tfw no BPD gf

Reminder that BPD is NOT yandere. If you want a yandere gf look into erotomania.

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>>39569505
They're not mutually exclusive. I'm talking about falling in love with someone who is BPD and I want them so bad and I'm so obsessive but I'll never have it.

Never have it.

Never.

I can't stop thinking about someone else making her laugh right now because we haven't talked much so she's not choosing me as an FP and looking for more interesting people and I want to fucking kill myself

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Nobody else has fallen for a BPD girl and gotten crushed by the yo-yo swings?

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Please give me some (You's) so I don't feel so alone

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>>39570071
Just scrolling by, but I dont know these feels so goodbye

>>39569730
I am a BPD girl but I have never crushed anyone because everyone hates me. I have read a lot of green texts about robots with horrible BPD gfs, though, so it's not just you. They're lurking out there.

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>>39570284
Everyone hates you? You've never had orbiters love you? Or even orbiters at all?

>>39570071
>so I don't feel so alone

i'm a sucker for lonely people, have a (you).

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>>39570334
This board is the closet I get to human intimacy anymore so thank you, it's appreciated. Here's a (You) for you

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>>39570284
Please respond, I'm desperate for human interaction

>>39569473
no but I thew one away

>>39570710
Why? Why would you throw one away?

>>39570306
No, I've never had orbiters and I assume most orbiters are only looking for nudes. If anything I have orbited a couple of people who quickly grew bored with me. I'm a ghost magnet.

Are you orbiting anyone right now? Is it satisfying?

>>39570755
not worth the hassle and I'm pretty picky with who I spend time with

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>>39570832
I'm orbiting a BPD girl, hence this thread. When she talks it's so nice and lovely and perfect and everything I want but then she leaves and is probably off being all these wonderful things with other people and I hate myself. I don't want any nudes, I just want intimacy. To bond with someone.

It's satisfying when they respond. It's torturous otherwise.

I'd offer to orbit you and we can both be ghost magnets but I'm an obsessive person and I'm already obsessing right now and it'd be wrong

>>39570875
Why do you think she's talking to other people? Are you assuming or did she tell you? You sound kind of BPD yourself.

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BPD is horseshit and you should stop fetishising the crazy
T. Male with BPD

>>39569473
Is there any way to know if you're BPD without going to a psychiatrist?
I don't trust them.

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>>39570951
Why wouldn't she be? She's so nice and lovely, anybody would be enthralled. She used to talk about all the nice boys she'd talk to and how they'd fall in love and here I am just yet another one. I'm so fucking hopeless.

I think I'm obsessive with attachment issues but it's not like I've looked much into it.

How do you feel people grew bored of you?

>>39571040
Well, they start talking to other girls and stop talking to me. It's very clear cut. I wish I could find someone like you who is actually loyal.

>>39571028
Have you had any success in maintaining romantic relationships?

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>>39571093
Do you find that you run out of topics to speak with them about? Are you into anime or games or anything that can be done with two people?

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>BPD girl (also friend) reciprocates feelings and says she loves me back
>wants to date me
>try to deny her because I know I'll be replaced by someone else
>tells me if she can't date me we can't be friends
>I'm begging her to not do this, that I love her but I can't be hurt when you leave
>promises to never hurt me, love me forever
>I throw caution to the wind and we date
>happiest I've ever been
>she's as obsessed with me as I am with her
>exactly one month later she starts ignoring me
>find out she's started cheating on me
>leaves me on my bday to talk to her new fp
>I can tell she loves him a million times more than she ever loved me
>she'll never think about me or what we had ever again
This would feel so less terrible if she wasn't the most interesting, talented, and beautiful person I've met or if we didn't have so much in common.

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>>39571191
God that sounds terrible, you poor soul. What can we do to make a BPD girl we want, stay? What is it?

>>39571093
What would make you commit and be loyal for good, and not swap FPs? Or does the idea of swapping seem so alien to you that it's nothing to ever be entertained?

