>sit next to guy in class >try to smile and say hi to be

>>39597260
Did the other times happen the exact same way? Because if it did, then there's maybe something else going on.

>>39597260
>>sit next to guy in class
>>try to smile and say hi to be friendly after three weeks of never talking
>>he literally just says sorry but I don't really want to talk to you
>Shit like this has happened 6 times these past 3 months and they've all been the only times I've actively instigated conversation with somebody I didn't know.
>Am I doing something abnormal here? trying to talk to people in class? Am I being stupid for wanting to cry? I know i'd be terrified if somebody said hi to me but I'm trying to get over that fear...
Dumb sissy anime boi.

>>39597290
Actually it's been going on for years and whilst no identical, people just don't seem to be interested in me at all even if I try to be nice.
I don't know if people just hate me for no reason, I'm certainly paranoid that it's true.
Maybe it's because of my accent?
idk maybe I have autism and I come off as rude?

Plan stuff. Have a topic of conversation related to the environment (class), ask for the homework, maybe ask for something you don't understand in between classes, ask for the school events. Basically wanting to know more about your school, but through people as an excuse to have maybe a little longer conversation. Also, unless they're assholes, they won't deny helping someone else.

About the crying... welcome to the board?

dunno are you hot?

>>39597345
Sorry yes I'm trying to have conversations about class and school.
How are you supposed to not come off as strange when you get excited from talking to people other than yourself?
Would you feel like tearing up/crying if it happened to you?

>>39597384
>How are you supposed to not come off as strange when you get excited from talking to people other than yourself?
Coping mechanisms are for that. I bet a lot have some to prevent adding bad (specially cringy ones) memories to their head.
>Would you feel like tearing up/crying if it happened to you?
Can't relate. But I have things that make me cry, and to prevent making the momory worse I practice with onions. It may sound stupid, but is about control in the moment, deal with is later.

Maybe trying different ways and not looking like a fangirl? Going with another person? Is all up to you regarding what to do next.
Pd: Sorry late response. In phone

>>39597321
I don't really think they simply hate you for no reason. Maybe you are doing something unusual, but not necessarily in a bad way, just something they're not used to.
I would way it'd get to a point where you'll find someone who doesn't really care about whatever keeps you from talking to them, and though I do firmly believe that's going to happen, I'm pretty sure that won't make you feel better.
I can say that maybe you should try a completely different way to approach people. Sorry if it sounds like you're just doing it wrong, and I have no way to know if that's the case, or if you hae tried something else already, but it might help.
For example, try to look around you and the way they generally talk. Pick up some things that the others like and dislike, so that when you have the chance to approach someone, you can talk about whatever will make them comfortable, and you may succeed that way.

>>39597260
Are you fat? Ugly? Are you any color other than white or asian?

>>39597500
Yes I try to not let people see that I'm tearing up by squinting my eyes but my lips pucker up and I feel like everybody is watching me which makes me want to cry even more and dissociate.
I have social anxiety as well.
Do you think this could be noticeable? Cause if it isn't I might just be overreacting. I think that's my main problem.
>>39597533
Yeah I tried talking like everybody else in first year but I found it very uncomfortable and I have a lot of bad memories.
I overheard some guy talking about MGS which is my favourite game series but I was too nervous to say anything cause of bad memories and I don't know if I'd be welcome.

>>39597677
>I overheard some guy talking about MGS which is my favourite game series but I was too nervous to say anything cause of bad memories and I don't know if I'd be welcome.
Sounds tough just to come up to someone and talk about it. However, I do think it's kind of a chance for you to talk to someone. I mean, just going there and say something about the game would be really akward indeed, not only for them, but for you, so maybe you should use it after you manage to talk to that person.
Maybe you could talk to them first in a normal way, like you've been trying, and once you feel like you don't know what else to say, you can use the game as a card to keep going.

>>39597260
why don't you try going to a club, where people are looking for new people with shared interests. or when talking to new people don't focus on one person. People get creeped out if you share too much about yourself or just talk too much in general.

>>39597776
People shut me down within 20 seconds anon, it's not like that.

>>39597791
post picture of hand so i can make an accurate assessment

take a video of yourself and watch it, compare yourself to others to blend in

>>39597260
No one wants to talk to neckberds and manchildren, consider suicide

>>39597984
Do you not know what board you're on?2hehkf

It's not weird or pathetic to want to cry when you feel rejected. That's a normal response. Let yourself express your feelings, it's the easiest way to process and move past them.

It's possible that you give off a bit of an intense vibe and you come across as a social bombshell. Like the vibe you give off to people is that talking to you is *difficult* for one reason or another. So the effect is that people you try to talk to do not have the emotional energy to prepare for and unpack a conversation with you and they do the most polite thing they can imagine, upfront decline a conversation with you.

