptions like straight NTR shit and findom.
WCW I suppose? Though I never actually saw it myself.
>calling someone else depraved
Honestly, people get the terminology wrong because they automatically think a passive role means femdom, even when it has no actual domination involved. Wanting to be the passive recipient of a cute woman's loving affection is nice, but that alone doesn't make it femdom, soft or not.