>>39571187
I'm not really into gaming but I'd watch anime or movies or listen to music with someone. Unfortunately the people I have talked to didn't like anime and they didn't have any of the same interests as me. I think they were using me to get off instead of looking for a friend (with benefits). I assume that's typical for any interaction that starts on /r9k/.

Do you think the girl you are orbiting really cares for you or do you think she is using you to boost her ego?

>>39571191
>tells me if she can't date me we can't be friends

Dodged a bullet there friend

>>39571273
I would commit to anyone who likes me enough to turn away other partners. I'd also stay loyal to anyone who makes an effort to show that they care, even if it's just by asking me how my day is etc.

Honestly I'd stay with anyone if they liked me, even if they are faking it.

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>>39571293
It sounds so alien to meet someone from r9k not into anime. This is the domain of weebs after all. What common ground did you have? And what anime/music are you into?

She says that she cares but the only messages are late at night once in a blue moon, it feels like I'm the last option and I feel so left out

>>39571395
I feel much the same, as long as there was the bond that was developed or at least kept up so that I can continue on earth without feeling cripplingly lonesome. Someone to grow together with.

I'm sorry that I'm already obsessed with someone, you sound like a genuinely nice person so far. It'd go against every fibre of my being to chase you when I'm so dead set right now
>>39571395

The thought there might've been some way to save it and make her still love me honestly keeps me up at night, like maybe I fucked up somewhere along the line.

>>39571458
What are your initials? I'll keep an eye out for you in case things ever go south with your obsession.

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>>39571093
>Have you had any success in maintaining romantic relationships
Dated only two girls, turning 23 tomorrow. Dated the first one 6 years starting freshman year of hs, been dating the second one for about 3 months. Met her on /r9k/ of all places so who knows how long itll last but its been intense sometimes but stable.

>>39569473
Unioronically dated a girl with BPD.
It's like having your heart stomped on 99% of the time. Never in my life have I been involved with such a delousionally selfish person.
3 years later she fucks a guy that live 30 feet from me and breaks up with me a day before my birthday. She still managed to make me feel guilty for her fuck ups.

Upside: she literally started smoking crack and I got to keep the two dogs that we got together.

3/10 would not recommend for those who are weak of heart.

>>39571191
>>she's as obsessed with me as I am with her
>>exactly one month later she starts ignoring me
>>find out she's started cheating on me
>>leaves me on my bday to talk to her new fp
>>I can tell she loves him a million times more than she ever loved me
>>she'll never think about me or what we had ever again
I know that feel bro. She didn't leave me on my birthday but she started ignoring me out of the blue. Sure enough like you said she was cheating. She even had a baby with him. Really fucked me up but now I know to stay away from crazy women

>>39572004
Did you ever do anything wrong that you think might've pushed her away, that's all I think about these days just trying to find some reason in it.

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>>39571710
I don't post my initials, that's not a good way to find or catch me again. It'd be a difficult thing. I'm probably being overdramatic but I'm coming close to shutting myself off after so many failed attempts to bond with someone.

What anime were you into?

>>39572268
No and at this point I don't care anymore. The guy she cucked me with ended up cheating on her and leaving her a single mom. She contacted me while she was about 8 months pregnant and asked if I missed her. I told her fuck no and to never contact me again. I do miss her and that juicy ass though

>>39571273

BPD girl here. Have her take her meds and see a therapist. Once you are on a good SSRI med, you stop having those swings and can be more mindful.

Downside is being less spontaneous and wild.

>>39571191
What is FP?

>>39572860
BPD usually have a single person they focus all their attention onto and depend on for emotional support, the agreed term for it is their "favourite person"

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>>39572531
>BPD girl
Can you actually explain your condition? I've never met anyone affected by BPD and pretty much almost never heard of it. Sorry for the somewhat stupid question anon, but I'd rather hear it from you than read it on some wiki.

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>>39572531
Doesn't she become braindead as a result? Or do you find you're normal after?