I personally think it's better than just brushing you off by feigning interest and icing you out politely with "heh. yeah. *looks away*"

I think you should maybe work on social skills in a group setting, try joining like a knitting club. These are great because

1) you don't know to know how to knit, they will help you if you need help
2) you don't have to be good
3) you have something to look at so you don't have to make eye contact
4) you have something to focus on so you don't have to even talk
5) you can talk if they are talking about something interesting and it won't be weird for you to talk because that's what knitting groups are make for
6) all kinds of fucking weirdos go to knitting groups, you'll fit right in

Go. Chat. Learn how to converse with people. If you're not sure how to join a knitting group check

1) your local library website
2) meetup.com
3) your local craft store
4) google "[yourcity] knitting group"

And if you're totally convinced there are no knitting groups in your city, try another social group on meetup.com

Good luck, OP!

>>39598034
Why did /r9k/ get all optimistic suddenly? I'm not complaining, this stuff is why i come here, so usually, I'm disappointed, but r9k seems likes it's turning into a less depressing version of itself. It certainly isn't a hugbox though.

>>39597260
I'm not trying to be rude but why bother trying to talk to people in class?
I chat a small amount to my co workers but mostly just listen to podcasts with headphones in.

>>39598034
Do you have experience with this?
I've always wanted to learn knitting but always been afraid for obvious reasons. I was thinking about learning pottery too but not sure how that works with socialising?
>I personally think it's better than just brushing you off by feigning interest and icing you out politely with "heh. yeah. *looks away*"
ahahaha I know that all too well and yeah it hurts so much.
>>39598079
I thought I was an 'introvert' but talking to people makes me very happy. I always felt guilty back when I thought I was introvert cause it made me excited talking to people and I shouldn't have but it did idk if that makes sense? The problem is that I'm terrible at it.

>>39598070
I've been here the last couple days trying to shine a beam of light onto r9k. I go through phases of leaving because I can't handle how much of a downer it is and feeling like my lightness can't be corrupted by the darkness

right now I'm in the latter. And idk maybe that attitude is contagious

>>39598187
if I didn't have experience with this, it would be pretty oddly specific advice wouldn't it? lol

You can be an introvert and still require a minimum level of social interaction. Unless you're completely anti-social, a little bit of social interaction is necessary to feel fulfilled as a person. Even introverts have joy in interpersonal relationships, but usually they run out of energy to keep them up faster than extroverts do. Extroverts usually get energy from interpersonal interactions.

I also work with ceramics! It's my favorite hobby. It's a bit trickier though because it's more expensive, it's trickier to multitask because it is more technically challenging. I tend to get more in the zone when I'm working with clay. And so do a lot of other clay artists. It can be a bit of a solitary art. Also clay classes are usually 8 week stretches and knitting classes usually just meet every week until everyone literally dies

And also if you don't have a couple hundred bucks to drop on it, knitting is probably a safer bet. Cheap yarn and cheat needles can be acquired to fool around on

>>39598304
Oh wow, you mind sharing a bit of your artworks both knitted and ceramic? And yeah the cost is a big factor in me not pursuing it.
Do you have a furnace of your own? A wheel?
I was wondering what the logistics of pottery is like?
Do you just turn up at the workshop and start doing your work, leave it there for the week and go home? Or do you take home pieces and work on them there?

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>>39597260

You might just be the ugliest thing these people have seen in a long time, which may explain their reaction. If you're that ugly, then at that point there may be no better option than to just kill yourself. Since you're so ugly not passing on your genes will be a net benefit to humanity. You'd be doing a good thing really, and people won't have to look at your face. Win-Win.

>>39598426
>Since you're so ugly not passing on your genes will be a net benefit to humanity
Oh anon don't worry about that lol that's not going to happen any time soon.
I've had friends before but they all approached me and I'm like a mouse in a turtle shell.
Still, If you intended to hurt me then well done.

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>>39598426
>Win-win
thanks for the hearty kek anon.
oregano originally

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>>39598353
I've been trying to find a guild or a studio I can work in at the city I moved to, but I haven't found any facilities that suit my needs.

I've been doing it since high school and I'm not very good but I enjoy it all the same. I don't have my own wheel or anything (I'm mainly into handbuilding anyway) but I'd like to have a home studio some day

The best way to work with clay is start with classes at a local studio until you're comfortable working on your own. then join a guild or a studio with memberships and hone your craft

>>39598304
Also I usually leave them there for a week, but the viability in that varies in region to region. Like when I lived in Colorado, you can't leave something wrapped up for more than a couple days before it becomes difficult to work with. Sometimes you leave something for a week and you have to start over because it's too dried out

You can't really reverse moisture leaving the clay, you can only delay it

>>39598524
That's impressive.

O.p is the class a uni or college thing? People in those tend to be stand offish or full of themselves in my experience. I did a year of one I.t course and made good friends with one person. The rest were not friendly or there to comply with their student visa. The second year was even worse..so many egos.

My g.f goes to a Saturday morning sculpture class it seems pretty social.
I did 3 years of trade classes and made good friends..

>>39598189

Every time I am here, I try to inflict as much pain as I can. I hate this world and everyone in it. I want the world to feel the pain that I feel, so I do my part to make this place just that little bit worse.

>>39598465

If you were mean to to have friends, you would have them. Whether through unsightly facial features or crippled social skills, you have proven your genetic inferiority. People can literally tell within 20 seconds that you're damaged goods. That hurt is evolution telling you you're a dead end. You're not fixing yourself and you're never leaving this cesspool. I'm sure your parents are proud to have a mongoloid as a son.