>>39571191
this is deeply relateable, one of the hardest feels i've felt. persevere my friend

>>39573629
What's your story my comrade.

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>>39573219
Look up Sometimes I act Crazy and I hate you Dont leave me. Great little handbooks on the disease.
>>39572970
>when you let your fp pick you mutual friends
Makes shit so much easier
Protip: if you have BPD or want to date someone with BPD its best to be just as crazy in similar but overall different ways.

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>>39573792
Am I crazy with how obsessive I am?

Is your picture what BPD life is like?

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>>39570149
Thanks for scrolling past and giving us desolate souls a (You)

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>>39573896
Sort of, in the sense sex equals intimacy, acceptance, power and love/an attractive escape/hobby/tool with BPD folks. Its facetious but still valid.

Clingy obsession is kinda attractive to BPD people too but you have to know when to draw back and make sure you dont give off the appearance of being too controlling. Honestly depends on the individual basis but at times youd probably be a decent match.
>>39574337

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>>39574521
I'm very obsessive and clingy but not controlling. I guess I'm still missing something to make her want me more. It's hard, it's hard.

Is lewd things integral to the relationship then? What if you're not a very lewd person?

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>>39574584
Lewds done with affection and personal connection are. Depends on the individual approach to sexuality but cuddles and close contact are integral. This gives us a ton of reassurance that you find us attractive and desired and whole. If you're not very lewd get lewd or at the very least physically affectionate.
You cant be too clingy and you might want to downplay your obsessiveness. Look for how your partner interprets your actions and adjust accordingly. Its what we do when we want to keep someone.

>>39569473
Yes, yes i do. I'm sorry you had to go through it too.

>>39569473
I'm probably mildly borderline
Makes me wanna kms

>>39569505
I have BPD and I'm a yandere. I find that the emotional attachment caused by the BPD has lead me into being a yandere. A BPD bf/gf is not what you want though, if anything just settle for a yandere on it's own. BPD is painful for both the patient and the people the patient interacts with
>captcha: welcome to mexico

>>39575515
Hey anon you're just like me!

>>39575541
c: Do you have BPD yourself? At the moment I'm a yandere for my FP who also has BPD and boy is that painful. She loves my obsessiveness and seems to show interest in me, yet I can never tell if she's actually interested because both of our opinions on everything changes so frequently.

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Anons help what do I do.

This girl from my uni classes started messaging me out of the blue and has been doing so for like 3 weeks now. She almost always initiates conversation and seems to be heavily depending on me for emotional support. Constantly saying how I'm "So kind". Just last night she messaged me at 2 in the morning to vent her problems and I responded with nice words and so on. She has nonchalantly mentioned that she has BPD.

She seems a little crazy so I'm not really attracted to her but I don't mind being a friend. I have almost no experience with girls at all so this whole experience has been quite jarring.

>>39575582
I do! I understand how that feels, I used to date someone with bpd too. Having two people like that is really difficult, hope everything works out for you!

>>39572531
This, sadly. Dated a girl for a few months who was surprisingly Type A when she was on her meds/seeing her psych. She was smart though and really fucking proud, so when the meds mentally slowed her down, she took it really hard. She wasn't as quick or clever and she knew it. In the end, that was enough to make her stop taking them. When she stopped taking them, she started getting paranoid, splitting, and decided to not see her therapist anymore.

One day, she just glared at me from across a table for 20 min, left, and never came back. Didn't know about the med thing, btw. Only after when the only person she told--her friend--hit me up to tell me what happened.

BTW, if BPD girls always find you, it's because you're, at best, a gentle, calm soul and, at worst, a doormat. If you always find BPD girls, it's likely because your mother resembled one, to some degree. Early attachment style formation is a bitch.

>>39575922
Thank you friend, best of luck to you for the future. My FP can be awkward to deal with but also incredibly understanding. She truly is an angel if you can break past the barriers shes put up to protect herself from untrustworthy people